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is she feeling a sense of lonliness in her life? maybe she needs to get married? taht can change a lot trust me.. if not, then do encourage her and continue to giver her emotional support, she shud also go to gurdwara everyday and do seva there, that will bring peace to her trust me, take my word for it..

and also she NEEDS to go to a psychiatrist, understand this, she needs to eat those meds, a lot of times its a chemical imbalance some of us have that brings us into deep depression and only meds can cure that, so please please please urge her family and ensure she sees a psychiatrist.. also tell her self not to cut herself or anything cus that wont cure anything and tell her ifshe kills herself she will go to hell, u cannot throw this precious life away, there is a lot to life, jsut sometimes we all dont see it, including myself, but plz do contiune to help her emotionally and do get her to eat meds from a proper psyhciatrist ( not some pindoo dude who gives out meds- idk i heard that kind fo stuff happens in india?? ) but take her to some proper person, i know india has smart physicians who can help

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will do ardas.

if she has told you that she is suicidal ask her to be more specific in what she means by that. To assess her risk find out if she has a specific plan, how, when, where. The more specific the plan the greater the risk. This is not to say that no plan and other signs mean she is safe. Do not assure her confidentiality. At some point you may need to get others involved.

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If you have a lot of negative/unpleasant experiences in life, then your personality becomes negative. My own brother is highly negative due to his negative experiences and sadly there is nothing I can do about it. Believe me, I have tried. But instead of him starting to become positive, I started becoming negative instead :sad:

sadly we're on the same boat......

Anyway, Like others have suggested, TALK to her. Make sure her parents know about this situation. Stay with her at all times, if it's getting serious. Make sure you keep her company, just keep helping bahji. don't give up on her.

Another thing is (if it gets too serious) make sure she's not talking to too many people, with negative thoughts, views etc. I guess your going to have to cut some of your own time to help this soul. But keep her safe, and try not to isolate her at the same time. Get her trust. And if she has no one to talk to, then talk to her yourself......

Vaheguru jeeo

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thanks singho for ur suggestions and thanks to singh who emailed me ... thanks for ur ardas ... bahut bahut dhanwad ... may guru sahib bless you in so much chardikalla that u can always do the ardas for chardikalla of others ...

i have left everything on kalgiyan walle pita ...and i have decided not to follow any plans just ardas and listen to her give her some time everyday ...

thanks singh from my heart for doing ardas for her

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