How can one know for sure that the prospective bride is not a conspirator

[Guest]

My fiance comes from a poor family in punjab. Both her brothers are total nalayaks of the worst kind. Their wives disrespect their in-laws and do constant fightings at home. So her parents basically very dukhi with their sons and daughter in laws.

One would expect my fiance would have some kinda sense in her head to keep the contacts with me well,  because she's obviously getting very nice saure (us). But sometimes some of her status on watsapp tend to be shrewd. For instance, if i didn't call her for few days, she would not tell me but put on her watsapp status "what kind of love you have ? no calls" or something along those lines.

Recently she put her watsapp dp with a mean girl face and quote in punjabi (translated) "right now i am sad , but when i become happy, i will make whole world sad" 

And today's : "I am a nice girl , but i only maintain relationship with those with whom i feel at heart" 

I fail to understand at whom are her such watsapp statuses directed ? Is it me , or am I just making a moutain out of a mole ? or is it directed towards no one . I told my parents, even they were angry about it . Even i was angry.

[Guest Temporary_Guest]

She sounds immature. 

If she is being awkward already over WhatsApp while your both far apart, imagine the issues she will be causing when you are married. 

I assume her sister in laws behaviour will have rubbed off her too. 

On a serious note save yourself while you can. Call it off. 

 

 

 

 

[GurjantGnostic]

13 hours ago, AjeetSinghPunjabi said:

One would expect my fiance would have some kinda sense in her head to keep the contacts with me well,  because she's obviously getting very nice saure (us). But sometimes some of her status on watsapp tend to be shrewd. For instance, if i didn't call her for few days, she would not tell me but put on her watsapp status "what kind of love you have ? no calls" or something along those lines.

Life is harder for women, scarier for women. It sounds like she's been raised around abuse, possibly been abused, and has attention seeking behavior. 

She is posting status updates, not for you, but for others....eh maybe you too. But she's probably talking to a bunch of dudes online. When she posts that kind of stuff all the hopefuls rush in and shower her with flirtatious comforts. 

You really don't know what she's up to. These days people are sending nudes to all these people, hookin up on apps, being all too much on social media, entangled.  

Remember Anand Karaj is two Khalsa, two Amritdhari, marrying Akal Purakh.  Joined on the path together to achieve Sanyog. I'm not sure if that is what this girl is in to. Be careful brother. 

[Guest marriage consultant]

hukamnama. straight up. no 2 ways about it. put aside your mat and take your guru's mat.

[MisterrSingh]

The passive aggressive posturing begins in earnest, lol. Mental feebleness. Who fills their heads with this cack? I've had the misfortune to glance at a few of these trite Punjabi memes / proverbs that are posted on WhatsApp, and it genuinely boggles the mind. Spending a lifetime with someone who considers the nonsense found in those posts to be a form of profound wisdom, really does fill me with despair, lol. 

[Guest AjeetSinghPunjabi]

17 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

The passive aggressive posturing begins in earnest, lol. Mental feebleness. Who fills their heads with this cack? I've had the misfortune to glance at a few of these trite Punjabi memes / proverbs that are posted on WhatsApp, and it genuinely boggles the mind. Spending a lifetime with someone who considers the nonsense found in those posts to be a form of profound wisdom, really does fill me with despair, lol. 

it seems we don't have a choice much nowadays. this is the bare minimum of punjabi girls nowadays. Should i be glad she isn't very apt in academia or career and will most likely be a housewife . But housewives have their own sets of nakhre lol 

[MisterrSingh]

1 hour ago, AjeetSinghPunjabi said:

it seems we don't have a choice much nowadays. this is the bare minimum of punjabi girls nowadays. Should i be glad she isn't very apt in academia or career and will most likely be a housewife . But housewives have their own sets of nakhre lol 

Regardless of her qualities and virtues, or lack thereof, have some pity on her. 

[Guest AjeetSinghPunjabi]

20 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

Regardless of her qualities and virtues, or lack thereof, have some pity on her. 

what do u mean by have pity on her ? do u think of me as some sort of wifebeater ? i will respect and take care of her . 

[Guest lol]

4 hours ago, AjeetSinghPunjabi said:

what do u mean by have pity on her ? do u think of me as some sort of wifebeater ? i will respect and take care of her . 

will you be able to have a physical relationship? Most decisions in a marriage are made in the bedroom

[BhForce]

On 5/14/2018 at 11:47 AM, AjeetSinghPunjabi said:

I fail to understand at whom are her such watsapp statuses directed ? Is it me , or am I just making a moutain out of a mole ? or is it directed towards no one . I told my parents, even they were angry about it . Even i was angry.

Oh, statuses? I initially thought they were personal messages directed at you. Statuses, as you know, are sent to all your contacts.

On 5/14/2018 at 11:47 AM, AjeetSinghPunjabi said:

For instance, if i didn't call her for few days, she would not tell me but put on her watsapp status "what kind of love you have ? no calls" or something along those lines.

Well, OK, then don't miss calling her, then. What it shows is that she misses you and wants to hear from you. If she were really just shrewd and were just marrying you for your Mumbai money, she would just bite her tongue so as to not jeopardize  the marriage to Mr. Money Bags (you).

As for the rest of the statuses, they do not seem to be directed at you, so why get upset?

People post those kinds of Punjabi or Urdu "wise sayings" on social media all the time. 99% of the time it's something they are copy-pasting, not something they thought of on their own.