WEDDING ?!?!?!?!?!

[Guest SikhForLife]

is there a detailed guide of how a sikh wedding should be...

there are so many websites that explain the anand karage procedure yet all of them say that putting mehndi on, putting a choora for 40 days, and the brothers pushing the doli , is FINE and acceptable in sikhi.. could some one show some light on this issue

i realize how traditions can be important to some people.. but surely their significance is not ..

(doli: signifies the bride is being delivered to the groom's house)

[Karen Kaur]

Im pretty sure at the times of the gurus.. some weddings must have taken place outdoors, ..... no ??? :T:

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well mayb they were outside mayb not we really dont kno but a gurdawara is also as beautiful as the outdoors but then point has to be taken that if u want to have it outside it must be clean etc

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[Mahavir]

What would you consider outdoor?

A wedding under a tent?

If you mean totally outdoor with no roof, then I think it would be something new.

I think getting the whole thing set up would be a hassle. But I guess it could be done.

You could lay out some sort of blankets on the grass and have Guru ji’s palki in the front.

I would say go for it!

[Gurjeet_Kaur]

is there a detailed guide of how a sikh wedding should be...

this one's ok, it could be better though..

http://www.sikhmatrimonials.com/s/AnandKaraj

How to Perform the Anand Karaj

1. Set up the Gurudwara as usual, making sure there is enough room for the couple getting married to walk around the Siri Guru Granth Sahib. A full-volume, Gurmukhi Bir of the Siri Guru Granth Sahib is used.

2. Guruprashad is present before the Laava(n) starts.

3. Begin the wedding with Kirtan, which can be of any length depending upon the desires of the parties involved and the time available. The couple(s) getting married sit as a part of the Sadh Sangat.

4. The Mininster addresses the sangat and directs the couple to come and sit in front of the Siri Guru Granth Sahib, with the bride on the left side of the groom.

5. The Minister explains the Sikh concept of marriage emphasizing what the couple is about to commit. This is the approriate time to describe the meaning of the four rounds. (The Minister is discouraged from interrupting the Laava(n) once it has begun.) The Minister may ask the couple to affirm that they understand and are ready to proceed.

6. The Wedding Ceremony now begins by the ragis reciting Keetaa loree-ai kam. This Shabad states that a Sikh will always begin a venture of any kind with

Ardas. It should not be too long, rather sung as part of the ceremony, not as a prolonged Shabad.

7. Ardas is recited in order for the family to seek the blessings for the couple. For this Ardas, only the one reciting the Ardas, the couple and the parents or acting guardians stand. This is a special time for the family, giving their children unto the Guru, and close friends, other family members and the Sangat should respect this. This Ardas should distinctly ask for the blessings of this couple and not include many other requests. Agia bhai akal ki is not recited after this Ardas. Bole So Nihal, Sat Siri Akal is done.

8. Hukam. The Granthi takes a Hukam from the Siri Guru Granth Sahib, which should be recorded for the information of the couple, then turns to page 773 where the Laava(n) begins.

9. Palaa. The Palaa is the shawl folded lengthwise which links the couple throughout the marriage ceremony. The ragis sing the Shabad Palai tendai lagee as the palaa is being placed over the shoulder of the groom. The right end is placed in his hands and the left end is given to the bride to hold, by her father or the one acting in that capacity.

10. The Granthi reads the First Round in Gurmukhi. At this time the English translation may be recited. The ragis now sing the First Laava(n) as the couple rises and slowly, meditatively walks clockwise around the Siri Guru Granth. The man leads the woman, both holding on to their ends of the palaa. After the round is completed, simultaneously with the ending of the first Laava(n), the couple bows and sits, waiting for the second round. A common practice is for close family members and friends to stand behind the Guru as a show of support and love for the couple. This must be done with consciousness. There should not be so many people that the ragis or the Minister or the Guru are blocked from the sight of the sadh sangat. A gentle touch on the back or smile can be shown, but it is inappropriate for them to talk to the couple, whisper in their ears, j

oke with them, pull them, hug them, at this time. The couple is participating in one of the most sacred ceremonies of their life and this should be respected.

