Depressed And Don't Know What To Do!

[sewak sikh]

One thing I suggest you is to take oil in a bowl. Do 5 paaths of Chaupai Sahib keeping bowl besides you. Then do ardaas in the feet of Sri Guru Gobind Singh saying O Master(shahee shahenshah) with your grace I got this sikhi coz of your grace. We are sinners please forgive and let me maintain your swaroop of sikhi. Do this for 1 month. Guru De Bharose i say you to reply back in 1 week only..I know with Guru's Grace you will feel the change.

@ all sangat we all should take the cover of Baani. Its good you all are replying but the real singh/singhni is who reads some baani and do ardaas for the behenji

[TRUE LION OF PUNJAB]

I think u shud speak to ur fiance about this. im sure he not marrying u for the way u look. and if he was then it wud be better if u didnt marry him. personally like im sure alot of the singhs on here would agree ur problem wudnt be a problem for us. dont feel down bout this im sure ur fiance see the true beauty in u, like the strength it takes to wear guru jis dastar in this western society.

[Guest Guest]

lol all this advice and all of it full of emotions, and love. lol

ok ok here is the answer that you have been looking for,

first of all the man with the longest HAIR in the world suggests 'NEVER CUT your hair, and keep it always wraped in cloth" , I think his secrete to his 12ft long hair or something in that range. His secrete? laundry detergent of some kind.. its

on guinesse book of record, so yeah there you have it, cutting your hair and removing ur turban is not the answer

now for some serious answers without all the emotional stuff attached (although gurbani is the best medicine for any disease, it does not have a strong

effect unless you truely believe in it, or unless the HUKAM is given by god to grant the love needed for the faith and strength to follow it)

First of all I suggest you change drs. ask yourself a couple of quick questions, are you eating the right foods? on time? do you get enough sleep?

is your body getting all the right vitamins? has this problem occured with any other family member in the past?

I googled online, and here is what I think might help, give it a shot. plenty of super models suggesting how to get ur hair up to date

http://www.hairboutique.com/tips/tip914.htm

Best of Luck :cool:

here is a quickie on what you might find there :

Hair specialists have discovered excellent hair growing results from adoption of the Zone Diet which is very low in fat.

Here are some other general hair growing guidelines: (I bet your mind is gonna magnify rule #9, lol u know how our 5 chors always want us to run away from gurbani, and are just looking for a excuse).

1. Eliminate or cut back on smoking, caffeine and carbonated sodas which weaken the body and block maximum hair growing potential.

2. Minimize intake of alcohol and try to avoid foods that are high in sugar or fat.

3. Avoid the use of hot water, hot steam or saunas that may stress the hair.

4. Have a weekly scalp massage to provide added stimulation to the hair follicles.

5. Perform a series of ongoing hot oil or deep conditioning treatments to protect the hair's shaft.

6. Keep the environment in mind. Before taking your hair for a ride in a convertible or for a day at the beach, comb a protective conditioner through the hair. Protect your hair from sun, wind, heat, salt water and pool chemicals.

7. Exercise for your hair. Any form of physical activity will increase blood circulation to the scalp, helping nutrients to flow more easily down to the individual hair follicles.

8. Get enough sleep to allow your cells to renew and refresh. To avoid breaking hair while sleeping, consider using easy glide satin pillowcases. Another option is to invest in a hair sock that will keep the hair from twisting, breaking or snagging if you happen to be a restless sleeper.

9. Allow your hair to breathe. Avoid constricting your hair with tight bands, hats, cornrow braids and the like. These also lead to split ends and hair breakage.

10. If you must use chemicals on your hair, go to a professional and try "spot" treatments to get maximum results with minimal damage.

11. Use "hair friendly" hair accessories like elastic covered bands, smooth hair clips and snag less barrettes.

12. Avoid boredom. If you get the itch to clip, divert your attention with a new or zig zag part, new or altered bangs or wild clip-on hair.

[sikh supreme]

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

I don't what to do and I was hoping someone from this site could give me some advise! Please do not judge me as I'm not a bad person. I am only writing how I feel at this particular moment.

