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Im not here to discuss what Sikhi or anyone has to say regarding homosexuality. I just want some honest advice, less of the preaching.

So I am in a relationship with a guy. I also happen to be kesdhari. A decision of my own, not forced upon by parents etc. Long story short, I was on a path, decided being gay was "curable" or "forgettable", decided to keep my kesh and then i met my partner and now im stuck.

Erm basically i have come to accept who and what i am. And the way i see it, my actions, my consequences. "Ohdi o jane, minu apni tohr niba lehn de".

But...as a kesdhari guy i also represent millions. And though i dont see being gay as a bad or wrong thing, i just dont want any related stigma being linked to sikhi. For example, "hey your gay and sikh, so its allowed in sikhism...etc". I dont want that. Sikhi has and always will be an integral part of me. I can and will not let people associate my actions with those of sikhi. Similar to a kesdhari drinking or smoking or hanging out in brothels etc. I would never do that.

So i guess what im asking is, what should i do? Please dont give me quotes and preaching etc sorry but its no use trying to talk me out of my sexuality. Try not being straight. Live and let live.

Thank you.

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I don't know why you are even posting on here ? If you have made up your mind and want to be on 'the other bus'', then go ahead, fair play, but DON"T mix your sexuality with sikhi. Being Gay or not

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I think its very difficult if you're different from the rest of society around, but I think the same goes for other people too that are different in whatever way, like the disabled, or people who are

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Your post seems like you just want confirmation about your own views ( live and let live) and not actual feedback. Be who you are brother. No one chooses anything. It is all in his Hukam.

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I don't know why you are even posting on here ?

If you have made up your mind and want to be on 'the other bus'', then go ahead, fair play, but DON"T mix your sexuality with sikhi.

Being Gay or not doesn't have anything to do with sikhi. Sikhi is about gurmat conduct. This gurmat can be conducted whether you are gay or straight, white or black, jat farmer or churha, abled or disabled, rich or poor.....etc....etc.........

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By wearing a dastar and having keshdhari roop means you are representing what a sikh is. I'm undecided on what the sikh stance is on homosexuality as from my little understanding anyone can attain a higher spiritual level regardless of race, caste, creed so why not sexuality but gay sikhs goes against sentiments of modest gristi jeevan. I'm not one who can decide what you should do with your appearance as I think deep down you will know what is best for you and what you want to represent. Ultimately you have to decide but one thing I do ask is that no matter what please don't forget your guru and sikhi because in your hardest times only that can help, also just because you've chosen to live your life in a certain way doesn't mean you don't love god or your guru and nobody can judge you...not everyone is perfect and most ppl have mest up pasts but you can restore by paath

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simply ignore this useless thread.....who knows he exists on this earth or not..............

sukhi077 ji why should this thread be ignored, he has a dilemma and is asking advice, and has asked politely. Maybe its your age (you seem very young from some of your responses) but people deserve politeness in response to their genuine questions, even if you don't agree with them.

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sukhi077 ji why should this thread be ignored, he has a dilemma and is asking advice, and has asked politely. Maybe its your age (you seem very young from some of your responses) but people deserve politeness in response to their genuine questions, even if you don't agree with them.

Thank you penji. Thats really sweet.

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