Bit Of Advice Would Be Helpful.

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Vaheguru je ka Khalsa vaheguru je ke fateh je

Ok I'll get straight to the purpose of why dhass is posting.

A couple of months ago dhass was blessed with Guru Jes kirpa of Amrith..it was the best day of dhass's life..especially as dhass has been a self harm sufferer to due stress in the past years..now the problem is everything was going really well for last year or so and got even better since becoming amrithari..dh's started to see dhukh as sukh so life seemed like a beautiful thing but then suddenly in recent days dhass has startd to self harm again but dhass doent acknowledge it until afterwards..feel bit alone to at times but dhass tries to always remeber Guru je is with dhass all the time..

Anyone got any tips on how to resolve the relapse of selfharm? Dhass hates it and feels like dhass has let Guru je down by causing pain to the body which is only temporary dhass's...

Any help would be appreciated..thank you sangat je

Vaheguru je ka khalsa vaheguru je fateh jee

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Vaheguru je ka Khalsa vaheguru je ke fateh je

Ok I'll get straight to the purpose of why dhass is posting.

A couple of months ago dhass was blessed with Guru Jes kirpa of Amrith..it was the best day of dhass's life..especially as dhass has been a self harm sufferer to due stress in the past years..now the problem is everything was going really well for last year or so and got even better since becoming amrithari..dh's started to see dhukh as sukh so life seemed like a beautiful thing but then suddenly in recent days dhass has startd to self harm again but dhass doent acknowledge it until afterwards..feel bit alone to at times but dhass tries to always remeber Guru je is with dhass all the time..

Anyone got any tips on how to resolve the relapse of selfharm? Dhass hates it and feels like dhass has let Guru je down by causing pain to the body which is only temporary dhass's...

Any help would be appreciated..thank you sangat je

Vaheguru je ka khalsa vaheguru je fateh jee

Buddy, you should seek professional help. I'm not expert, but in most cases self-harm is related to a dopamine deficiency. It's not your fault, and no one is to blame.

Here's a link you might find useful.

http://www.ehow.com/how_4617145_naturally-increase-dopamine-levels.html

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You need to book an appointment with a doctor. They can put you in touch with specialists who deal with this on a daily basis and help you explore, or give you exercises to do, which will help get to the bottom of your self harming problem.

[kaur12345]

Self harming won't get you far and you won't gain anything from it, Who are you doing it for? It's truely not worth it.

Feeling lonely everyone one does and can lead to alot. But that's were you have to stay strong you have been blessed and taken Amrith very good step now work your way up.

Keeping busy-Distract yourself by going out listening to music anything that interests you, Talking to people you trust-The important thing is to find ways to start talking to someone you trust. It could be to a friend, a family member, a professional counsellor, a psychologist or a psychotherapist. Find another way to express your feelings.

Focus in your mind on positives and be kind to yourself!

[AmarjitKaur]

Vaheguru je ka Khalsa vaheguru je ke fateh je

Ok I'll get straight to the purpose of why dhass is posting.

A couple of months ago dhass was blessed with Guru Jes kirpa of Amrith..it was the best day of dhass's life..especially as dhass has been a self harm sufferer to due stress in the past years..now the problem is everything was going really well for last year or so and got even better since becoming amrithari..dh's started to see dhukh as sukh so life seemed like a beautiful thing but then suddenly in recent days dhass has startd to self harm again but dhass doent acknowledge it until afterwards..feel bit alone to at times but dhass tries to always remeber Guru je is with dhass all the time..

Anyone got any tips on how to resolve the relapse of selfharm? Dhass hates it and feels like dhass has let Guru je down by causing pain to the body which is only temporary dhass's...

Any help would be appreciated..thank you sangat je

Vaheguru je ka khalsa vaheguru je fateh jee

Here is advice for you. See if you can use it.

You must have some hobby, wheather its drawing, knitting, coloring, painting, doing math puzzles, reading book, baking, cooking, or whatever in the world you keep your mind and hands busy with. These are the two parts of your body which direct you and make you do things. So keep them busy in these times of self harming. keep those hobby materials accessible to you. When mind directs you towards the urge of hurting you, pick up pen, cryons, color pencel and start dwelling on your hobby. Your mind and hands needs to be busy in those times.

Slowly slowly you will get better handle on your these 2 body parts. Its all mind's game. You need to give a way out to mind's ideas and energy which flows with it.

Try it. Even though you understand your problem, still mind is not under your control. you need to realize that time. You need to fight against it.

To do that, you need to find a way out to let that energy/urge flow somewhere else.

If nothing else, start exercising. e.g. some weight lifting or running on treadmill or on elliptical or go running outside. Whatever fits in your schedule/situation.

And remember Guru is Ang Sang. Above all, do prayer to Guru Sahib to help you out with your situation, to connect you with bani not self-harming.