I am a female who has been wearing her dastaar now for over 10 years but I am now forced to wear it and for this reason I am beginning to resent it and everything it represents.

My hair has started falling out, over the past few years it has become really bad in that my forehead size has grown by about 2 inches. This has really started depressing me as of late and I'm beginning to feel less feminine because of this.

The loss of hair has been contributed heavily to my dastaar. I have been to the doctors about it and they have done numerous tests and have concluded that my hormones and everything are normal. I now feel like I have to continue wearing my dastaar as I'm too embarrassed about my forehead although my dastaar is the main cause of it.

I have been googling the cause and preventions and the only thing that comes up time and time again is hair transplant surgery, which is something I have been seriously considering. The other option is to completely stop wearing my dastaar and to cut my hair to disguise the forehead and again this something I am also seriously considering. I love my Sikhi saroop and really don't want to go along this route but it is really knocking my self esteem. I'm due to get married in 2009 and I'm dreading my husband to be seeing me without my dastaar which I know is envitable.

I know what some of you might say...'you wear dastaar which covers your forehead, so what's your problem'? But it's about a lot more than that. I still wear my dastaar because I know it does cover my forehead but everytime I comb my hair I look at myself in the mirror and I get seriously depressed. I avoid staying around my cousins or friends as I'm embarrassed about any of them seeing me without my dastaar. I really don't know what to do!

Again please do not judge me...I have come here for guidance only not to be told my immature people that it's wrong for me to even consider the above and that I should not be so vain and just grow up...etc etc...

Sister maybe its cause the way you tie your dastaar thats affecting your hairline. My views are that dastaars are not mandatory for Sikh females, a chuni will do. But im a moderate, if you examine scriptures no where does guru sahib insist females wear the dastaar. If you look at things in historical persepective also you will find hardly any females wearing dastaars until the advent of the singh sabha movement. So if you feel the dastaar is causing you grief (causing health problems ) then my advice take it off and wear a chuni...problem solved.

[no_0ne]

Sister maybe its cause the way you tie your dastaar thats affecting your hairline. My views are that dastaars are not mandatory for Sikh females, a chuni will do. But im a moderate, if you examine scriptures no where does guru sahib insist females wear the dastaar. If you look at things in historical persepective also you will find hardly any females wearing dastaars until the advent of the singh sabha movement. So if you feel the dastaar is causing you grief (causing health problems ) then my advice take it off and wear a chuni...problem solved.

Well, there are some sikhs who do believe that wearing dastaar for females are mandatory and a chuni will NOT do.

[Guest _Sister_]

WoOOOH...hold your horses I think this is not a dastar vs chuni debate...remember there is a Khalsa whose in distress and need of some guidance.

......well my dear, I wear a dastar, I have big forehead...and i look good... .but only when i am in bana...

My beautiful sister, my first question to you is who forces u 2 wear Dastar??? 10yrs is a long time....

Secondly, Have you decided in your head whether you wish to keep Dastar, or r you hope someone in this forum will say, Bhenji it's ok...we understand it's to difficult to maintain...

I live in the UK, where there are no Sikhs...beleive it or not, my friends have never seen me without my dastar/keski, i have explained to them seeing me without a dastar is like seeing them without clothes...bit extreme...not really...friends who are friends for what you look like are not...remember if u don't accept...cherish yourself...no-1 else will...whether it be ur fat.... slightly bald....dark complexion etc....we magnify ourselves... most people don't notice...honest

Bhenji...you say you love your sikhi saroop...yet the thought has entered you mind to remove kesh...Bhai Taru Singh...lost his scalp rather than his Guru-blessed-Kesh...many sikhs have given up there lives to keep kesh....

Your companion in life to be ....i guess ...agreed to wed u when you were still wearing a dastar...right?...so he loves you the way you are...don't worry...i'm sure if he wears a dastar...his forehead is bigger than yours...we are so tuned to western-bollywood that we believe we must a look a certain way...

Finally...remeber tie your joora proudly, tie your dastar with love , look in the mirror....and say guru you made me yours ....i will be true to u because u love me unconditionally...help me to keep my strength in you always

xx all respect to you for being brave and speaking out xx ...