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Here I am going to tell my reason dat y I want to leave amrit.there r soo many reasons behind it here I m not speak properly bcz there r some girlish reasons .

And many other, bt the other main reason is dat there is guy in my life who really loves me ....and he wants to marry me. He also belongs to the Sikh family but he is not gursikh. And as we knw dat there is no rule DAT a non gursikh boy marry a gursikh girl  but I also love him alot, I can't live without him , I want to be with him fr the rest of my life.I spend my whole day on dis topic, I just can't stop thinking abut dis topic , many times I decided dat I will leave him and even I did it also but after some days I again start talking to him and he cried many times dat plz don't leave me ever , nw m totally confused dat what shud I do ....I can't concentrate on my studies and daily routine I think m getting mently upset due to dis prblm. Dats y I decided dat I will leave amrit fr some time after my marriage I will retake amrit and I will also ready him fr amrit and den we both take amrit.

Even at present I can ready him fr amrit bt his family has many dreams fr him fr his marriage so dats y I dnt wnt. 

Nw m so worried abut it, I heard many thing dat the people who leave amrit they were facing many prblms in their lyf , even serious prblms 

Due to dis m soo afraid of it plzzz help me 

Plzz guide plzz plzz 

What to do .

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10 hours ago, Guest Jobanpreet said:

Here I am going to tell my reason dat y I want to leave amrit.there r soo many reasons behind it here I m not speak properly bcz there r some girlish reasons .

And many other, bt the other main reason is dat there is guy in my life who really loves me ....and he wants to marry me. He also belongs to the Sikh family but he is not gursikh. And as we knw dat there is no rule DAT a non gursikh boy marry a gursikh girl  but I also love him alot, I can't live without him , I want to be with him fr the rest of my life.I spend my whole day on dis topic, I just can't stop thinking abut dis topic , many times I decided dat I will leave him and even I did it also but after some days I again start talking to him and he cried many times dat plz don't leave me ever , nw m totally confused dat what shud I do ....I can't concentrate on my studies and daily routine I think m getting mently upset due to dis prblm. Dats y I decided dat I will leave amrit fr some time after my marriage I will retake amrit and I will also ready him fr amrit and den we both take amrit.

Even at present I can ready him fr amrit bt his family has many dreams fr him fr his marriage so dats y I dnt wnt. 

Nw m so worried abut it, I heard many thing dat the people who leave amrit they were facing many prblms in their lyf , even serious prblms 

Due to dis m soo afraid of it plzzz help me 

Plzz guide plzz plzz 

What to do .

How old are you because the way you are talking seems very naive ....?
If he wants to marry you then he knows you are amritdhari and is sikh so knows that it is where he needs to be to be with you , if he is serious he needs to up his game not you leave Guru ji's side for the temporary worldy life with this guy.

If he is emotionally blackmailing you an this is interfering with your studies I suggest he too needs to grow up and concentrate on improving his life , gursikhi and careerwise if he cannot tell his folks about his intentions then he will not do it in the future and thus he may marry someone else under their pressure .

DO NOT LEAVE YOUR SIKHI , you will regret this for your whole life ...you will lower your sikhi's value in front of His family and you will hurt and possibly lose your family's support. HE NEEDS TO STAND UP AND SHOW WILLING until then do not pin your hopes on him. 

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If he loves you so much like you are saying then he would do everything for you. Why doesn't he take Amrit for you then if he loves you soo much? If he loves you soo much why would he try destroying your sikhi path? It seems more like infatuation than love.

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The best thing is to marry him and him slowly start working towards getting ready to take amrit.

When he is ready to take amrit, you should also retake amrit with him and confess your sins to the punj pyare.

 

Don't abandon sikhi in your life. If he loves you then he should start getting ready to take amrit sometime in future.

 

Hope that helps

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Amrit is not a compulsion on you, the way u think is not seems to have a 'shardha'

even if u keep ur amrit as it is for the rest of ur life, still u will not get 'enough' from it because amrit and gursikhi needs lots lots of shardha and prem

thanks

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