Jump to content

story about a good friend of mine who we potentially have lost

Harditsingh

By Harditsingh,
in GUPT FORUM

 Share

Recommended Posts

Harditsingh Rising Star

Harditsingh

Posted
Posted

ok i will try to keep this as short as possible.

i wanted to get something off my chest and didnt know where to put it but here goes i wont mention names for privacy reason.

my friend we will call him S. I grew up in the same street as S. We were both punjabis and sikhs and our immediate neighbourhood had quite a few punjabis and whites. I met S well playing outside when i was around 10 or 11 during grade 6. his mom and my mom became immediate friends and we would hang out. when we turned 14 he was HEAVY into khalistan movement and loved our culture and religion. he would go Gurdwara and do seva regualry at Nagar kirtan etc. stayed away from smoking drinking and girls and was a very respectable guy. Even though he was a mona he loved our community. 

Something changed during the time we turned 17 after highschool we drifted apart but still kept in touch. He started hanging out with a different crowd. These guys werent punjabi but of another group and they got him into crime. From what I hear these guys mentally destroyed him and his self esteem. He never at the gurdwara doesn't go to nagar kirtans and cant remember last time hes even hung around us or even any other apneh for that matter, His mom cries every night and i still get calls here and there from her asking if ive seen him.  I know where he is and what hes up to but i dont want to cause his mom stress.

it just hurts me so much what happened to S and i know that if he didn't fall  in with these guys he wouldn't turn out this way. I feel guilty because before this time i got way into the negative side of punjabi culture like partying, girls bhangra etc S was never into these things and I guess he started feeling isolated because I admit we stopped calling /hanging out with him because he would just act awkward around girls and we drifted apart and thats when he started hanging with these guys

0
Link to comment
Share on other sites
Kau89r8 Grand Master

Kau89r8

Posted
Posted

Agree with learningkaur....you should really try arrange a meeting to see him. He might be feeling guilty and his ego in his way for the wrong path hes fallen into.

Think of him as your brother/son.....tell him its okay you've fallen into wrong path but its not too late to turn around and ask Guru for forgiveness and get yourself on right track..Tell him him it not too late but one day it'll be too late if you cont down dangerous path...and those guys are just 'temp friends' and will ditch you once they done with you. 

The guys he hang out with from another faith...? (Halal) 

You'll be doing seva getting back to Sikhi ....at least try ...if he's doesn't' listen then thats his choice but at least you tried....

We dont want to lose more of our youngsters. There was one video of Granthi mentioning if ppl have fallen wrong path away from Sikhi, we shouldn't shun them its our duty for those who can to help them and bring them back. 

2
Link to comment
Share on other sites
Guest jigsaw_puzzled-singh

Guest jigsaw_puzzled-singh

Posted
Posted
On 8/10/2020 at 4:00 PM, Kau89r8 said:

Agree with learningkaur....you should really try arrange a meeting to see him. He might be feeling guilty and his ego in his way for the wrong path hes fallen into.

Think of him as your brother/son.....tell him its okay you've fallen into wrong path but its not too late to turn around and ask Guru for forgiveness and get yourself on right track..Tell him him it not too late but one day it'll be too late if you cont down dangerous path...and those guys are just 'temp friends' and will ditch you once they done with you. 

The guys he hang out with from another faith...? (Halal) 

You'll be doing seva getting back to Sikhi ....at least try ...if he's doesn't' listen then thats his choice but at least you tried....

We dont want to lose more of our youngsters. There was one video of Granthi mentioning if ppl have fallen wrong path away from Sikhi, we shouldn't shun them its our duty for those who can to help them and bring them back. 

Simran Kaur. You may have come back here under a different name but your general unpadhness will follow you wherever you go. You will always be Simran from sikhsangat.com

 

0
Link to comment
Share on other sites
Kau89r8 Grand Master

Kau89r8

Posted
Posted
On 8/12/2020 at 1:43 AM, Guest jigsaw_puzzled-singh said:

Simran Kaur. You may have come back here under a different name but your general unpadhness will follow you wherever you go. You will always be Simran from sikhsangat.com

 

.............

Im not 'Simran' and my name starts with M and this is my first and only account i joined this year (Ask mod for conf)

Who are you?! 

