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[kaur_1]

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

Hi, im new on this forum and i'm 12 years old I know im really young but i have this problem at school. I have quite alot of facial hair on my chin etc and some people in my class insult me about it and laugh at me(I go to a sikh school). Some girls have even told me to wax it or bleach it but im only 12 and even if i wanted to i wouldnt be able to because my family is against removing hair. I'm not saying i want to remove it but my classmates cuss me and i would really appreciate it if you could give me some advice or enlighten me with a sakhi or something. My classmates call me 'werewolf' which really upsets me

i would be very grateful if you could post a reply giving me the strength not to remove my hair or feel upset about it.

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

[Gurpreet Singh]

Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa!

Wahe Guru Ji Ki fateh!

Well you see everyone today is switched to the 'TV MODE", they don't respect religion,they don't respect cultures. Its all about looking good and being cool thats all that matters.But you as Guruji's Singhni got to rise above that.I only start keeping my Kesh since October and almost everyday i used to be called all the different kinds of names (truck driver,taliban) but that didn't get to me Because at the end of the day I have a good feeling. I feel that atleast I'm following my Guru's Rehat and I know this is the gift he has given to us. For now all you can do is show these people that you are being a good sikh...you know the importance of your life ...its messed up that this is a sikh school ....atleast there people should know the importance of hair....anyways just be strong.....let the dawgs bark...u do ur thing...u know whats right...don't let them get to you.....ALL DA POWER TO YOU...

Wahe Guru Ji ka khalsa!

Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh!

[JSingh]

Please read this my dear sister

http://www.sikhnet.com/sikhnet/discussion....20?OpenDocument

Dear Sukhwinder Ji,

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Few months ago, I read an article, "My wife, the beautiful one". I highly suggest you to read it and you will find all the answers to all of your questions. If your friends bother you again, email them this article. I hope they will love you the way you are after reading this.

Please click on the link below or read it here below the link:

http://www.snsm.org.my/library/articles/my_wife.htm

My wife, the beautiful one

I came in from the fields and found my wife sleeping, her head was down on the table, and there was some papers in her hand. Without disturbing her I gently removed them and read what she had written.

She wrote:

"Everything has been changing so suddenly, I don't know who to tell, there is no one to tell, but I must tell someone, so I am just writing this to myself to try to organize my thoughts, to try to find some sense, to all the changes, recently, in my life.

My husband had been acting so strangely, weeping and talking about sleep and death. Then he met this unusual man, Sat Kartar Singh. This man is a S

ikh. He wears a beard, and has uncut hair which he keeps bound in a turban. After this meeting my husband was much calmer, less disturbed, happy even, but still nothing has ever been normal again in the usual sense.

We went for keertan, to this Singhs home. The music was very beautiful, it wrenched my heart, and made me want to weep, I didn't say anything, because I felt so strange, and the children's father seemed so happy I didn't want to break the spell.

Then a few mornings later he went running from the house. When he returned he seemed calmer, he told me we were going to a sikh gathering.

The smagham had the most unusual effect on me. It is hard to describe, but I must try. It has changed my whole life...

I met a very unusual woman there. She was a Singhni. I think she was the most beautiful woman I have ever met in my life. Her face was radiant and glowed with sach light. Her eyes had sach depth, when I looked into them it was as though the universe opened up its mysteries to me. This woman Bibi ji, was unlike other woman, her face was covered with hair like a young man, soft black and curly. She sat quietly and greeted me quietly and softly. From the very first I was drawn to her. So many were staying at that gathering, she asked me to come and sleep with her and the other ladies. My husband joined the men, and children went off with others their own age.

Bibi ji slept completely covered with a black lo-ee. Or I was never sure that she was sleeping, she was so still. I found myself yearning to be like her. Like the Singhs she also kept her hair bound in a turban. I thought of all the women in my village, with their jewelry, make up lipstick, and nail polish, silk dresses, and artificial finery, none were so beautiful as Bibi ji. She had only 2 changes of clothes, very simple, one blue, and one white, and the ever present black lo-ee.

