Problems Getting Married

[newsingh2009]

yep big problem but why worry? girls don't know one thing, that a man's masculinity is in his hair and beard! The moment you shave it off, it affect your glandular system. More to the point, women prefer men who look more masculine, its a proven fact, look it up!! BUT only if you are willing to carry it with confidence. If you are carrying it for the sake of it and the way your language suggests you are angry at women for not appreciating your kes, then they wont respect you period. A women looks at a man for security, when she has you in her arms, she want to be proud of you. no matter if she is religious, the most spiritual woman, a woman looks for a man who can make her proud.

So be proud of yourself FIRST and the right woman will come. We singhs waste so much time thinking about the way we look, why we cant get women etc....when we love our selves (not in an ego manner), we will create the right situation and guru will bless with the right woman. So do what ever it takes to be absolutely 100% confident in your own image and not criticise others who don't keep kes and beard. you don't need to be jelous of them, just remember there are a 1000 women out there, but only 1 of those will get a real man- a singh!! so you are lucky, keep it up bro....

[gracekaur]

Too many Sardars are completely consumed by their appearance.

They are too defensive, too narrow minded and fearful of the rejection they will face from others.

Frankly, what is the point in keeping kesh if you are not proud to do so?

Too many Sikh men don't realise the inner strength, faith and commitment that it takes to keep their hairs and that it is an achievement in itself.

A good woman will value this, a good woman will have the wisdom to look beyond the turban and just see the man that she loves.

Why should Singhs cut their hairs, deny their identity and forget where they come from?

Those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind.

Why should Sikhs care for what ignorant people believe?

How can a man believe himself to be true, if he keeps his hairs but hides them under a cap or a beanie, pretending that he is not Sikh.

Remember the reasons why keeping kesh is so important.

Sikhs are not hindus, not muslims. They are Sikhs, they are brave warriors, and they keep their hairs to say that they are different.

Both men and women should be strong from within.

There are many woman that want only turbaned guys as their husband.

So many of the women that chase clean shaven boys, chase other materialistic and trivial things. Many of these so called sohni kuris will renounce the Sikh tradition, probably not want to live in a joint family and end up getting divorced anyway.

Remember that Sikhs don't believe in love marriage as such. It is about finding a suitable partner for the rest of your days. A person that has the same values and interests and beliefs as you.

I know it narrows down your opportunities for finding a bride, but remember among the thousands of girls, you only need to find one and you will be set for the rest of your days.

All hope is not lost.

My husband is turbaned, nor does he trim his beard and my only quarrel with that fact is that he takes longer than me to get ready.

Being a gori, forever we get stares as an odd couple.

No one ever said an odd couple can't be the happiest couple.

Don't limit yourself to Punjabi girls, everyone knows their quality is on fast decline anyway.

There is truth in one God, so long as you can find someone who can stand at your side from here until eternity, what does it matter where she was born or who her parents are?

Make sure that you are always well presented, dress well, wear a nice cologne, make her laugh and you are already part way to winning her over.

Remember that it is not just you that bares the stresses that may come of your turban, as your wife she will share it also.

SSA

[apnepart2]

this thread is actually giving me creeps. the guy had a simple question about problems getting married to nice decent gal. he wasnt looking for answers about how to attract bimbos i guess. sorry if i sound offensive.

[Papi]

Its not the same in Canada. There, you'll struggle to find the same percentage of local born youths with paghs. We looked for a girl there for me a few years ago. Unlike here, local born sikhs generally do NOT keep their hair

Which Canada did you look at son? :6

[Guest HaRdKaUrWaRrIoRz]

Its not the same in Canada. There, you'll struggle to find the same percentage of local born youths with paghs. We looked for a girl there for me a few years ago. Unlike here, local born sikhs generally do NOT keep their hair.

haain??

[Only five]

Come on have we lost faith in our Guru already. Is finding a marriage partner that hard. Isn't the problem you are trying to look for one in the first place apart of the problem. Gurbani says constantly the Guru will solve your affairs, yet we just read over this. This is what we can call destiny based and will happen when the time is right. The opportunity will present itself, you don't have to look for it. we ourselves try to set dates when I will get married when I will get a job, get out of university and the rest of the stuff. Think about it how much of this has actually worked out as planned. Some go through constant career changes and they never thought they would be the onces changing what they are studying or living in a area, which they never dreamed of. Just focus on your Sikhi and let God do his part.

[MaanBhuee]

Sat Shiti Akal Ji. Looking a simple Gursikh girl for my brother who is very simple amritdhari m.tech in mech and 1984 mov. Born. If interested I can send complete detail of my brother. My mail id is tmaant@gmail.com