It's a woman even if she returns and claims to be a male to discredit my judgement. It's a woman. Only a woman objects to a light being shone on the unflattering and rarely mentioned aspects of her sex's psychology and habits.
When I've dragged Sikh males over the coals on this forum, not one guy ever objected to me doing so. Neither did any Sikh females interestingly enough. Nobody said, "But not all Sikh males are like that." You all quietly accepted my assessment of the situation. Your silence meant you agreed.
As for Ajeet, I castigated him in the past for not having the courage to spurn marriage. He only got married to get his parents off his back. He's deceived a woman into a lifelong union that should never have happened. He tried arguing in the past that what he'll provide for his wife will be no less than what a hetero husband would do for her (and therefore, in his mind, that makes it morally acceptable), which he feels is difficult to refute, yet I believe had the girl known about his orientation there is NO way she would've agreed. She deserved to know.
Despite all this, he asked for advice, and I gave him my take on the situation. I gave him an unpleasant and stark take on his problem. I won't grind my gears and shower this place with empty platitudes that are useless and impractical. I told him what MIGHT happen based on a few variables in play. I didn't bother softening or sugar coating what he needed to hear.
this seems a spurious sakhi because Amar Das ji's mind was won over by the singing of gurbani by Bibi Amro ji , he had no NEED to test the Guru , he was totally overjoyed to finally find his Guru ji ever read 1st pauri of Anand Sahib ?
what makes you think it is a lady , could be a clean hearted youth ? ... anyway it is unreasonable to assume that his(Ajeet's) wife will cheat on him as she has much more to lose than him as she has a child , a home and the respect of his family name . Maybe he is still mentally troubled by his own kaamic thoughts and is projecting , best solution is to let her use her talents in a safe arena so she feels happy and heard and he works on being close and loving as a family man . This allows him the monetary support he feels he needs and perhaps the lessening of his mental stress but only if he will be able to stop overthinking and imagining calamity at every turn . Remember this is the guys who was insisting on aborting his child because his wife had a fever .
Wonderful women. Nothing like the ones we decry, hence why some of us are able to discern the quality women in our lives versus the devious, one-dimensional trash trying to gaslight society into believing they possess any virtues whatsoever.
Which category do you fall into?