Friend Wont Call

[Guest irelevant]

okay guys.

firstly im male. and i dont have a huge circle of friends like a lot of people. infact i think i have only two close friends.

the thing is. that me and my friend wre quite socialable. we went out together on the weekends and i thought everything was okay.

untill suddenly my friend has become very withdrawn. he hasnt called me in 3 months. and when i have got through to him. he just says he's depressed and that he doesnt feel like doing anything.

everytime i call him to intiate a link up. he always refuses and uses excuses such as the weather beung to bad.

its gotton to the point. were i dodnt think he is a friend anymore. he just seems to want to be on his own.

which has made me quite mad. to be honest. mainyly because i dont have many other friends to socialise with. i think to be frank. i dont particulary think he's a good friend or anything like. its just that i dodnt have many firends. hence why i kinda rely on him as a link.

but the ways he's acted this 3 months. i feel like never talking to this guy again. he's seems quite arrogant. or maybe he just doesnt like going out with me.

in a nutshell. should i just ignore this <banned word filter activated>. or what? i dont partatularly like him anyway. he was just someone to go out with. he seems content just to stay at home all the time.

[Akritghan]

okay guys.

firstly im male. and i dont have a huge circle of friends like a lot of people. infact i think i have only two close friends.

the thing is. that me and my friend wre quite socialable. we went out together on the weekends and i thought everything was okay.

untill suddenly my friend has become very withdrawn. he hasnt called me in 3 months. and when i have got through to him. he just says he's depressed and that he doesnt feel like doing anything.

everytime i call him to intiate a link up. he always refuses and uses excuses such as the weather beung to bad.

its gotton to the point. were i dodnt think he is a friend anymore. he just seems to want to be on his own.

which has made me quite mad. to be honest. mainyly because i dont have many other friends to socialise with. i think to be frank. i dont particulary think he's a good friend or anything like. its just that i dodnt have many firends. hence why i kinda rely on him as a link.

but the ways he's acted this 3 months. i feel like never talking to this guy again. he's seems quite arrogant. or maybe he just doesnt like going out with me.

in a nutshell. should i just ignore this <banned word filter activated>. or what? i dont partatularly like him anyway. he was just someone to go out with. he seems content just to stay at home all the time.

i think that ur the 'untrue' friend, not him! why are u mad at him?do u not care for him at all?

instead of being mad it him, i would be mad at urself for being so self-centred....in ur post....u have only mentioned how u feel...nothing which suggests concern for ur friends welfare!

[Harsimrat Singh]

okay guys.

firstly im male. and i dont have a huge circle of friends like a lot of people. infact i think i have only two close friends.

the thing is. that me and my friend wre quite socialable. we went out together on the weekends and i thought everything was okay.

untill suddenly my friend has become very withdrawn. he hasnt called me in 3 months. and when i have got through to him. he just says he's depressed and that he doesnt feel like doing anything.

everytime i call him to intiate a link up. he always refuses and uses excuses such as the weather beung to bad.

its gotton to the point. were i dodnt think he is a friend anymore. he just seems to want to be on his own.

which has made me quite mad. to be honest. mainyly because i dont have many other friends to socialise with. i think to be frank. i dont particulary think he's a good friend or anything like. its just that i dodnt have many firends. hence why i kinda rely on him as a link.

but the ways he's acted this 3 months. i feel like never talking to this guy again. he's seems quite arrogant. or maybe he just doesnt like going out with me.

in a nutshell. should i just ignore this <banned word filter activated>. or what? i dont partatularly like him anyway. he was just someone to go out with. he seems content just to stay at home all the time.

i think that ur the 'untrue' friend, not him! why are u mad at him?do u not care for him at all?

instead of being mad it him, i would be mad at urself for being so self-centred....in ur post....u have only mentioned how u feel...nothing which suggests concern for ur friends welfare!

Maybee..

ANyways, maybe he thinks you might be bad sangat for him? considering you used to go out alot, maybe he wants to leave such manmukh activities? I know many such people that make good friends but then think it is affecting their Jeevan negatively. Maybe he did something for his parents to ban him going out of the house? Maybe he likes to be Gupt now? You never know what the reason could be... Lol, hope I havn't confused you even more. :TH: Hope all goes as best!

