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waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh...

well on sunday a friend came up to me and told me that she has a friend who goes behind her parent's back and does make-up, fashion, and date...so she wants to know whether she shud tell her mom...i think she shud...cuz as sikhs we shudn't help others steal/lie...etc...and we shudn't stand for sumthing wrong....

any suggestions?

waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh...

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instead of your friend running to her parents and telling them everything, perhaps she/he should take a good look at her friend and try to understand her situation, why she does the things she does. Not everything is solved by brining in parents, some parents over-react to the behaviour of their children. If she is truely her friend then she will sit with her and have a one on one talk and express her concerns and views on whatever that needs to be brought out.

One step at a time. Talk with her first...personally i don't see wearing makeup or wearing fashionalbe clothes a crime....why would her parents be upset if she is wearing make-up? Ithink her real issue is wanting to be accepted in the social lifestyle of her peers...but then agian i don't know her story...I think you should provide us with a little more info to better understand her situation. Is she Amritdhari? are her parents Amritdhari as they are forcing her to conform to their lifestyle if she is not Amritdhari??

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*sarcasm* Great way to gain that friends trust...now we can all rat each other out *end sarcasm*...that is the last thing you want to do...talk to that person and try to reason with her. if not get some one else who u can trust to talk to her. last option is telling her parents

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PENJI, I AGREE WITH THE LOT YOU SHOULD FIRST APPROACH YO FRIEND AND LET HER KNOW THAT YOU ARE CONCERNED AND SHE WOULD KNOW THAT SOMEONE IS WATCHING HER AND AS PHEENA PAJI SAID WE DO NEED MOREDETAILS BUT AGAIN ITS UPTO U TO HANDLE IT FIRST ON YO OWN AS U SEEMS TO BE CLOSE TO YO FRIEND....

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okay...i guess i do need to provide more info...so here goes:

well i have a friend who has a friend....her friend's parents are really strict about their daughter wearing make-up and dating (she's punjabi...so ofcourse they're strict) anywayz...my friend is concerened that when her friend's mom finds out...they'll send her to india and get her married and she doesn't want that for her friend (they're only in seventh grade)...so i told her to tell her mom and then her mom can decide whether it is wise to tell her frien'd parents...

hope tht helps...

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okay...i guess i do need to provide more info...so here goes:

well i have a friend who has a friend....her friend's parents are really strict about their daughter wearing make-up and dating (she's punjabi...so ofcourse they're strict) anywayz...my friend is concerened that when her friend's mom finds out...they'll send her to india and get her married and she doesn't want that for her friend (they're only in seventh grade)...so i told her to tell her mom and then her mom can decide whether it is wise to tell her frien'd parents...

hope tht helps...

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she's wearing make-up and dating when she's in the seventh grade?! Rnts wanna do what now?!?! :) @

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I think we all need to..chillax...stop dating.... and let kids be kids.

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