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On 9/1/2020 at 1:10 PM, Not2Cool2Argue said:

Why is that a problem? Wouldnt you want to move to a place with high population of sikhs? 

I settled my life here and most of my family and friends are here now. I have migrated to Australia and I know how hard it is to Start from the scratch, no energy to migrate to new place again. I am happy here and I made my future plans here according to my current life here. hope you understand what I mean.

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On 8/24/2020 at 2:47 AM, Guest Singh13 said:

I am gursikh guy over 30 now and finding really hard to find an Amritdhari girl in Australia. 

if I search any other country than India, then Moving from Australia becomes the  problem. 

Veer if you can find an Amritdhari girl in Australia or New Zealand then great. But you also should keep your options open with non-Amritdhari or Hindu Punjabi matches who do not drink alcohol and eat meat and are willing to progress in Sikhi with you in the future.

Young ladies from Singapore, Malaysia, Thailand, Indonesia and the UK could well open to moving to Australia too (but focus locally as Melbourne is the Sikh stronghold in Australia). Obviously in India there is a shortage of women to imbalanced gender leaving many Amritdhari men without spouses in Punjab. So whilst Punjab may be a good bet for you on an individual level it does in turn leave another Amritdhari Bhai less chance (if people continue to insist upon Amritdhari or Sikh spouses). The Sikh population's fertility rate is now below replacement level in Punjab due to so many Amritdhari men not giving consideration to non-Amritdhari or non-Sikh spouse. 

On 8/30/2020 at 12:29 AM, Guest SSS said:

Hi I am also having the same trouble veerji. I am from Sydney and to explain the situation to others, Australia now is like the UK in the 60s, ie many young first generation migrants on student visa are the majority of the Sikh community.

Yes true the Sikh community in Australia has a much younger demographic but there are older Sikh women in their 30's looking for spouses in UK (and India) if you are finding it difficult to find someone in Australia. Melbourne community is bigger than Sydney.

On 9/1/2020 at 11:26 PM, Koi said:

Mate, I'm in the same boat in the UK, and I'm 33. It is indeed hard, and i sympathise with you greatly. And I do share your apprehensions about India. 

I know friends who found luck searching online (Shaadi.com etc.). I guess it's just about casting a wide net.

Good luck Veer. Even though Sikhs should be getting married ideally between the ages of 21-24 or 25-29 at the very latest in order to statistically have more and healthier children with less difficulty in becoming parents, please don't think you are alone and don't limit yourself in terms of possible choice. From what I remember AkaliFauj, DallySingh101, Ranjeet01 are all older than you too so this is clearly a big problem in the Diaspora where 99% or more of folks are non-Sikhs. Meanwhile by the time our Sikh grooms and brides get married our Pakistani Punjabi counterparts are becoming grandparents!

Essentially it is better for Singhs to marry non-Amritdhari girls or non-Sikh girls than remain unmarried forever.

Hopefully you find someone local as the the phenomenon of Sikh men going to back to Punjab is in turn causing a problem for Diaspora women who are finding a corresponding shortage of Sikh men (just like Sikh men are finding in Punjab due to the gender imbalance and Sikh females marrying NRI's)

 

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On 9/13/2020 at 1:58 AM, Guest Marry in 20's best said:

Essentially it is better for Singhs to marry non-Amritdhari girls or non-Sikh girls than remain unmarried forever.

I think the Hajoor Sahib sikh families are a great example of Singhs settling in the area by marrying girls not from Singh families, actually from hindu families, and those women becoming sikhnis! And at the the same time, they are really good at preserving rehit whereas punjabi sikhs are currently poor at keeping rehit including those who call themselves as amrit-dharis or gursikhs! 

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