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Jacfsing2 tips to deal with Kaam, (Note: not win, just deal with it!)

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Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! I made this thread as a way to give my own personal tips on how someone can limit the influences of massive increase in Kaam, these being pornography and masturbation, (Note: not doing these 2 does NOT mean you beat Kaam, but that's where the problem is started.) This is also the male version of the problems, I don't know the causes of females going towards these things, so I won't discuss too much on it, but; hopefully I can assist them as well. Also I'm not an expert on any of this stuff, just felt the need since it's a big topic to provide legit assistance. I will be adding more on, the first post is just intro. Some important things to note:

1. Why does someone have Kaam? Since the beginning of time, you have been carrying the power of Haumai, and from Haumai comes the 5 evils, one of these being Kaam and Kaam especially effects us, because of we have usually wanted to stay productive with reproduction and so in possibly many animal lives, we've been having sex like crazy people, these traits carried on till we became human, (which in a way tells us why some people have crazy fetishes).

2. Is Masturbation and Pornography related? My experience on this has been that they are only slightly related, but the reasons for them are different. Porn acts as a depresent; which means it's meant to take something from you; while masturbation happens due to circumstance-based. You can do both exclusively, but due to the nature of porn both usually go together.

3. Is there hope? This is the good news, and something we can be grateful for. That is the blessing of the greatest Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Nanak Dev Ji holding our hands and freeing us from all our past deeds, and gives our life true meaning instead of being Ghulamis to our own problems. The greatness of being a Sikh can not be comprehended into normal thoughts or words, and even Kaam himself surrenders at the name of the blessed Guru.

This is just a tiny intro on the basis of the issue, I plan to delve further into it, what my experience has been, why it's not going to be easy, and why there is hope for anyone if there can be hope for someone like me.

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28 minutes ago, Preeet said:

Vaheguru ji Ka Khalsa
Vaheguru ji Ki Fateh, ji!

As per my knowledge, kaam happens due to boredom/karma. All I can suggest is for you to practice Sri Sukhmani Sahib ji daily if you are not already. I have learned many things from Sri Sukhmani Sahib ji, such as ``do not do nindya``! I will admit, before I may have thought or spoken nindya about religions such as the Abrahamic ones due to my sangat, but in all honesty it is not worth it to even talk about them that way, & I ask for forgiveness for my sins. This life is just too precious and rare to recieve, that it should be spent through bhakti of Sri Vaheguru Sahib ji (rather than assuming the characters of religious individuals hum nehi chunge bura nehi koi). By doing nindya, we suffer! Just don`t speak negatively about anyone or anything, if you need to or have the feeling to say something negative about something just start saying ``Satnam Vaheguru`` jaap. As for kaam, I suggest you to also not to make a big deal about this. You are young, it`s normal for people to feel that way at that age, but what is to be realized is that just look at your kara that you wear, remind yourself of Sri Guru Gobind Sahib ji when you see it. 

Vaheguru ji Ka Khalsa
Vaheguru ji Ki Fateh

This wasn't really me asking for advice, but trying to provide advice.

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6 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

Bro, you must've been j@cking off all day if you've devoted so much time to developing a system to combat it! 

Personally, I've done it a lot. 😭 But I'm the type of guy who wants to know my imperfections, and make them less imperfect, (I can't be perfect that's an honor reserved for Vaheguru😇). I still remember once posting the "Masturbation" thread almost 2 years ago, which I accidently wasn't gupt for. I've also been going through a lot of non-Kaam related issues, so this Kaam stuff starts to be little stuff.

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7 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

Personally, I've done it a lot. 😭 But I'm the type of guy who wants to know my imperfections, and make them less imperfect, (I can't be perfect that's an honor reserved for Vaheguru😇). I still remember once posting the "Masturbation" thread almost 2 years ago, which I accidently wasn't gupt for. I've also been going through a lot of non-Kaam related issues, so this Kaam stuff starts to be little stuff.

Alright, there's kids on this forum, take it easy. 

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52 minutes ago, kalyugi said:

If I am going to boast about my celibacy streaks then I guess I also have to be truthful. I relapsed last night. I am not giving up just yet. So I am starting again today.

Day 1 starts today.

Everytime I relapse I will report here so that the shame of posting here will put me off from fap.

ps. What I have noticed is that there is a peak in energies after 3 days, 5 days, a week, thats when I am most vulnerable. Once I go past a week I will let you guys know how I did.

Vaheguru, honesty is very strong.

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We need a counter or even an online medal, like how currently on this forum the person who accumulates the most likes wins the day.

"Total days since fap." The longer you go without j4cking off, the longer you can extend your streak, so to speak. Have it appear under the user name.

Come on, jacfsingh, you're the Kaam master on this forum, get to brainstorming some ideas on how to lick this habit!

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2 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

Come on, jacfsingh, you're the Kaam master on this forum, get to brainstorming some ideas on how to lick this habit!

I may post more tomorrow. 

Kaam master? 😢, I am nowhere near winning, as long as I'm not Jeevan Mukt, that is. I'll be glad if this fight ends in this lifetime, my only goal is to assist people,(and myself through my own research and experience), not take them for some victory.

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12 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

I may post more tomorrow. 

Kaam master? 😢, I am nowhere near winning, as long as I'm not Jeevan Mukt, that is. I'll be glad if this fight ends in this lifetime, my only goal is to assist people,(and myself through my own research and experience), not take them for some victory.

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young padawan.

if you think of beating your meat, all you have to do is do something else, maybe get into a habit of reading books or start watching movies more often, think of something nasty, play games?

 

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