0
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

Loading...
×
 Share
Go to topic listing
  • advertisement_alt
  • advertisement_alt
  • advertisement_alt


  • Topics

  • Posts

    • ipledgeblue
      Baba Vadbagh Singh ji

      By ipledgeblue · Posted

      lol dal panth Panj told me explicitly not to associate with Vadhbhag Singh Sodhi followers!
    • Singh1989
      All Gurdware should be like this

      By Singh1989 · Posted

      We have lamp (or Jyot) the pure unscented candle for a reason. Traditionally, Patis used candle light (jyot), so they could read SGGS in darkness. Light, elec didn't exist. Dhoop is used to attract the "Good spirits" but also keep freshness where Maharaj will be.  Interestingly and coincidentally I heard Sakhi a few dsys ago. During Dasa Pitha's time these souls were roaming the Earth and even Sangat noticed. Maharaj asked them "y u here?" They replied during recitation of SGGS and making Degh they didn't bother lighting candle. THAT WAS THEE ONLY REASON NO GATI WAS GIVEN TO THEM!!!  AUTHENTICITY NOT CHECKED I heard once on YT like 2 days ago.  If u apply dhoop in one room of your house twice a week u will notice a difference esp in the smell and freshness of that room. 
    • Singh1989
      Self care of hair

      By Singh1989 · Posted

      Sangat ji, With the hot weather as per Guru's Hukm, how can we look after our kes?  First of all the beard! Working in Construction, factory and any other heated environment I UNDERSTAND! At my workplace it's over 32 degree celcius and sometimes we have to lift 20kg ALL! DAY! My tips, regularly shampoo the beard during ishnan. APPLY OIL! The technique of applying oil is by rubbing it thoroughly in the roots. Pay attention to the noise esp on the chin. You will hear this "crosh crosh" noise. Keep rubbing oil until u can't hear it no more! This means the oil has blended in properly.  Second tip on beard, keep an extra kanga in your pocket. Every two, three hours give your beard a proper comb down to get rid of any sweat or stickiness. SECOND BENEFIT! Do this all 12 months every single day your beard will look like it's been professionally groomed. TRY IT! People will ask you "What gel u use? How can yer beard be naturally like that?" You can say all I use is coconut oil or whaeva oil but just comb the beard every 2-3 hours for a minute.  As for the kes, morning time get rid of all the gronjra (or knots - forgotten English word), in the morning. However, during evening comb down make sure you get rid of small remaining gronjra and comb yer hair nice and straight. You will feel soooo so relaxed. Yes our hair will go unnoticed due to Dastar, but our hair demands time and self grooming!So proper combing down, spending a good 15-20 mins most evenings is an absolute MUST!  Most evenings I let my hair down and cover hair with my parna for 2-3 hours so it gets to relax from the tying up.  FINAL TIP! We are Sikhs so we keep fighting and remember this! The tradition of Dastar and uncut hair started in India, where the weather is twice as hot. Everytime we bring this thought in the mind, Guru ji will bless us and make us feel cooled down by a notch.  Fateh.       
    • ipledgeblue
      Nidar Singh Nihang X The Ranveer show podcast

      By ipledgeblue · Posted

      Been so much nindya and attacking Shastarvidiya since the 2000s, however if we look at gatka now it's still mostly as poor and poorly taught as it was back then, still morris dancing moves and still behzti moves in BBC shows about sikhi and vaisakhi. If people were going to attack shastarvidiya, wouldn't have made sense to improve gatka instead and make it more effective? Additionally, the Nihang Singh presence has improved greatly now, and the cracks within the the SGPC and affiliated jatha jathebandis are showing more greatly as panth becomes more knowledgable with dasam bani and itihas day-by-day, so much gyaan which was lost within panjabi sikhs during colonial times. In the 2000s, the groups were able to talk down this bani and  gyaan by associating it with  RSS and hindus, brahminwaad etc. Not working so well now is it? However with gyaan it would be also good for us to try and preserve our martial arts and keertan vidiya as well! More and more crazy keertan videos are coming out from jatha members that are being made fun of and making sangat annoyed and upset, on tiktok and instagram reels.  
    • Not2Cool2Argue
      Why are starched turbans hated?

      By Not2Cool2Argue · Posted

      Author Posted April 24   On 4/21/2025 at 2:43 PM, ipledgeblue said: sirr should not be nanga because keski is usually worn.   Sikhs can sleep nanga-sirr if they choose to . Being from Punjab, almost every Sardaarji i know (amritdhari or not) sleeps/showers with their hair uncovered. I don't think Guru Sahib asked us to wear Dastar to sleep and I don't think it is in SRM.   The idea of "keski being worn to sleep" is cos in Bollywood films (Bachna Ae Haseeno) Sikh characters usually tie a gol parna when sleeping since the actor's usually Hindu. So they gotta cover his head somehow or he'd have cut hair. Same reason Diljit wore a pagg to bed in the El Sueno vid. Only time they didn't do that was in Gadar with Sunny Deol which just looked odd tbh   What in the world? What sikh or even a decent human would base their knowledge of their culture or religion on a movie industry, that too Bollywood?  Believe me, no sikh ever said, I must cover my head becasue an actor did so in a movie. I've been doing it all wrong, I must start covering mh head because the sikh in that movie did.  Just because every panjabi and sardaar you know, does something, also doesn't make it right..  Follow the guru. And if you have a medical condition, then exemptions can be made.  Just admit it, because of my medical condition, I am not able to follow this rehit. Why are you getting everyone else to drop to your level?
×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

Terms of Use

  I accept