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well I am having some confidence and social skills problems. Since I left uni I have not had a job and basicaly just not had much interaction with people for a long time hence i think my social skills have gone down. I have also never had a job and just been supported by family.

I just wanted to know that does working, improve your social skills and confidence? Sometimes I feel that I am a step behind people who have worked for years. and have built up their scoial skills and confidence from years of interaction with people.

Hence I was thinking they have a head start on me. If I got a job would this improve my confidence and social skills And improve my ability to interact with people? I have been out of work for 3 years btw...

any advice much appreciated.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

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Fateh jio

Confidence is a problem for a lot of us...u can either choose to deal with it by being shy(not advised), or you can let the world see you as confident by having faith in yourself and mahraaj! A lot of ppl probably feel the same if they've not been in work for three years but it's never too late to make changes...u might also be feeling like this as u feel ur family are supporting u and u feel u need to be doing something with ur life...

Basically as a sister,my advice would be to take on board the above, have faith in yourself rather than shy away, put yourself out there for work and any voluntary opportunities that will get u into a routine of getting out of the house, meeting new people,making new friends etc...even going and helping with some sewa at ur local

Gurdwara....help out some of the aunties n uncles... It's rewarding and will give u things to do and keep ur mind off the confidence issue and it will fade

And st every opportunity,listen to or recite chaupai sahib which will lift ur spirits-chardi kala...and do ardaas that waheguru helps u too...he will as waheguru always listens :)

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I was shy once then i got a job on high st primark this sorted my confidence as you have to talk to strangers etc . I wasnt the best but i got better. Like the sister said even volunteer is good and will help you confidence :-)

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Naam simran.

God is most powerful, he is everything. Naam simran is becoming Him- becoming nothing/humble is actually the aim, because in nothingness is all the power/love. Ego leads to the breakdown of self because you're building up the false. Get confidence in knowing and practicing truth, then the ego of others can't affect you, you'll be beyond and above it while remaining the dust of all.

Don't get sucked into the khel and the ego that keeps it in darkness. Society is false(most people you will meet are on the road to an afterlife in hell or as lost souls- it's the people that make kalyug afterall) without the Guru and Truth practice. Take your break from society as a blessing, as god nudging you towards a breakdown of self, and build yourself up again with truth, not with attributes that please society. God bless you.

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I had the exact same problem when I first started my education again, I had dropped out of school a few years earlier and because of that I had alot of problems socializing with people I was once on par with - the only way I got it back was through time and consistent effort, and basically just going out, talking to people and generally not caring what people thought about who or what I was. It was painful initially because of the insecurities, and looks I got from people because of my weird dress style, the way I talked etc. It took alot of time and still does, but I am gradually working on getting back to my normal self. Don't get yourself down because of this.

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well I am having some confidence and social skills problems. Since I left uni I have not had a job and basicaly just not had much interaction with people for a long time hence i think my social skills have gone down. I have also never had a job and just been supported by family.

First things first ! You don't want to be like me ! Get out . QUIT THINKING TOO MUCH AND NO SELF - LOATHING ! Get out and experience the world . Join some lesser of a job , trust me , you will get some experience and on top of that , you will meet people and make new friends

I just wanted to know that does working, improve your social skills and confidence? Sometimes I feel that I am a step behind people who have worked for years. and have built up their scoial skills and confidence from years of interaction with people.

those people also started like you . were once like you !

Hence I was thinking they have a head start on me. If I got a job would this improve my confidence and social skills And improve my ability to interact with people? I have been out of work for 3 years btw...

yes , I worked in a calcenter . It was not that great , but I met some really nice people and learnt many new things !

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go to sikhi camps...............................theres a few across the country over the summer.....

take up kirtan, tabla lessons? start doing seva at the gurdwara................ you don't need to spend alota energy on being sociable, u need to direct the energy to a useful cause.............

once you get a job you will be fine, trust me you dont need to worry. just focus on your life, and read as much bani as you can

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