In the morning everyone began getting up very early, I heard strange sounds, as though there were many lovers, I was frig

htened and covered my face with my blanket. I slept very late. No one disturbed me. Later Bibi ji came to take me to the langer. I saw my husband there. He greeted me "Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki fateh" I had never heard these words spoken before. I smiled and nodded.

I asked Bibi ji what the words meant. She said this is how Singhs greet each other.She told me when Guru gobind Singh the father of the Khalsa gave Amrit, he told Singhs to greet each other in this manner. I was even more curious. She explained about Guru Gobind Singh and Guru Nanak. I asked her "How does one become a Singh?" She said they must be given Guru jis Amrit, that is baptized.

Just then a very fierce looking Singh, carrying weapons, entered the langer. I must have looked alarmed, She said not to be afraid. He was our protector. Then she explained about the Siri Guru Granth Sahib. There was so much to learn. But I was so thirsty to hear everything. I can't explain even now, to my self what was happening to me. It was so bewildering. I just knew I did not want to leave Bibi jis side.

She said "Lets go to the keertan." She did keertan for one hour, the same 4 lines over and over,

Gurmukh pi-aaray aa-e mil, main chireen vichhunnay raam raajay. Mayraa man tan bahut bairaage-aa, har nain ras bhinnay. Main har prabh pi-aaraa das gur, mil har man mannay Haon moorakh kaarai laa-ee-aa, naanak har kammay

"I am unworthy. I am unworthy of your love."

She was weeping. I was weeping. A beautiful young girl wiped the tears from her face as she sang. I wondered where her children and husband were. It was obvious to me that she was in some sort of deep mourning. I thought she must have lost a child. I learned later that this was mourning was called "vairaag" by the sikhs. It meant deep and urgent longing for the guru. I felt so much love for her.

That evening when we went for sleep. I asked her if she would wake me too, in the morning. She agreed, then, disappeared beneath her lo-ee.

I was

sleeping face down, I heard "waheguru waheguru" just as I turned, she touched me, I gasped. An electrical current shot though my body shocking me. "Are you ok ?" she asked. I replied only that I had been startled. How could I explain?

She led me to the showers, "isnaan", she said. During her bath she kept on some of her clothing. I was surprised, she said these are kachara, and kirpan, they are a part of me given to me at baptism I can never be separated from them... She explained more about the baptism, how one never removes hair and must keep a comb, and kara also, with one at all times. Her hair, kesh, fell to her knees gleaming as she washed, oiled, and combed it.

Beside her I felt utterly filthy, to my soul. I started weeping, I couldn't stop my self, "No amount of water can ever clean me," I sobbed. She put her arms around me, lovingly and said, "Guru can wash you clean in an instant, when you receive His Amrit."

We went to join the others. "Waheguru Waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru" Every one together, in once voice was calling "waheguru"; it was very comforting.

When I met my husband again , I said," I want to take the Amrit." He looked deeply into my eyes and smiled. It felt as though he touched my soul.

The thing is since baptism I have undergoing so many changes. Nothing has been easy, everything has been very difficult, and sometimes a real struggle. Those three hairs, I had plucked from my chin before, have turned to fifty. All my facial hair has gotten darker and much heavier. I don't know what to do. I feel so hideous, and yet there is my Masters face looking back at me when ever I look in the mirror.

Some of my closest former friends are shunning me. I know it is not because they do not love me., They are uncomfortable, and so am I. But my farmer comes in from the fields happy now. He looks at me and says, "I feel so alive." He tells me I am beautiful and the daughter of Guru Gobind singh, but it doesn't stop the shame. The singhs give me s

o much love and treat me as their sister. But inside I see the beautiful smooth faces of other women, and I feel disfigured. Bibi ji was special, she had courage, I am not like her. I want to cover my face in shame. I weep into the ramalas and plead with Guru ji, for what? To make me like other women rather than like Him. I can't ask for that, and so I just weep and feel ashamed. I feel like I am being punished for all my past misdeeds. Sometimes, I don't know how I can bear it.

