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[Guest Just someone]

Its a long story, but in a nutshell.

Im missing my home. I grew up in the North of the country near manchester and moved to london 5 years ago. ever since I have never felt at home in this city. I feel like I dont fit in. I have still got my northern accent. And well I just feel like a stranger here. the people in the south are not very friendly and have made fun of my accent ect. I have struggled to make friends here and feel like moving back.

Because I just feel I dont belong here. even though I am still in the UK London and my home town are worlds apart. Its like moving to another country.

I just feel that I am in no mans land.

[Singhstah]

In sangat of true Gursikhs you will never feel this way but you will feel more at home than you do in your house! Just do lots of ardaas to maharj for sangat of true gursikhs/gurmukhs and increase the bani and naam everything will be fine if/when God is pleased

[11Gurus1Jot]

There are two types of people:

Those who see the outside only, and those who look at what's inside the person too!

You just need to find some Londoners who fit into the second catergory! :waheguru:

[Guest gupt]

yep i gues so. But im finding it very difficult to fit in here. I know some people here. But its a daily struggle. I just dont feel I belong here and feel like a foregner in this city. I try my best. But really miss home and friends.

sometimes I wish I could move back. But its not straighforward. being a norther sort of guy. Ive never felt comfortable down here in the south. As soon as someones heres my accent. They kind of distance themselves from me. I'm trying my best to fit in. But just dont like the people in the london. who are very unfreindly.

[Guest Guest]

Gupt every thing in life is based on requirement and necessity.

Livelihood & family is more important than a social circle.

Most of my friends are either school mates or ones i met in Gurudwara.

Other than that it's business (Give & Take) or matter of courtesy.

As for London, females are inviting and friendly if you have the sex appeal.

While i was in London, at least fifty females (all shapes, colours, age & sizes) were interested and did something in want of my attention.

So if a non-british, turban wearing guy who keeps a flowing beard can have such an impact then you can very well do better than that !

[D Kaur]

It's ok to miss your Home and Friends - But home and friends are still there. You can visit, when you like. If your new home is now to be in London, try and make the most of it - assuming you've moved for uni - work etc.

I know what you mean about it being a busy unfriendly place - i'm from the midlands, and when i've had to travel to London for business trips, i've found the people very rude and unfriendly. But i gues thats just the fast paced life, and the fact that i walk to slow in the underground and dont know where i'm going!!

Have you tried meeting like minded people?

Maybe joing the local gym, you'll get to know other people who are also interested in looking after their health. You may not meet up with them outside of the gym. But it opens the doors to new friendships even if you only meet at the gym 3 times a week!

I'd also see what programmes are on at your local Gurdwara, (Gatka / Tabla / Vaja etc classes)and go to any events that they hold as you'll meet like minded sangat there. With regular attendance you would become a familiar face, and would make new friends, go do some Lanagar Seva, and you'll meet everyone.

Moving to a new home / town is always daunting, the prospect of being nobody in a abig town is scary. But your just building a new network in london the old one exists!

Things will get easier.

And dont forget - when going to the Gurdwara, you wont be seen as a Northerner, just a Sikh coming home.

(If you've left home for some other reason - you really should go home. Your family be would worried about you. I've gone on the assumption that this was either a family move, or your now at unit or in a new job)

[xtremesingh18]

Go home then

[Guest gupt 2.0]

It's Kalyug and the quicker you see how much duality and falseness is rife in the world around you, the quicker you run up the spiritual ladder, you're blessed, god rooted you out of happyland into the reality of kalyug, and from the darkness, the light will rise.

p.s I've lived in London all my life and have always felt like an outsider!

[Guest thread maker]

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I just dont feel happy in London. and I dont think I will ever be. Im not the best when i come to social skills and have always been quite shy and reserved person which just makes my situation worse.

At the moment I also live in East London which isnt the best area to be in.

London does have it plus points. But if your not happy here then it doesnt mean anything. Sometimes I feel that moving was the worst deciion I have ever made. I have struggled to make any decent friends. its just been one disaster after another. I dont think ill ever fit in here. because most southerners dont like northerners and vice verser. I also find that I have to pretend to be someone I'm not. Back home I could act and talk the way I wanted. But down here I have to hold back. because most people are predijuce against northern people.

[Singhstah]

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I just dont feel happy in London. and I dont think I will ever be. Im not the best when i come to social skills and have always been quite shy and reserved person which just makes my situation worse.

At the moment I also live in East London which isnt the best area to be in.

London does have it plus points. But if your not happy here then it doesnt mean anything. Sometimes I feel that moving was the worst deciion I have ever made. I have struggled to make any decent friends. its just been one disaster after another. I dont think ill ever fit in here. because most southerners dont like northerners and vice verser. I also find that I have to pretend to be someone I'm not. Back home I could act and talk the way I wanted. But down here I have to hold back. because most people are predijuce against northern people.

Lol don't diss East London! haha joking <img src='http://www.sikhsangat.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' /> As londoner I can say I am most certainly not prejudice against northern people, neither is anyone I know.

Come to Friday Simran sessions at Singh Sabha Gurdwara Seven Kings (next to homebase), you can meet gursikhs here as well as get laha! They take place every week from 7:30pm-9:00pm. There is also a simran session at karamsar gurdwara sahib ilford every thursday 8:30pm to 9:15pm. Sangat is smaller in East London than other places but its still good! Last saturday of every month there is a keertan darbar at 7 kings singh sabha aswell.

<self edit> Please let me know if you want to know anything more about Sangat in East London.