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Been feeling really detached last few weeks,  not in a spiritual way or anything like that,  but emotionally feel detached and away from family, friends  haven't been gurdwara for 2 weeks either. 

Not sure if it's a phase or idnno .... 

I don't feel depressed, but just very removed and uncaring. 

I hear something bad or terrible but don't feel emotional or down. See something terrible in the news and I feel unmoved by it. 

My cousin sister came around the other day all upset and said how her dad gets drunk and calls her very derogatory pubjabi words. And I didnt feel upset or sad, didnt feel sympathy. I just sat there listening, felt nothing. 

My parents have never got on and they had a massive argument and my mother asked for a divorce and I didnt feel anything at all, I was just sitting there on my laptop. I don't think they will separate but I really couldn't care less if they separate!  I feel absolutely nothing at all. My mother looked really distressed and broken and I didn't feel the need to comfort her. Just felt blank. 

I just feel so removed and detached from all these things.

I'm not depressed, I still can have a good laugh ... 

But i just don't feel sad or upset or emotional when I should. I just can't respond to these things. 

I never used to be like that. 

Not sure if it's the lockdown or idnno ... 

Maybe it's a phase. 

I could literally leave home today and I won't feel anything. 

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Get off the internet for a few days or a few weeks if you can do it. I think you're emotionally overwhelmed to the point where a person just switches off. Too much mental stimulation.

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Same. 

I tried getting off the internet for a few days. That kind of helped. I'm trying to find a new hobbie and have started to be a bit more active. I'm always in my own world.

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Get off the Internet as other people are suggesting. I think you might have reached a point where all the stuff around you has reached a limit and you're (involuntarily) switching off emotions just to cope. 

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Yeah the last 2 weeks or so iv mainly used internet to watch katha, kirtan etc 

Havnt watched a movie, netflix etc for around 2 weeks now. 

I dunno ... 

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15 hours ago, Ranjeet01 said:

You could have something called 'compassion fatigue'.

Like not able to feel compassion?

 

 

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6 hours ago, puzzled said:

Like not able to feel compassion?

 

 

Kind of. You get that a lot with people who work in the NHS, like nurses. 

When see or hear about problems all the time, you see too much of it and it get too much of it that you get tired of it and you adapt to it by becoming detached. 

It's like a survival mechanism.

I think with lockdown over last 6 months with your family it has become more tense. 

What you need more probably is a holiday and a change of scenery. 

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12 hours ago, puzzled said:

Like not able to feel compassion?

 

 

You have to try and combat this, because although some people may well deserve your detachment from them because of their dysfunctional behaviour, others in your family (i.e. the younguns) might need protection from it. 

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