We went to another smagham. A young girl was washing feet. I heard her say, "Who is she she? She is so beautiful." Later she met me and said, "They say you practice a different kind of Sikhism." I replied, "There is only one Waheguru, What is different? We both love Him. Sikhism is Sikhism." I wanted to tell her , "Yes, do AMrit vela, do waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru. Do Naam simran." But I couldn't say anything.

I felt beautiful, but I know that I am not. It's just vanity , this body is corruption, and it is rotting away. Nothing matters to me any more but Naam, and my Kakars and Paath. I can't be separated from them, it would kill me. Literally I would die. Slip back into a partial person, not fit to be called human, consumed in pain, always trying to anesthetize myself with fruitless activities.

It is a struggle to wake up and do Paath. Sometimes we are so sleepy, we want to go for the bed, but we look at each other and remember how it was before, that is enough to wake us up again. I envy those born to this path, so pure and innocent, they don't feel the traces of dirt..."

I put the papers down, and woke my wife, I pulled her into my arms, and looked in to her eyes, *HE* looked back at me.

"I didn't know, you should have told me. I have been so selfish, thinking everything was me all this time. I thought you just did this for me. Forgive me."

We both started weeping in to each others arms. "It will be ok, we'll get through this with waheguru waheg

uru waheguru waheguru waheguru." Then we were weeping and laughing together.

The children came in and found us. They just looked at us like we were crazy,

"What's for langer?" the little one asked.

[Jaspaul Singh]

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

Hi, im new on this forum and i'm 12 years old I know im really young but i have this problem at school. I have quite alot of facial hair on my chin etc and some people in my class insult me about it and laugh at me(I go to a sikh school). Some girls have even told me to wax it or bleach it but im only 12 and even if i wanted to i wouldnt be able to because my family is against removing hair. I'm not saying i want to remove it but my classmates cuss me and i would really appreciate it if you could give me some advice or enlighten me with a sakhi or something. My classmates call me 'werewolf' which really upsets me

i would be very grateful if you could post a reply giving me the strength not to remove my hair or feel upset about it.

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

WJKK WJKF,

Bhainji, here is what i think...

I was reading your post and was rdy to say have faith in guru ji ... AND i still stick to dat but even got more conc

erned when u said it was a SIKH SCHOOL. Bhainji just think of it dis way... those who make fun of u, according to guru ji will not be saved.. just dont listen to them and ignore them. Watch guru ji will come and save u in any circumstances... just dont give in!!!!!

Also, refer to the post above... its wicked :D

bhul chuk maph!

[AK-47]

Hey, i remember wheni was around 12 or 13 as well at school, me and some of my friends had our kesh kept, while some didnt, there was never a prob between us guys, everyone was cool.

BUT

when your at that age we have this stupid habit of cussing/embarassing people with our quick wits ....

Basically there used to be this girl, she used to have a bit of hair above her upper lip (but cut the hair on her head), it wasnt much, but everyone needs something for the rest to take the mick out of.

so for this poor girl it was her facial hair, basically we were nasty little boys and we wound her up day after day after day (as well as winding up everyone else possible as well) until one day she got it waxed.

Poor girl walked into school the next morning and her whole mouth was swollen and her upper lip was all red and looked burnt.

I swear, i felt sooooo bad, we never knew how much we were getting to her, until she did that, after that we all felt so ashamed, that we had forced her into doing that.

She looked so embarassed looking around the room, waiting to see if we would react, but we just had our heads down in shame.

Looking back now many years later, you feel like a prat, but at the time as a teenager you dont realise how much your hurting the person. Oddest thing was I had kesh myself and was adament that it shouldnt be cut, but for some reason, at the time we joked about it with her???

Anyway just wanted to say, ultimately it is hard but you need to think what you love more, your guru or your mate. If its a sikh school, then try having a word with one of your teachers, i know that the worst advice ever since we all heard it and none of us followed it!

r>But, even if you just write a little note, dont put your name on it but just explain what is happening and that your upset and slide it under your teachers or the headmasters door.

