Please Help Me :(

[Guest A]

I need everybody's help so I don't start to lose faith in my religion. Here is my story:

It started about 6 months ago when my sister had a medical episode in our home. My family is very religious and I have always strongly believed in my gurus. My sister was diagnosed with nothing, she was let out of the hospital the same day, but i beg to differ. She has some sort of a medical disorder that is being left untreated. I have a strong feeling its Schitsofrenia. She has all the symptoms. My parents are keeping her problems secret so people don't talk about her. She is almost 30 and is still single. She also refuses to get help for her condition. She is very close to gurbani. Does paath all the time and her attachment with gurbani has increased after she was hospitalized. Keep in mind she is not amritari. She has cut her hair. Anyways, we do ardaas for her all the time but nothing is seeming to help.

Heres the other part to my story. Last month i had applied for several jobs to kick start my career in business. I had an employer that showed a lot of interest in me. In the end, i didn't even get a call for an interview. My health is deteriorating, i have so many medical conditions i can't even name them. Im only 23.

I have always believed in god, even if i havnt always gotten what I've asked for. I believe that everything happens for the better. Even though we think that what happened to us is "wrong", god does it for the better. BUT, for some reason i feel very angry with god for what is going on in my life. and I'm crying as i type this because i know deep inside its wrong to think that but what do i do???? why isn't baba ji helping me anymore? why arnt they listening to my and my families prayers? Honestly i don't even know what I'm really asking for help for but any positive reassurance from the sangat will help. Thnak you everybody

A

[simran345]

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Paaji, plz do not think that you are not worthy of help from waheguruji, as I have been thru that episode, and still sometimes go thru it. I also am in the same situation as urs. Its harder when you yourself have medical conditions. You are taking on a lot of tension and worry for others in the family too. I used to do this a lot, until I had to teach myself to say that I am the one with the medical condition also so I should lookafter myself first and its not that we should not care about our family, but sometimes we have to let go a bit and leave it to god as there is only so much we can do ourselves.

Yes you should encourage ur sister to go see a doctor or specialist, it wont go away by itself. Doing path and having faith in god is very very good, but also need help of those who have the knowledge to help, they are sent by god too to help people.

Have a talk with ur sister and tell her how u feel, with sincerity and how its affecting you.

Its not that god is not helping us, I always say this myself too,and others who dont understand somebodys situation are easy to judge.

God is there for everybody, Dont worry about ur job as in this day and age most people are in that situation, its hard to find work. Theres no work out there. Concentrate on ur health.

Its not wrong to cry, you are going thru a lot, but dont cry too much. Sometimes we go thru phases where life is downhill or things are not going right. We have to be strong and be able to accept its part of life, but it is difficult and emotional, thats y god made us human.

Get as much help as u can from the professionals, DONT EVER GIVE UP.

I used to keep my problems secret too, as in the asian community people judge and families dont tell each other wats wrong trying to paint a picture of a lovely life, which its not. But now i dont really care, if you've got a medical condition you've got it, it wont go away, and its nothing to be ashamed of. I just tell people wat i've got now, because I know somebody in somewhere in their family or relatives is likely to have a medical condition. Dont hide from the world, nobody is perfect. ITs just that some cover them up.

[JSinghnz]

-A-,

You will be alright with the Grace of Waheguru. Just get rid of all the negative thoughts from your mind and count your blessings. Make a list of the things you want to be done and ask God to do them for you. Ask Him with sincerity, with faith and see things happen almost immediately. He never ever lets His followers down. Do Simran, Do Sewa and then keep the sangat informed how things are going. We will also pray for you.

[Guest Guest]

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

Am no Doctor but will give some general tips for keeping Good Health.

1. Early to bed, early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.(Although same has yet to be proven in case of women :biggrin2: )

2. He who has hope has Everything.

3. Take an early morning walk atleast for 45 minutes. The fresh air is extremely good, walk helps to improves blood circulation and relieves stress.

4. Get Sunlight, it gives you Vitamin D. The deficiency can cause lot of problems.

5. First read the following

http://www.ayurvedas...ut_ayurveda.htm

http://www.ayurvedas...osha_theory.htm

then Consult an Ayurveda Specialist.

6. Drink Aloe vera, Amla or Noni juice and see the benefits.

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

[AmarjitKaur]

Here is what Gurbani says

Gur merai sang sda hai naale

simar simar tis sda smaale

guru myrY sMig sdw hY nwly ] gur maerai sa(n)g sadhaa hai naalae ||

My Guru is always with me, near at hand. ismir ismir iqsu sdw sm@wly ]1] rhwau ] simar simar this sadhaa samhaalae ||1|| rehaao ||

Meditating, meditating in remembrance on Him, I cherish Him forever. ||1||Pause||

and you might have read this too

Tu kahe dole paraniya, tujhe rakhega sirjanhaar.

Waheguru jo saadee mata de odar vich vee dekhbhal karda, when we are not capable of doing anything, why we get shaken by the tests of life. I know its easy to say for me now, as I am not going through tests. But believe me, I have got my fair share of pain and no guarantee that I won't see again. But only thing I usually pray for is that Guru sahib I know you will be ang sang always, just keep me on path and don't let me forget that you are ang sang when I am in good mental/physical states of my life and also when I am in not so good ones. Guru Sahib help me realize that its just another test and I will survive with your blessings and just don't let me ever loose faith in you.

