Punishment methods for kids

[Guest Jigsaw_Puzzled_Singh]

On 6/20/2020 at 12:41 AM, Guest Parents said:

Why do you think we ignored what you wrote? Because we’re Punjabi. If my children are bad they get a good slap! That’s the way we do things. Giving kids a thapadh for being bad is as traditional as saag and mkee de roti  

And what am I ?......a Bengali ?     Who is this "we" that you talk about as if some homegeneous group that all think and act alike ?  My friend, who 'we' are as individuals is who we see ourselves as being. You like to see us as an uncouth group that habitually smacks children and I like to see ourselves as the people of philosophy who blew the minds of Alexander and the ancient greeks with our philosophical widsom. As I said in previous messages, the mayan people in Guatamala have unlocked this age old problem of child discipline. Learn from them.

[Ranjeet01]

Ideally physical punishment for children should be a last resort. 

There needs to be boundaries and repercussions for bad behaviour. 

[Guest Kaur.]

I think the majority of us were hit during childhood. I am a parent myself, the problem is we as parents are not taught the tools and strategies to discipline our children so we end up doing a bad job of it. 
 

pardon me, if I missed it but what exactly are you finding difficult? Is there a particular issue or concern? 

My daughter surprised me this morning when she came to me and apologised for her behaviour, she’s only 4 years old. No one told her to come and apologise. The issue was: She refused to brush her teeth as she wanted me to put the tv on. I explained that she could watch it once she was ready. I asked her if she would like me to help her or if she wanted to do it herself. She started to have a tantrum so I walked away (instead of getting angry and shouting at her or forcefully brushing her teeth). She was given the space to calm down and reflect. I walked away and that meant I didn’t get wound up either. You don’t and should not hit a child. Based on my own experience, You as the adult can help the child to change their behaviour by changing your own behaviour. 
 

please don’t hit your children, you just need to find what works.