Guest *-*natty*-* Posted July 26, 2005 Report Share Posted July 26, 2005 Would guys like their partners in marriage to be virgins? The reason I am asking is becos I know some girls who have slept around during their time at college and univerisity and are comin to marriage age...and now they are fretting whether if they can find decent guys for marriage. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Balwinder Kaur 5 Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 i am not a guy so i can't say exactly whether they would or would not. but from what i read based on evolutionary theory, men tend to prefer virgins and are not exactly open to the idea of having their wife being a "second-hand and used good"...if you get my drift. just wait and see what the guys have to say. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Guest Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 Is Virginity important to Girls? How would you like it if you knew your future husband was the neighborhood skank? the short answer to your question is yes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Guest Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 It all depends on the guy...before i got into sikhi I was just a "male skank" as some of u would put it...but i mean we all make mistakes and if Guruji can forgive us then no person should hold those mistakes against us....but generally guys would prefer virgins for the reason specified by the bhenji above... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Guest Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 As a singh, i wouldn't want a wife that's been sleeping around because that doesn't reflect what sikhi is about. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Harjit_S_Banga 0 Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 Well, I believe in honesty but it is VERY hard to swallow when the news breaks to your partner. Somethings are not meant to be repeated in life so move on and try to forget it as a bad dream. Share the word with your partner and promise to be truthfull to eachother and get over it. Its HARD but its also the fact of life. Whoever move on knowing the fact about the wife or partner's past takes LOTS of patience and courage to forgive. As mistake are bound to happen no matter its girl or guy. The important thing is to admitt that you did it. Don't spend your whole life covering it as to cover one lie you will lie so many times which is not acceptable. Ask for forgiveness from Guru ji and take your partner into your life....be serious toward your life partner... Stay in Chardikalaaaaaaaaaaaaaa jio Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Balait_da_Sher 200 Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 Its a tough question but the answer depends on a no of different things. Mostly It depends on the guy and the girl. A scenario would be where the girl has had relationships before where as the guy hasnt, and in that case the munda will have a difficult time accepting the situation (same the other way around). Another would be how well the would be couple know each other, if they can talk about this issue before marriage then it is ok, but bear in mind this will always be dragged to the front during fights etc. Personally, i wont have any problem with my partner being not being virgi.n, simply because i put more emphasis on the what the person is like with me and my friends and family instead of what the person's body parts are like Having said that it would be nice to know if she was in a serious relationship that went bad or as u say "slept around during their time at college and univerisity". p.s. i am not a male skank Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mehtab Singh 3,910 Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 A scenario would be where the girl has had relationships before where as the guy hasnt, and in that case the munda will have a difficult time accepting the situation (same the other way around).OH HELL YEAH!! TOO RIGHT!!Another would be how well the would be couple know each other, if they can talk about this issue before marriage then it is ok, but bear in mind this will always be dragged to the front during fights etc. DAM RIGHT!!! THATS SO WELL SAID!! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest its gupt pshhhh Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 to me it wudnt really matter although id bee looking for amritdharhi..... but ideally i think at back of my mind I wud want someone who aint..... but if like shes asked to be forgivn an take amrit then i dont see no probs, depends n who she is how well ya know her and stuff init Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *-*natty*-* Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 I know a couple of girls who were married but when their husbands found out about their past (sleeping around, etc) they got kicked out the marriages and with that they brought shame to their familes. My cousin brother was married to a girl who seemed like a nice educated girl from decent well off family but when my cousin found out about what she used to do at uni he filed for divorce and she started to lie to her family how he supposedly beats her up, just to gave a excuse to save the bezthi she brought on them. Personally i would never have sex outside marriage cos I know the consequences of what happens and I have too much respect and love for my religion and my parents to ever do that. If I was to marry a singh I liked and he had slept around in the past I would still marry him cos I fink its more important us girls are virgins cos we are the mothers of the future generation and it's worser for girls cos we lose something during intercourse (hymen) where's guys I dont fink have anything physically change on their bodies so guys can tell if we virgins or not whereas we can't. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest _gupt_ Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 do blokes have a problem with a broken engagement though. would it be better to not mention it because it may be mentioned in fights or should the girl be honest about it from the start? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Guest Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 I say da str8 answa 2 dat iz cors a guy wud mynd. Same way az a gurl may mind. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *-*natty*-* Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 I fink before getting married to anyone people should get to know what people are like..and dicuss their history or what ever cos honesty is always best policy at the end of the day the truth always comes out the end. So I fink its better to be upfront with the guy or girl you wonna marry then let it cum out in the future and mess up a settled life together. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Guest Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 @ and u noe what i fink This is a dirty topic.... Should be focused on sick not this kind of stuff Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Balwinder Kaur 5 Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 I know a couple of girls who were married but when their husbands found out about their past (sleeping around, etc) they got kicked out the marriages and with that they brought shame to their familes. My cousin brother was married to a girl who seemed like a nice educated girl from decent well off family but when my cousin found out about what she used to do at uni he filed for divorce and she started to lie to her family how he supposedly beats her up, just to gave a excuse to save the bezthi she brought on them.Personally i would never have sex outside marriage cos I know the consequences of what happens and I have too much respect and love for my religion and my parents to ever do that. If I was to marry a singh I liked and he had slept around in the past I would still marry him cos I fink its more important us girls are virgins cos we are the mothers of the future generation and it's worser for girls cos we lose something during intercourse (hymen) where's guys I dont fink have anything physically change on their bodies so guys can tell if we virgins or not whereas we can't. 111061[/snapback] Quite true...but the hymen is not only broken via sexual intercourse for the first time. The hymen can also be broken via intensive exercise and ballet dancing(where you stretch alot). But if it is so important for girls to be virgins, I feel that it is also equally important for guys to be virgins too because of the fidelity factor. Plus if guys sleep around,esp. with prostitutes/other girls who sleep around, they might be carrying STD's and it'll be horrible if such guys passed on the STD to their wife, who's an innocent party. That's just my take on the issue...i.e. it is ideal if both wife and husband are virgins at marriage. Sikhism does not agree with premarital sex and those who do it should get peshed IMHO. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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