Simple Sikh Wedding

[SantSapai 90]

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh...

Sadh sangat ji, my fiance and I are both amritdhari and want a very very simple Anand karaj. 

There will be a very very small number of people attending according to our list as we want it to be very basic and according to Sikh marayada, as much as possible. We would day around 10 people tops (mainly just immediate family and crossing out the rishtedaar that we don't really interact with).

We have searched online and most of what we are reading is about "Panjabi" weddings and nothing constructive in regards to a simple Gursikh Anand karaj. 

Has anyone had a very basic Sikh wedding at the Gurdwara Sahib only or been involved in this type of wedding that can list exactly what is needed?

We will not being doing things like choora, gold Kara, maiyaan and all that stuff. 

We just want to know exactly what needs to take place for the Anand karaj to be in accordance to Sikhi without all the fuss and usual cultural stuff that takes place. 

Thank you in advance.

Bhul chuk maafi.

Vaheguru...

[TuhadaDaas 150]

You can read the section on Anand karaj in the Sikh rehat maryada, under "marriage"

http://nsouk.co.uk/rehat-maryada-a-guide-to-the-sikh-way-of-life/

[Not2Cool2Argue 954]

I am sure theres many sikh videos of weddings. Look at rainsbai weddings. Or akj weddings. 

 

 

 

There is milni. As the girls side of the family is in charge of the venue. They get their earlier and prepare breakfast langar ( cha pakore etc).

Then when the groom and his family come over. They meet each other outside the gurudwara in the parking lot. Ideally the girls family should be doing kirtan with vaja dholki of Aye Mil Gurshikh... as they welcome the grooms family. but if noone from the girls family is a musician, the two families can just greet each other with fateh. Then each of the relatives are introduced to their contrapart. The father meet the father in law. They can say fateh and give sarope to each other. Then the mothers, brothers, uncles, aunts. Then the grooms party is invited to eat langar ( i think they do this before matha teking and as they are sangat, they are allowed to eat first...i think)

After langar, groom and his family go matha tek. The groom sits in front of the sangat where they do matha tek. 

Then bride walks in. Matha teks, sits next to groom. The palla ardaas is done. Then the shabad about Pallai taindai laagee (or is shabad done before?) And then lavaan etc. 

[ipledgeblue 965]

I mean a very simple sikh wedding would be something called chadar paouni where Anand Sahib is read, but it's not something performed at gurdwara sahib!