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I'm Losing Faith In Sikhism. How Do I Tell My Parents?


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Okay I'm 16 Years old and I have found some discrepancies in Sikhism that have caused me to lose faith. First of all guru Nanak dev ji did all he could to avoid violence and he was automatically respected wherever he went. Guru gobind Singh ji was war oriented and proclaimed Sikhs as the warrior race. Guru gobind Singh ji also said that we must keep a turban and Kesh. On the other hand guru Nanak dev ji said in one of his sakhis where the pandit was tying a bracelet on him, that he won't wear it because no exterior feature will help someone reach god. In addition guru Nanak dev ji said that it doesn't matter what religion you are as long as you're one with god and are humble. Guru Gobind Singh ji said we should wear a turban because kings at the time wore it and we should be proclaimed as kings. In my opinion that's not humble at all. Guru Nanak dev ji said that we are all equal no matter what and you shouldn't care if you have something others don't. Guru gobind Singh ji gave us a turban so we stick out and be recognized as Sikhs. Again not humble. Also Sikhs are not allowed to have their backs and feet towards Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji. But guru Nanak dev ji in one of his sakhis guru nakak dev ji went to a mosque and pointed his feet towards Mecca which Muslims could not do but he said that god is everywhere. I believe in guru Nanak dev ji but not the others after him. I believe I should cut my kesh now because I don't see a reason to keep it. How do I approach my parents about this? They aren't really religious and my dad trims but he loves India and Indian culture. He's very authoritarian but how do I approach my patents about this?

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Atleast you had faith in Sikhism. What would you place your faith in AFTER you decide to cut your kesh and leave Sikhism?

Hey Guru Nanak Dev Ji AND Guru Gobind Singh JI BOTH kept their kesh (something that didn't stick out to you).

Turban is to keep your kesh intact. Do you have any other idea to keep your kesh intact without a Turban?

I think you're moving too fast at the age of 16. But just stay true to yourself. Don't give reasons to leave Sikhi if you just do not want to follow it anymore.

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa !! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh !!

Waheguru Ji,

in all those points , anyone can clarify you and prove you wrong to provide the correct picture.

did you ever even once tried to research on it?

but since you've already decided or already given bedava to guru sahib .

dont come running back once you know the real picture and shortcomings of your thinking

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Hey even I posted regarding the same...my bro wants to cut hair n he actually don't care about God.....

Yes u r right.....if we read the views of our Gurus there r diffrrences encountered......

But Its better to have a long hair n beards to make our identity...rather then cutting them n becoming equal to or same as muslims n Hindus.....

B proud to a have a reason for ur identity which makes u unique.... :)

Even I m not satisfied by few facts to sikhi that's y I have started reading Guru Granth Sahib g....to find out...what it is all about...

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Look if you really want cut it because you think it is just an outwardly display, then go ahead- you are free to make your choice.

Sikhism is not forced upon anyone.

Only after you have cut it, will you realize what it may have meant. Maybe you won't, maybe you will be happy and continue to be a mona.

Choice is yours, i'm not going on here to give you the benefits and importance of kesh.

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Hey even I posted regarding the same...my bro wants to cut hair n he actually don't care about God.....

Yes u r right.....if we read the views of our Gurus there r diffrrences encountered......

But Its better to have a long hair n beards to make our identity...rather then cutting them n becoming equal to or same as muslims n Hindus.....

B proud to a have a reason for ur identity which makes u unique.... :)

Even I m not satisfied by few facts to sikhi that's y I have started reading Guru Granth Sahib g....to find out...what it is all about...

What "few facts are you not satisfied to sikhi", child?

Maybe the Sangat can help you.

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