Waheguru jee bhali karange. Listen to katha/keertan always. At times when you can't work on your hobbies, start reciting Chaupai sahib or do both at the same time. if chaupai sahib is not memorized, aim for 25 or more moolmantars. Mind is going to get entangled in counting and reciting bani correctly. it wont think of self harming any more.

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wahegurooo. this problem is too big for a forum.

go see a doctor and go pesh.

[wahgrrru]

waheguru ji ka khalsa

waheguru ji ki fateh....

waheguru g

pehla ta tusi waheguru ji nu yad krna chhod do kyunki yaad ta ona nu kiya jada hai je saado kol door honde ne.

chaupai sahib

Santan dukh pai te dukhi

sukh pae sadhun ke sukhi

waheguru ji

jad tui paeshan honde ho te ap ji de waheguru ji nu kinna dukh honda hoga...e socho .......te when ur harming ur self that time waheguru g who's residing in u will also get pain

so read more n more gurbani....go in sadh sangat....n listen kirtan

[TuhiNirankar]

waheguru ji,

Love the Body Guru Sahib has blessed u with,, when u are down or feel the need to cause self-harm start writing anything or even draw get those emotions out on paper, dont take them out on urself,

This Body is a gift, and without it we wouldnt be here, we were given it to use it by doing seva and bhagti,

I also reccomend doing seva at gurdwara, whereever u see is needed,

surround urself with positive sangat----> go to the gurdwara and read sukhmani sahib in sangati roop,

A couple years back i went thru emotions of being low which were caused by family problems and situations, i read bani which made my mind positive and i forget bout the problems,

at that point in my life the dukh made me turn to Maharaj but i forgot Maharaj once i was neutral and had no stresses, i had stopped reading bani,

then i started getting bad dreams --the past was haunting me and it made me feel very uneasy, i then started playing bani as much as i could, in my room and had it play at night too,

so look at the positive in the situation, its time to do more bani sangat and seva

just as there is night and day, there is dukh and sukh, its waves of the ocean say strong and hold onto Guru sahibs charan thats where the anand is, to be in Guru sahibs charan 24/7,

Remeber maharaj is Ang sang, u are never alone,

ਆਸਾ ਘਰੁ ੭ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ॥

आसा घरु ७ महला ५ ॥

Āsā gẖar 7 mėhlā 5.

Aasaa, Seventh House, Fifth Mehl:

ਹਰਿ ਕਾ ਨਾਮੁ ਰਿਦੈ ਨਿਤ ਧਿਆਈ ॥

हरि का नामु रिदै नित धिआई ॥

Har kā nām riḏai niṯ ḏẖi▫ā▫ī.

Meditate continually on the Name of the Lord within your heart.

ਸੰਗੀ ਸਾਥੀ ਸਗਲ ਤਰਾਂਈ ॥੧॥

संगी साथी सगल तरांई ॥१॥

Sangī sāthī sagal ṯarāʼn▫ī. ||1||

Thus you shall save all your companions and associates. ||1||

ਗੁਰੁ ਮੇਰੈ ਸੰਗਿ ਸਦਾ ਹੈ ਨਾਲੇ ॥

गुरु मेरै संगि सदा है नाले ॥

Gur merai sang saḏā hai nāle.

My Guru is always with me, near at hand.

ਸਿਮਰਿ ਸਿਮਰਿ ਤਿਸੁ ਸਦਾ ਸਮ੍ਹ੍ਹਾਲੇ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥

सिमरि सिमरि तिसु सदा सम्हाले ॥१॥ रहाउ ॥

Simar simar ṯis saḏā samĥāle. ||1|| rahā▫o.

Meditating, meditating in remembrance on Him, I cherish Him forever. ||1||Pause||

ਤੇਰਾ ਕੀਆ ਮੀਠਾ ਲਾਗੈ ॥

तेरा कीआ मीठा लागै ॥

Ŧerā kī▫ā mīṯẖā lāgai.

Your actions seem so sweet to me.

ਹਰਿ ਨਾਮੁ ਪਦਾਰਥੁ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਮਾਂਗੈ ॥੨॥੪੨॥੯੩॥

हरि नामु पदारथु नानकु मांगै ॥२॥४२॥९३॥

Har nām paḏārath Nānak māʼngai. ||2||42||93||

Nanak begs for the treasure of the Naam, the Name of the Lord. ||2||42||93||

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TuhiNirankar...thank you soo much for your reply..

Dhass was awaiting such a explanation..

To the penji/bhaji who said about pesh..why would dhass have to go pesh? It's not like dhass has committed one of the five evils..if dhass is wrong please correct dhass

Vaheguru jee

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because there's kes on your body which is damaged/removed whilst self-harming, plus you could probably use any additional advice from the panj pyare while you're there.