[TruSoul]

okay guys.

firstly im male. and i dont have a huge circle of friends like a lot of people. infact i think i have only two close friends.

the thing is. that me and my friend wre quite socialable. we went out together on the weekends and i thought everything was okay.

untill suddenly my friend has become very withdrawn. he hasnt called me in 3 months. and when i have got through to him. he just says he's depressed and that he doesnt feel like doing anything.

everytime i call him to intiate a link up. he always refuses and uses excuses such as the weather beung to bad.

its gotton to the point. were i dodnt think he is a friend anymore. he just seems to want to be on his own.

which has made me quite mad. to be honest. mainyly because i dont have many other friends to socialise with. i think to be frank. i dont particulary think he's a good friend or anything like. its just that i dodnt have many firends. hence why i kinda rely on him as a link.

but the ways he's acted this 3 months. i feel like never talking to this guy again. he's seems quite arrogant. or maybe he just doesnt like going out with me.

in a nutshell. should i just ignore this <banned word filter activated>. or what? i dont partatularly like him anyway. he was just someone to go out with. he seems content just to stay at home all the time.

i think that ur the 'untrue' friend, not him! why are u mad at him?do u not care for him at all?

instead of being mad it him, i would be mad at urself for being so self-centred....in ur post....u have only mentioned how u feel...nothing which suggests concern for ur friends welfare!

:whs:

[Guest Guest420]

depression toh gande cheez koi ne ya :S bande da haal bura kar dende ya ...so i think what he said about depressed thats what is giving him trouble ..."yes veerji ude problem nu tusi samjho".... sit with him and ask him about what the problem is..tell him to share it with u ..if he doesnt kuch samaa lae unu dhellaa chad davo give him his own time and tell him ur allways there for him anytime he needs u

tell him to do paath for little time everyday and do ardaas ...akaal purkh kirpa karuuu .......

[Guest *]

okay guys.

firstly im male. and i dont have a huge circle of friends like a lot of people. infact i think i have only two close friends.

the thing is. that me and my friend wre quite socialable. we went out together on the weekends and i thought everything was okay.

untill suddenly my friend has become very withdrawn. he hasnt called me in 3 months. and when i have got through to him. he just says he's depressed and that he doesnt feel like doing anything.

everytime i call him to intiate a link up. he always refuses and uses excuses such as the weather beung to bad.

its gotton to the point. were i dodnt think he is a friend anymore. he just seems to want to be on his own.

which has made me quite mad. to be honest. mainyly because i dont have many other friends to socialise with. i think to be frank. i dont particulary think he's a good friend or anything like. its just that i dodnt have many firends. hence why i kinda rely on him as a link.

but the ways he's acted this 3 months. i feel like never talking to this guy again. he's seems quite arrogant. or maybe he just doesnt like going out with me.

in a nutshell. should i just ignore this <banned word filter activated>. or what? i dont partatularly like him anyway. he was just someone to go out with. he seems content just to stay at home all the time.

*Edited* the guy is depressed, he may even be suicidal, last thing he needs is for you to give up on him, talk to him openly and tell him how you feel, ask him if its you that he wants to get away from and your lifestyle or if he really is dep,, if he is man get him help,,

last thing you want to do is to know that someone is dep and find out months later that they comitted suicide.. *Edited*

[valli singh]

Exactly. You should be there to support your friend,

and read up on depression it's no walk in the park,

it can turn your whole life upside-down and it usually

has a physical/biological source such as thyroid imbalance

or even a chemical/dopamine problem in the brain,

encourage your friend to have a physical examination to see if his depression has a biological source,

if it doesn't he should get counselling for stress-management which is another potential source of this debilitating condition.

[valli singh]

To the original poster:

Maybe you posted this looking for sympathy,

but that last paragraph you wrote is quite disturbing

as to the shallow nature it reveals you to possess,

or maybe I'm wrong and you are just so frustrated that

you can't seem to connect with him that you have written it,

but if those are your true feelings you are a very selfish and self-serving person

without an ounce of empathy or understanding because if your friend is depressed

HE is the one who needs YOU and he should be the one posting on here to complain

about your lack of empathy and your usage of people as commodities to socialize with

and not share true and meaningful friendship.

[Barfi n Mithai]

I think he realised u were using him to go out OR he is busy OR he is actually depressed and has problems OR he is disconnecting from everyone to make new friends OR he just doesn't want to be your friend.

Either way its clear he is never going to tell you so you should just move on.

[Guest irelevent]

thanks for all the posts.

even if they are either critical or supportive of me.

but i take on board what everyone has said. and yes im probably being a little selfish.

but i just had to get it off my chest. i guess at the end of the day. if my mate wans to stop socialising with me. then it is his choice.

i guess my friend doesnt want to socialise anymore for a number of reasons. ie. finationaly he just lost his job. some money coud be tight. he's grown out of clubbing, drinking.

i guess i just need to meet other friends. but its going to be hard. sice im quite pciky when it comes to making firends. i never usually have non Sikhs as friends.

if anyone is from the ilford, forest gate area and are interested in being firends. then you can pm me.