LOVE

[Japnaam Singh]

I don't really want to start a debate on this topic,

But yes,

Could you imagine a Gursikh having a girlfriend?

Do you think Baba Jarnail Singh jee, Bhai Fauja Singh Jee, Bhai Sahib Randhir Singh Jee had girlfriends before they were married?

What about if you asked them if it was Okay? (to have a girlfriend)

Think about it.

[S1ngh]

I agree on arranged marriages but in some cases finding soul mate on ur own (aka not arranged marriages) is also fine.. Why? cauz sometime many parents are like stuck in those age old castes things..

[Japnaam Singh]

I don't think the faults of our parents are good enough to justify going into Manmat.

If our parents aren't Gursikhs and aren't able to find a suitable Gursikh partner, then there's always the option of getting something arranged through Gursikh sangat.

I've heard of many cases of Gursikhs being born to Manmukh parents. Instead of relying on their parents to find them a partner, the Gursikh's own sangat arranged something.

[GABROO KHALISTAN DAH]

but sometimes a gur-sikh is human, and by some fluke manages 2 find his/her own singh/singhnee........ what if it juss happens...cause the life partner is already picked, what if u juss find them on ur own without outside interference?

[Japnaam Singh]

How would the Gursikh go about finding a partner without any outside interference?

Would he/she base his choices off of infatuation? Probably not since he/she's a Gursikh right? So we've eliminated looks as a way to find a partner.

What other criteria is there? Keeping in mind that everyone is his/her brother or sister (a hukam from Guru Sahib that we can't disobey unless blessed with Anand Karaj ceremony) would he go and find out how much rehit each individual girl/guy keeps? I'm guessing this Gursikh would then choose the girl/guy that does the most paatt/simran right?

Is that what you have in mind GKD?

[GABROO KHALISTAN DAH]

jaapnaam singh, veer ji no matter how gur-sikh a person is, sometimes they still notice ppl

and its not about looks its about personality and then for a gur-sikhs the persons level of sikhi

yah tha's what i'm saying G, a gur-sikh my fall for a person who has a certain level of sikhi, and because of that sikhi

after all a gur-sikh is a human?

[Japnaam Singh]

But GKD,

The whole foundation of the relationship would be based off of infatuation/crush, etc.

Here's a good post I found on the whole topic:

This concept of crushes is very very common. If it happens, I won't say "my god, you terrible person...you're going to hell". It happens because of a weakness and it's best to analyse how this happened, and cut the probelm at the root.

Most commonly, the reason is curiosity. "Wow, it'd be great to have a bf/gf". It seems like a very attractive option. But honestly, of all the people we see who have bfs/gfs, how many are happy? How many are content? Doesn't the answer automatically lead to the question...then why would I be any happier if I were like them?

Another common cause is that the person we have a "crush" on, is a figment of our own imagination. It's not to say that the person doesn't exist, it's to say that what they are in our minds, is not real. I may see "Boy X" from a far and think "wow, he's great...he'd be so kind and listen to me and be such a great person!" when in reality, you know nothing about that person. In such a case, most people tend to have a crush not on a person, but on a concept. And they create a person to fit the concept. Understand what I'm saying?

The final test is this: the person I'm obsessing over, if he or she was horribly disfigured, would my feelings change? Be honest with yourself. In most cases they would.

Crushes are usually the creation of an idle mind and a sense of boredom. The solution is definitely gurbani and nam and it can also be to occupy yourself with something else in life.

That's my

take.

[GABROO KHALISTAN DAH]

i c what ur saying

but then 2 dat definiation a gur-sikh is a machine...?

but naw man not an infactuation based on looks, thats COLD.

i mean like ones personal level attained sikhi wise..what if the person falls inlove with the persons sikhi and not hte person?

[Japnaam Singh]

Falling in love with the person's Sikhi?

Why not just use that energy to fall in love with the Guru?

[GABROO KHALISTAN DAH]

cauase not every1 has beaten their human mind to the level of a brahmgiani