Please keep lighting the candles, it is just your "vahem", that he is blowing them out.
It is not him blowing candles, it is you yourself by minding and taking to heart his constant provocations. Just do not mind him at all, he will keep trying, that is his job, you just ignore him totally, everybody knows you, and everybody knows how he is, so you need not his acceptance, just leave him to himself, he will never change, maybe he is not even aware of his wrongdoings, so no matter how hard we may try, he will never accept or recognize his behavior, so brother just ignore him totally, do not waste your time to prove yourself right to him, he will keep on trying to provoke you umpteen times, so leave him, JUST IGNORE HIM, it is not worth at all, AND YOU KEEP POSTING, WE LIKE YOUR POSTS.
I was thinking more harbingers of social and civilisational shift with ramifications beyond the immediate present; a distasteful and worrying glimpse of things to come that might point to a continuing degradation of the current Dharmic cycle. Like this:
When you can't express yourself freely in your own home, the end is around the corner.
A scenario: someone bombs a Gurdwara in London. Sikhs around the country are incandescent with rage. A few Sikhs say some rather uncomplimentary things about Islam and Muslims in the privacy of their home within earshot of Google Alexa or Apple's Siri. A few hours later the Old Bill are beating down your door, looking to arrest you for being an Islamophobe. Far fetched? Maybe, but extrapolating current trends into the future, and it doesn't seem so difficult to believe.
You're posting domestic things that have been occuring since the dawn of Man give or take a few situational differences in context. Think bigger.
I remember eating parshada at a sarbloh bibeki singhs house. The daal was very plain and there was really no turka, no mirch and not that much salt. Even though it was unique to me, it tasted so good! He was reciting bani while making it and the funny thing is when i went home after eating his parshada I was really in the mood to do simran. So I did some after sodar and read more bani than usual.
Another sarblohi told me that mirch, gatta etc raises tamo gun.