Saki that i like is the one about the good looking singh. Apparently there was a really beautiful singh who looked just amazing, Apparently he used to be quite a favorite of guru ji and guru ji would always ask him to sit close to him. One day when the singh was getting dressed he noticed a whilte hair in his beard, he got a bit vain so he pulled it out. when he went to see guru ji, guru ji turned his back on him. He was shocked and didnt know why this had happened, he asked guru ji, guru ji said he didnt even recognise him, he didnt know who he was, except that he looked very hideous.

Guru Ji knows when we remove evn a single strand of hair, with it we are beautiful because it is what guru ji gave us, if we remove it then we dismiss his gift.

It may be hard sister, but just try.

A good quote from a sant that i love might help you.

'We say we are the sons of Guru Gobind Singh, yet we have our faces and heads shaved like watermelons, what kind of sons are we? If the son doesnt resemble his father in the village then people will ask whether that really is his father or not, so if we do not resemble our father with his beard and turban, then whose sons are we?'

(same applies for daughters!!)

for the older readers, you will pick up the suggestion there.... nice way of putting it i think!

[Khalsa4ever]

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

Never forget that you are right. And when you stand up for something you believe in, you become like the Guru, and God himself will guide you.

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

[V]

BHenji, well done, you've come to the right spot :wub: :wub:

Keep it up, don't let urself be distracted by them, jus tell them that you love for the roop you've gotten by the Guru, and are not FAKING ot be someone ur not, by removing hair, cause then you're putting EFFORT INTO it, and is artificial beauti, and not Natural beauti of the ROOP God Gave you

Don't let some freaks break your love for the Guru

have a read through above provided articles, and -

http://www.pure-panjab.net/kesh2.htm

http://www.pure-panjab.net/sikh_articles.htm#rehat

keep it up sister

bhull chukk maf

GUrfAteh

[Saihajleen Kaur Khalsa]

Holding on to the Truth these days is like holding hot coals in your hand. Dont give in, Im proud of you my sister, and Im confident you will keep me feeling that way.

[~Lioness~]

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!!!

Kaur Jee,

It takes alot of courage to come out and discuss this issue and ask for advice. I don't know of any Sikh girl that doesn't have the facial hair issue, including myself. I've been through the same situation when I was younger, I've made many mistakes and to this day that I totally regret. I know its easy to say have faith and don't give up. But honestly you gotta stand up for whats right. These people that say these things to you don't have knowledge about the beauty of our religion. We are blessed enough to know the importance of rehat. Our Gurus and many great Sikhs in the past didn't just sacrifice their lives for nothing. In the end, can we justify our actions? None of these people that say these rude things to you will help you out in your life, except the one and all mighty Waheguru.

Guru Jee is always by your side, always smiling down. We don't wanna make mistakes that we'll regret and forsure theres gonna be consequences of our actions. So please don't let manmat thinking take over. Be strong, hold your head up high b/c where ever you are, your father is standing right beside you. If you ever feel down...talk to him and tell him how you feel. Ask him for the strength to be his Singhnee. You're not alone in this, we have to pay for actions of the past and the present. It'll only make things worse don't even think about what other people will say, everything is a gift offered to us. We are so lucky just to have a Jeevan in Sikhi, a very priceless jewel.

The posts by other Singhs and Singhnees on this topic are great.

We need to support eachother and help expand our SIkhi.

I hope i haven't offened anyone in any way. Please for give me for my mistakes.

Kaur Jee, if you need to discuss this topic further, please e-mail PM me or e-mail me @ kaur810@hotmail.com. Remeber you are and always will be the beautiful daughter of Sri Guru Gobind Singh Jee!!!!!!

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!!!!

[immortalshaheed]

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!

what ever ya do don wax or shave it nex time your friends call you something s2upid like werewolf just say ''I go to this sikh school because i'm proud to be a sikh, guru : gobind take me in to be one of his daughters''.