Hope you are feeling slightly better.
You’re only really going to step back and stop feeling all these emotions when you let go of the relationship. Let go, and if it’s meant to be you’ll change your feelings and it will work out. But for now you need to tell yourself you don’t want to be with him if he’s like this towards you. Write a gratitude diary every night, note 5 things that you appreciated that happened in that day. Although I would say simran is normally the way forward, I’m assuming thatvyou can’t focus? So maybe some daily positive affirmations will help you?
What’s wrong with you?
If Sat is telling you not all women fall under the assumptions that you are making, then why are you arguing back? Clearly she is not like this. I for sure am not either. Do you have a problem with women and authority? I think I read before that your mother believes marrying a girl who stops her education at 16 is best which is an extremely odd and random opinion to have. Have you had a very negative experience with a woman? That would explain the passive aggressiveness?
This isn’t 1995, it’s 2020. Where I come from, women don’t go to uni thinking about what man they can get as a result of studying, that’s last thing on an 18year olds mind. It also doesn’t mean a woman is desperate if she marries someone who makes less money than her. Have you conducted some research into the female brain? I doubt it. None of you sound to me like men who have had a string of relationships to really know multiple women and how they really think either so not sure how you think you are even qualified to make these opinions about what women think! 😆
P.S I hope you change the way you think of females if you’re ever blessed to have a daughter.
It's to keep the wealth in the family, its greed. When I used to to get my haircut we had a Pakistani there tell us the good thing about getting married in the same family is that the wealth stays in the family, while the bad thing is when arguments and divorces happen the entire family breaks up.
100s of years ago various clans that are now Sikhs used to get married within the same clan, so Sandhus would only marry Sandhus, Brars only married Brars, Dhillions only Dhillions, and each clan would live in the same area. It was the same with various Khatri clans aswell. At some point their leaders were smart enough and each clan broke up and spread throughout Punajb rather than living in one area, they all settled in different villages and they stopped marrying within the same clan and started marrying their daughters to different clans. This was a smart move, had this not been done then the effects could of possibly been devastating! And it would of had a lot of heavy negative impact on the Sikh community in terms on health once they had converted.
South asian Muslims on the other hand never followed this and continued inbreeding within the same families and clans.