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I keep thinking about someone that I should no longer be thinking about and Im not sure what to do? I want to forget them, they forgot me, But I cant shake this. My life has moved on but my memory hasn't 

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14 hours ago, Guest JaiKanhaiya said:

I keep thinking about someone that I should no longer be thinking about and Im not sure what to do? I want to forget them, they forgot me, But I cant shake this. My life has moved on but my memory hasn't 

It takes time, and if u havent gotten anything more interesting, stressful or mind consuming going on, then ur mind is free to roam. Have descipline for ur mind, start giving it stuff to think, create other memories to think abt, read more, meditate, and dont let mind dwell on memories as soon as it does, pull it away and make it do something else

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4 hours ago, Not2Cool2Argue said:

It takes time, and if u havent gotten anything more interesting, stressful or mind consuming going on, then ur mind is free to roam. Have descipline for ur mind, start giving it stuff to think, create other memories to think abt, read more, meditate, and dont let mind dwell on memories as soon as it does, pull it away and make it do something else

It's been more than 6 years since she broke my heart but in the months after God has given me everything more than what I could have imagined. How ungrateful am I? I've given him nothing back in return. But the feeling has always been there that she was the one, he gave me ten things but I cry for the 11th. I didn't realise after this long I am still heartbroken. 

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20 hours ago, Guest JaiKanhaiya said:

I keep thinking about someone that I should no longer be thinking about and Im not sure what to do? I want to forget them, they forgot me, But I cant shake this. My life has moved on but my memory hasn't 

Guruji tells us:

ਮਹਲਾ ੫  
महला ५ ॥ 
Mėhlā 5. 
5th Guru. 
 
ਕਬੀਰਾ ਹਮਰਾ ਕੋ ਨਹੀ ਹਮ ਕਿਸ ਹੂ ਕੇ ਨਾਹਿ  
कबीरा हमरा को नही हम किस हू के नाहि ॥ 
Kabīrā hamrā ko nahī ham kis hū ke nāhi. 
Kabir, no one is mine, nor belong I to any one. 
 

ਜਿਨਿ ਇਹੁ ਰਚਨੁ ਰਚਾਇਆ ਤਿਸ ਹੀ ਮਾਹਿ ਸਮਾਹਿ ॥੨੧੪॥ 
जिनि इहु रचनु रचाइआ तिस ही माहि समाहि ॥२१४॥ 
Jin ih racẖan racẖā▫i▫ā ṯis hī māhi samāhi. ||214|| 
He, who has created this creation; in Him am I merged.

SGGSji Ang 1376

?? Dhan Guru Arjan Dev ji

 

 

ਨਿਜ ਕਰਿ ਦੇਖਿਓ ਜਗਤੁ ਮੈ ਕੋ ਕਾਹੂ ਕੋ ਨਾਹਿ  
निज करि देखिओ जगतु मै को काहू को नाहि ॥ 
Nij kar ḏekẖi▫o jagaṯ mai ko kāhū ko nāhi. 
I have looked upon everyone as my own, however, I have observed that, in this world, no one is another's friend. 
 
ਨਾਨਕ ਥਿਰੁ ਹਰਿ ਭਗਤਿ ਹੈ ਤਿਹ ਰਾਖੋ ਮਨ ਮਾਹਿ ॥੪੮॥ 
नानक थिरु हरि भगति है तिह राखो मन माहि ॥४८॥ 
Nānak thir har bẖagaṯ hai ṯih rākẖo man māhi. ||48|| 
Nanak, permanent is only the devotional service of God. Enshrine thou that in thy mind. 

SGGS ji Ang 1429

??Dhan Guru Tegh Bahadur ji

 

As @Not2Cool2Argue paji says distract yourself from it. 

They were never yours in the first place and nor were you theirs. 

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6 hours ago, Not2Cool2Argue said:

It takes time, and if u havent gotten anything more interesting, stressful or mind consuming going on, then ur mind is free to roam. Have descipline for ur mind, start giving it stuff to think, create other memories to think abt, read more, meditate, and dont let mind dwell on memories as soon as it does, pull it away and make it do something else

 

1 hour ago, simran345 said:

Guruji tells us:

ਮਹਲਾ ੫  
महला ५ ॥ 
Mėhlā 5. 
5th Guru. 
 
