Is Virginity Important To Guys?

[Guest Guest]

@ and u noe what i fink

This is a dirty topic.... Should be focused on sick not this kind of stuff

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oops i was half asleep, i meant sikhi,

bull chuk maff

[Guest *-*natty*-*]

I know a couple of girls who were married but when their husbands found out about their past (sleeping around, etc) they got kicked out the marriages and with that they brought shame to their familes. My cousin brother was married to a girl who seemed like a nice educated girl from decent well off family but when my cousin found out about what she used to do at uni he filed for divorce and she started to lie to her family how he supposedly beats her up, just to gave a excuse to save the bezthi she brought on them.

Personally i would never have sex outside marriage cos I know the consequences of what happens and I have too much respect and love for my religion and my parents to ever do that. If I was to marry a singh I liked and he had slept around in the past I would still marry him cos I fink its more important us girls are virgins cos we are the mothers of the future generation and it's worser for girls cos we lose something during intercourse (hymen) where's guys I dont fink have anything physically change on their bodies so guys can tell if we virgins or not whereas we can't.

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Quite true...but the hymen is not only broken via sexual intercourse for the first time. The hymen can also be broken via intensive exercise and ballet dancing(where you stretch alot). But if it is so important for girls to be virgins, I feel that it is also equally important for guys to be virgins too because of the fidelity factor. Plus if guys sleep around,esp. with prostitutes/other girls who sleep around, they might be carrying STD's and it'll be horrible if such guys passed on the STD to their wife, who's an innocent party. That's just my take on the issue...i.e. it is ideal if both wife and husband are virgins at marriage. Sikhism does not agree with premarital sex and those who do it should get peshed IMHO.

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Thats true thats why sex b4 marriage causes so many problems (stds, marriage breakup's , shame/dishonour on parents, etc). Just some people dont realise the consequences of their actions until later on when its too late to change the past. I fink it's important issue and people need to realise what they risk before they do these things.

[Guest someone]

then what if a girl who has slept with another guy wants to marry him but her parents wont let them, but they both have lost their virginity to each other, what should they do ? would it be fair to their own future partners if this is kept hidden ?

this goes for both amritdhari and nonamritdharis ...

a lot of people are in this situation, it would be interesting to know the responses now...

[Guest its gupt pshhhh]

by keeping stuff hidden you build ur resltionship/marriage on lies is that what you want. lies come out in the end, if the person is right for you they should understand at the end of the day.

2 thing people need to understand,

1 stop the flirting relationshiipssssss,

2 not doing it before marriage, for cryn out lloud control ur selves, u wudnt need to if u didnt get in relationships and just waited.

And dont live ur life as a lie!! wot kinda life is that.

y dont ur parents want u to marry him? they must have there reason

[Guest Guest]

caste

[Guest its gupt pshhhh]

and ur not the first person to say that to me and im really had enuff of it, 1 thing is u might want to get a third party involved, if thats there only objection get someone in family, or someone who knows about sikhi involved........

[Guest Guest]

hmmmm

i dont know paaji i dont think that would work, as some in family are amritdhari but they are very strict on their word. Its really hard.

[hardykaur 0]

Interstin.

For me i wud want the man i marry to eb a <admin-profanity filter activated>. Just knowing that someone else had bin wid him an sin him wud make me feel all weird. Same with me. Imagine havin sex with someone an then gettin married to someone else. The person who you had sex with pops back an well he/she cud do anything. say anything an espesh no what you look like under clothes an well that wud not feel right.

If both men an women want a <admin-profanity filter activated> for a partner then why the hell go get laid before!!!!!!

[Sinner 0]

WJKK WJKF

2 thing people need to understand,

1 stop the flirting relationshiipssssss,

2 not doing it before marriage, for cryn out lloud control ur selves, u wudnt need to if u didnt get in relationships and just waited.

And dont live ur life as a lie!! wot kinda life is that.

Waheguru!!

Interstin.

For me i wud want the man i marry to eb a <admin-profanity filter activated>. Just knowing that someone else had bin wid him an sin him wud make me feel all weird. Same with me. Imagine havin sex with someone an then gettin married to someone else. The person who you had sex with pops back an well he/she cud do anything. say anything an espesh no what you look like under clothes an well that wud not feel right.