11. Second round is done the same as the first.

12. Third round is done the same as the first.

13. Fourth round is done the same as the first. As the couple finishes circling the Siri Guru Granth Sahib for the fourth and last time, the Sadh Sangat may shower the couple with flower petals in joyous exaltation and congratulations while the ragis sing Viaa hoa mere baabolaa. The flower petals have been distributed to individuals during the third round, with an explanation to the guests when to throw the petals. According to Sikh Codes of Conduct the couple has been officially married by the Guru at this point.

14. The Minister may close with a few words and make a legal pronouncement of marriage.

15. The couple may simultaneously feed each other fruit at this time as the first act of marriage. If they have rings, they may exchange them at this time. (This is not part of the Sikh traditions, but is not contra-indicated either.)

16. If the wedding takes place during a regular Gurdwara, the couple returns to their place with the Sadh Sangat and Gurdwara resumes.

17. If this is a wedding only, the couple returns to their place with the Sadh Sangat while an Ardas is read for the entire sangat and another Hukam taken for the entire sangat and Guruprashad distributed. In Sikh Dharma of the Western Hemisphere protocol, the Song of the Khalsa is sung before the Ardas.

Remember that . . .

A wedding ceremony is open to all, and no one may be excluded. A simple Lungar can be served for all and, if desired, a more formal reception may be held elsewhere, with limited invitations according to one’s budget and personal choice.

Photographers should be instructed to be as conscious as possible, with awareness of the sacredness of the Court of the Guru.

A Sikh Minister should conform to the

laws of the country and be sure the couple has obtained the required license prior to the wedding ceremony.

The Minister can let the couple know that s/he is available to them for questions, counselling or support during their marriage.

[V]

is there a detailed guide of how a sikh wedding should be...

there are so many websites that explain the anand karage procedure yet all of them say that putting mehndi on, putting a choora for 40 days, and the brothers pushing the doli , is FINE and acceptable in sikhi.. could some one show some light on this issue

i realize how traditions can be important to some people.. but surely their significance is not ..

(doli: signifies the bride is being delivered to the groom's house)

Mehndi and 40 day stuff = Bipran ki reet :wub:

The man leads the woman, both holding on to their ends of the palaa

I'm sorry too be picky, But WHY

can't the women lead the man - she might have a higher spiritual Avatstha than the man

bhull chukk maaf

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

[Guest balwinderkaur]

The man leads the woman, both holding on to their ends of the palaa

I'm sorry too be picky, But WHY

can't the women lead the man - she might have a higher spiritual Avatstha than the man :T:

bhull chukk maaf

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

that's because we live in a patriarchal society. personally, i don't see anything wrong with the girl leading the guy or both of them walking side by side.......however that will seem quite weird cuz the guy has led the girl during the Laavan since time immemorial so much so we're pretty used to the sight of the groom leading the bride. That's my guess and I do not know much. :wub:

[Guest rsingh]

however that will seem quite weird cuz the guy has led the girl during the Laavan since time immemorial so much so we're pretty used to the sight of the groom leading the bride. That's my guess and I do not know much. :wub:

I dont see anything wrong with it, but as panji said, itll just raise a few heads. Then again u cud be starting new trends :T:

is there any significant gurmat reason y the singhnee follows the singh?

[guruji's_student]

me think its cus the girls gettin married into the boys family, so hes taking the girl away Lol summink like that!

fateh x

[khalsa mero roop]

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

This topic is well interesting

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

[V]

Well we need to Remember that a lot has been effected by Panjabi culture, I.e dowry, Mehndi, 40 days etc etc

Loka ne ta boli jana e - it's their job, so let's do it this way - ALL Singhs reading - Your going behind your SInghnee in ur Anand Karj!!! - to Signify Equality and that anyoen can go before, cause orelse other people ask as well - what kind of equality is this that the man goes before.

Or how about two Lava each :wub:

Now that the feminist inside me is done talking....

bhull chukk maaf

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!