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Hello everyone,

so let me explain what is going on. I am a keshdari Sikh guy in University. I work out, have friends from every race/religion, I consider myself to be a social and fit guy who also holds Guru Jis teachings very strongly in his heart and I absolutely love Sikhi. Now, I've always had a bunch of female friends, talking to girls has never been a problem for me. Throughout High School, and at the beginning of Uni, I always wanted to start a relationship with a Punjabi girl. Most were friendly with me, but wouldn't go out with me. The few that did always ended it after a few dates, because they wanted short haired guys.

Of course it was disappointing, but I never once considered cutting my hair. If a girl didn't respect my hair, she wasn't worth my time, that was my train of thought. Looking back at it now, I can't believe I asked most of them out either, they may have been Punjabi, but they didn't have an ounce of Sikhi or Sikhi knowledge in their bodies, I wouldn't look twice at girls like that today.

So despite my experiences, I still maintained hope that I would end up with a Punjabi SIKH girl one day, I didn't pay much attention to girls who were not Punjabi/from Sikh backgrounds (although now that I reflect, most of the non-Punjabi girls I knew were a lot nicer, and I could have dated a lot of them, plus they didn't mind the turban/beard).

I live in an area with a very small ethnic population, so since Uni started, it has been harder for me to meet Punjabi girls. Last month, something unexpected happened to me. One of the white girls I have a class with, that I met at the beginning of the semester, asked me out. She is really smart, funny, we clicked the first day we met, plus she is extremely mature for her age, not the kind of girl who drinks or does drugs or goes clubbing and comes back at 3 am. Dare I say it, she acts more "Sikh" than almost all the Punjabi girls I've known throughout my life.

Anyways, so she asked me to go see a movie with her, and I said yes. It was a lot of fun and we've been out twice since then, and are going out again this weekend. She's pretty much everything I ever wanted in a girl: mature, does well in school, good morals and actually likes me for my beard and turban. She's been asking me about Sikhi since the beginning of the semester, when we first met (before we started dating), and she has a TON of respect for it, seriously I see her eyes light up when I tell her about Guru Arjan Dev Ji and Guru Tegh Bahadur Jis Shaheedis, the epic story of Vaisakhi 1699, the bravery of Mai Bhago leading an army of men into battle against an enemy of thousands, the sacrifice of Bhai Mani Singh and everything else that is our awesome history. She has been begging me to take her to Gurdwara, and like I said I live in an area with a few Sikhs, but the Gurdwara will be celebrating Miri Piri so that is when I will take her.

My question is, am I doing something wrong? I really couldn't ever see myself with a non-Punjabi girl, and this one isn't even from a Sikh background. I feel kind of hypocritical because one of my friends started dating a Muslim girl a few months ago, I was telling him he should stick to Sikh girls, so I feel a bit of guilt about this. On the flip side, she has wonderful morals and seems to really be interested in Sikhi. She has complete respect for the turban and beard and actually regards Guru Gobind Singh Ji as some sort of super hero lol.

So do I keep dating her and see what happens? Or would it be best if we part ways now, since I don't know how my parents will react (I've kind been doing it in secret).

you aint doing nothing wrong just make sure you convert your white gf who i assume is atheist or christian to Sikhi, Take her gurdwara, teach her gurbani. As for your Sikh mate who doing a muslim girl get him to convert her too. I noticed too alot of muslim girls are dating sikh guys but they tend to shy away from conversion because Sikh guys do not blackmail their chicks to convert for them nor do they teach them about Sikhism that needs to change but need to be done tactfully so that muslim girl doesnt get defensive about Islam rather she appreciates Sikhism more than she used to.

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Sikhs do not need to convert anyone , our Guru ji does not teach us that, but tells us to respect all religions, teach/tell her/him about sikhi and if she/he accept sikhi through love and respect of Guru ji then all the better. but better to know her/his views about this before you get in too deep like how/ which religion kids will brought up to follow etc.

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veer ji, Guru ji's Hukam is that an Amritdhari can only marry another Amritdhari. Not marry someone, and then have them take Amrit afterwards. so be careful before getting in too deep. also, sikhs are not allowed to mess about before marriage, not even a little. Not saying that you're doing that btw, but gorian usually have different mindsets. Race and caste shouldn't be issues for Sikhs, unless you're thinking about them in terms of cultural compatibility.

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New events and occasions always bring the best out of people, but over time majority don't get the same good feeling they did the first time and they lose faith in the whole service, task, marriage, relationship, etc. Those brought up in western culture are always changing their minds and they don't see anything wrong with breaking ties and starting new ones just to keep themselves happy. Happiness is the goal for western raised people and not contentment.

Read up on Sikh history and sakhis that are told about devotion to Satguru. Sri Chand failed so did Laskhmi das, along with other children of the Gurus. Listen to the sakhi of Baba Buddha ji rejecting Satguru's wife's request and why he rejected it.

A smart businessman does not hand over his key to his child after one successful week. Long hours, sleepless nights, many stressful weeks, and many mistakes the child learns from gets him the golden ticket to a multi-million dollar operation.

Four years of hard work need to be put in before achieving a university degree. Even afterwards the most difficult job is presenting yourself as a professional before a panel of interviewers that throw the most difficult questions from ethics to proper conduct.

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