If both men an women want a <admin-profanity filter activated> for a partner then why the hell go get laid before!!!!!!

LOL, True say

[deadquoteolympian 0]

this thread reminds of a song called "liar" by the sex pistols

just tel the truth up front

[Jasy 2]

dont yu think its hypocritical though..that its okai for the guy to not be a virgin but if a girl isnt one then shes a "h o e"... i asked couple of guys how they felt about this..some were like they actually dont want to marry virgins at all...those were the more modern punjabi guys tht yu find here in nyc and then others said that it depends on how many guys she slept with and who she lost it too..basically if she was in a serious relationship or not...

in conclusion the guys said that they wouldnt mind if their wife wasnt a virgin but they wouldnt want teh whole world to kno about it...

but my question is WHY DOESNT ANYONE EVER SAY ANYTHIGN TO THE GUYS? i mean us girls are always lectured about keeping our virginity and we're taught that its totally normal if the guy you marry isnt one...actually down here in nyc its expected that the guy wont be...

[AmarjitKaur 13]

dont yu think its hypocritical though..that its okai for the guy to not be a virgin but if a girl isnt one then shes a "h o e"... i asked couple of guys how they felt about this..some were like they actually dont want to marry virgins at all...those were the more modern punjabi guys tht yu find here in nyc and then others said that it depends on how many guys she slept with and who she lost it too..basically if she was in a serious relationship or not...

in conclusion the guys said that they wouldnt mind if their wife wasnt a virgin but they wouldnt want teh whole world to kno about it...

but my question is WHY DOESNT ANYONE EVER SAY ANYTHIGN TO THE GUYS? i mean us girls are always lectured about keeping our virginity and we're taught that its totally normal if the guy you marry isnt one...actually down here in nyc its expected that the guy wont be...

Can we talk about how much nam bani simran you have rather than virginity issue. if you have nam bani simran, piyar with bani, you won't be even talking about it anymore. It would be meaningless and you won't care to talk to boys who are interested in virginity issues not SIKHI piyar.

Change your sangat please. Highly recommeneded.

raise yourself rather than understanding the level, thinking of low lying creatures. Its not worth it, believe me. We drink the clean water, we don't go to chhapaR and worry about cleaning the chhappar to make it clean or become filthy ourselves. We go to faucet with clean water running and drink it. OK jee.

and lets do some waheguru simran.

waheguru, waheguru, waheguru dhan waheguru

waheguru waheguru waheguru dhan waheguru

waheguru, waheguru, waheguru dhan waheguru

waheguru waheguru waheguru dhan waheguru

waheguru, waheguru, waheguru dhan waheguru

waheguru waheguru waheguru dhan waheguru

[Wicked Warrior 206]

I think it's highly important to remain chaste before marriage. You owe it to yourself and to your future partner. I would have very little respect for anyone who 'played' around and even now associate less with 'sikhs' who are sleeping around.

If you have lost your virginity, then it's important to be upfront about it than hide it and then blows up in your face later.

As stated, a broken hymen is not a reliable indicator of loss of virginity. Just because a guy doesn't have a similar physiological outcome does not mean he can play around. If a man has respect for his wife, he will not engage in premarital sex. Ditto for the woman. As far as I'm concerned, there's no difference between a couple who have premarital sex and a couple who promise themselves to each other and have premarital sex.

Guru Ji gave us the power and knowledge to conquer the five demons, including lust. To turn around and say "I couldn't help my self" is no answer, especially if you have not tried to resist.

[Guest dA AlcHemist]

and the stupidest question of the night goes too...

[Guest LocalSkank]

There are two type of blokes, ones who are brought up with Indian/Punjabi mentality i.e. What their parents taught them and those who are not.

The guys who tend to hold on to these indian values of girls being a virgin are living in a dream world, they go around trying to find these girls but they are very very rare. No-one is that innocent.

Now the guys who dont hold onto their indian/punjabi values and dont mind a girl who probably has the same amount of "experience" as them are the ones who tend to get married quicker and tend not to live in a dream world.

Being a virgin is nothing to do with being a good Sikh. However, you cant be a good Sikh without having some element of self respect for your own body and some element of control of your vices.