ਕਬੀਰਾ ਹਮਰਾ ਕੋ ਨਹੀ ਹਮ ਕਿਸ ਹੂ ਕੇ ਨਾਹਿ  
कबीरा हमरा को नही हम किस हू के नाहि ॥ 
Kabīrā hamrā ko nahī ham kis hū ke nāhi. 
Kabir, no one is mine, nor belong I to any one. 
 

ਜਿਨਿ ਇਹੁ ਰਚਨੁ ਰਚਾਇਆ ਤਿਸ ਹੀ ਮਾਹਿ ਸਮਾਹਿ ॥੨੧੪॥ 
जिनि इहु रचनु रचाइआ तिस ही माहि समाहि ॥२१४॥ 
Jin ih racẖan racẖā▫i▫ā ṯis hī māhi samāhi. ||214|| 
He, who has created this creation; in Him am I merged.

SGGSji Ang 1376

?? Dhan Guru Arjan Dev ji

 

 

ਨਿਜ ਕਰਿ ਦੇਖਿਓ ਜਗਤੁ ਮੈ ਕੋ ਕਾਹੂ ਕੋ ਨਾਹਿ  
निज करि देखिओ जगतु मै को काहू को नाहि ॥ 
Nij kar ḏekẖi▫o jagaṯ mai ko kāhū ko nāhi. 
I have looked upon everyone as my own, however, I have observed that, in this world, no one is another's friend. 
 
ਨਾਨਕ ਥਿਰੁ ਹਰਿ ਭਗਤਿ ਹੈ ਤਿਹ ਰਾਖੋ ਮਨ ਮਾਹਿ ॥੪੮॥ 
नानक थिरु हरि भगति है तिह राखो मन माहि ॥४८॥ 
Nānak thir har bẖagaṯ hai ṯih rākẖo man māhi. ||48|| 
Nanak, permanent is only the devotional service of God. Enshrine thou that in thy mind. 

SGGS ji Ang 1429

??Dhan Guru Tegh Bahadur ji

 

As @Not2Cool2Argue paji says distract yourself from it. 

They were never yours in the first place and nor were you theirs. 

 

I wrote earlier but my post has not appeared. I read bani once and to paraphrase maharaj said we are given ten things but we cry for the 11th, but if we were given the 11th and the ten were taken away what would we do then? I truly believe this is what I am doing, I haven't found contentment even though he has given me everything and more than I could have asked for, At the time i didn't know where I was going or I was going to end up anywhere but maharaj resolved everything for me and more how can I be so ungrateful when he has given me everything. But I still feel heartbroken for one moment I fell in love with someone and I haven't felt the same again. 

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4 hours ago, Guest JaiKanhaiya said:

 

 

I wrote earlier but my post has not appeared. I read bani once and to paraphrase maharaj said we are given ten things but we cry for the 11th, but if we were given the 11th and the ten were taken away what would we do then? I truly believe this is what I am doing, I haven't found contentment even though he has given me everything and more than I could have asked for, At the time i didn't know where I was going or I was going to end up anywhere but maharaj resolved everything for me and more how can I be so ungrateful when he has given me everything. But I still feel heartbroken for one moment I fell in love with someone and I haven't felt the same again. 

? How many times have I told you to forget that <banned word filter activated> in your past and start appreciating what you do have now, before you lose that too? You must be one of the biggest a^ r^ s^ e^ h^ o^ l^ e^ s imaginable ^-^ You really need to grow up and I am telling you there is no point in barking up the wrong tree anymore.  You can fool fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the tipeople me, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time. That <banned word filter activated> wasn't more special than our Guru so start listening to the Gurbaaney as well as be grateful to all the help you are getting to get on with your life.

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11 hours ago, Guest JaiKanhaiya said:

 

 

I wrote earlier but my post has not appeared. I read bani once and to paraphrase maharaj said we are given ten things but we cry for the 11th, but if we were given the 11th and the ten were taken away what would we do then? I truly believe this is what I am doing, I haven't found contentment even though he has given me everything and more than I could have asked for, At the time i didn't know where I was going or I was going to end up anywhere but maharaj resolved everything for me and more how can I be so ungrateful when he has given me everything. But I still feel heartbroken for one moment I fell in love with someone and I haven't felt the same again. 

To OP, and @Wingz23 penji, these videos will help you.

 

 

 

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