[Big_Tera]

SSA, Pehn Ji.

First of all you are not alone. Many people suffer from health problems more then you would think even youngsters. So try and not get down about that. You must remain postive and any obstacle that comes in your way. You must be ready to beat it before it beats you.

Now you say you have health problems. That is life unfortunatley. But you have to stay active and the most important thing is to keep these health problems under control otherwise they may get worse.

you must find any voluntary work out there you can. your body needs to stay active but most importantly your mind to. you need to keep busy. do any job you can. I was made redundant and could find work for over a year. it was difficult. but then i just got a job in a fast food reasturant. it wasnt the best job in the world. but it got me back to work which is the main thing.

keep going. dont give up. remember sikhs are known to be fighters. and thats what you have to do.

[Guest harsharan000]

Please let us never never blame Wahiguru, Baba Ji, for our so called miseries. We have to bear in mind, that whatever good or bad happens to us, is nothing but due to our own karmas, our pralabdh karmas, which nobody can alterate, and we have to go through them by all means. So why blame Wahiguru? As we have sown, so we are reaping. If we have sown peppers =mirchi, we can not expect to reap mangoes. I do not want dishearten you, only I want to clarify your opinion on beloved Baba Ji. Yes we can pray Him to give us the strength to go cheerfully through our karmas. Yes, that He can give and do,but please once and forever let us stop blaming Him, for our own mistakes. It is hard, when one goes through hard times....but believe me, we as humans can only sympathize and try to remind each others in rememebering Him. Nothing stays forever, sooner or later passes away, this too shall pass away....The settlement of karmas are very strange for us humans...but it is so, it is not in anybody´s hands to manipulate or alterate.

Christ when crucified, said Father let thy will be done...though He was one with Him. Our beloved Guru Arjun Dev, was tortured...and still He said : tera bhaana meetha laageh, though He was Akal Purukh Himself; what could He not do if He wanted? Byt these Gurmukhs whenever they come to our level, they try to make us understand that the best thing we can do is to live by His will, let the nature flow in it´s natural course, that is to be wise.

Wahiguru as a perfect being, has made a natural law...we can not expect Him to adulterate it to profit someones..That is our weak human nature, we try to adjust everthing to ourselves...but He is not like that, or do we think He is our genius of Aladino´s lamp, to fulfill our desires at our ease?

[Guest Helper]

I saw this post this morning and felt that I wanted to offer some advice.

I believe that in order for Waheguru to help us we have to help ourselves first. Waheguru is with us and is listening to us but we have to let Waheguru in and that is by faith. Nothing happens overnight, we have to be patient.

Reading your post the problem isn't that you don't have faith in Waheguru because you do but the problem it seems is your thinking and attitude. Have you heard of the Law of Attraction (if not then please do look into this).

Law of Attraction is basically whatever we think is what be get back and experience. So if your always thinking negative and thinking 'why am I not getting a job?' then that's exactly what is going to happen, your not going to get a job.

We have to change our thinking to positive to see the results we want. By having these positive thoughts we must also have faith that Waheguru is answering us and will deliver the results we want but we have to be patient, nothing happens overnight and can take time, the key is to continue having faith.

For your job hunting, write down exactly the kind of job you'd like, go into detail if you want, read it out to Waheguru and then let it go and leave it to Waheguru. Have you heard of the saying 'Let go and Let God'?

Basically you let go of the worries of finding the right job and leave it to Waheguru to bring it to you. Sure you have to do your part and carrying on searching for the job but stop worrying. Everytime you begin to have a worrying thought change it to 'Waheguru is working and bringing the right job just for me and I have nothing to worry about' and then carrying on your day as you are.

Do you do paath? If so visulise having a job or whatever it is you may want. Feel like you already have it and then thank Waheguru.

As for your family situation again leave it all to Waheguru. Focus the thoughts you have on what you want the outcome to be on your family situation and again have faith that Waheguru will deliver. Please don't think Waheguru is not helping because by thinking that you will not get anywhere and will see no improvments. Changes will happen when you begin to have faith and leave it to Waheguru.

It all starts from within us. We have the power to create and change our lives through Waheguru's blessings.

I hope I have helped.

[Guest Mehr kar mere data]

After reading what you said, it's hard to sit here and give you advice because I feel extremely helpless too. That's how I found this site to begin with. All my life I thought I was so wise n what not but 2 years of hell and my faith is shattering. Sadness, helplessness, pain and failure is on my plate. N I'm only 20... Jus like your sister, my family is also hiding my situation. Mainly bcuz I'm a kuri ,hoping that soon everything will be fine. One thing I can tell you... U have no idea how much your love and support means to your sister. I have a brother just like you. And it means the world. Dont be so stressed, instead be healthy so atleast you can always be her support.

I can't tell u anything other than, baba ji is listening to you and you can't give up, you cant. Because Thers no other way, no other path.

Please don't give up.

I'll pray for you.

[Gurpreet14]

U cant question God............... Just luv him.... He will solve ur problems