KAAM!!!

[palvinder88]

Waheguru

[anjaan]

Vaheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Vaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

hey, i jst want 2 say that i think u come 2 the right place 4 advice, some chardi kalla Sikhs out here who can perhaps help u, i would also like 2 say that u hav made the 1st step in confronting ur problem by admitting it, good on ya :TH:

as 4 advice, what you could do is get another member in ur family or a friend 2 set up filter thing on ur internet settings whereby each time u access the internet u are restricted frm visiting certain sites, this could be password protected by them, so when u are on line u cannot visit these sites?jst a suggestion

but i hope u dont give up on ur Sikhi - remember kaam is one of 5 vices, dont give in2 it! You're stronger than that!

i hope what i have suggested is of sum use 2 u

bhul chuk maarf

Vaheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Vaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

[Akaal Purakh Di Fauj]

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

mad respect for admitting your problem bro

hmmmm....I think Mkhalsa wrote a fighting Kaam guide....ill look for it and post the link!

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

[sher_panjabi]

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

My humble suggestions:

1/ Imagine and feel that Guru Gobind Singh Ji is watching you and with you - what would you do? see? say?

2/ If you died at that moment (for any reason) - would you like to die with your mind absorbed in sexual images?

3/ Do Ardaas that you will make a stand and that you need Guru Jee's help.

Those are my humble suggestions.

Other tips which I have read about:

1/ when you get an urge/your mind wanderst towards Kaam - then breathe in slowly and deeply (mentally saying VAAHE), then hold your breath for few secs then let go and breathe slowly and deeply out (mentally saying GUROO).

2/ cold shower/ishnaan

3/ do lot of exercise/ physical sport - when your body sweats and uses energy - the energy your body uses for kaam is used up in the energy used for physical exercise/sport.

4/ Put a parental block on your website barring you to view pornographic or explicit websites

:TH: good luck and very brave of u to be honest

i am sure others on sikhsangat will be able to help u as well.

raab raaka!

[sikhi]

The trick is to first do Adras to Waheguru Jee then keep away from Newspapers, Magazines, TV, Keep the PC in central location. It will be hard it may be easy if you stop reading the papers and rubbish Magzines first then watch less TV so on. Spend more time listening to Kirtan, read Gurbani, Naam Simran. All this will happen with Waheguru jees Blessing. You have taken the first step today. Always try to keep your Amritvela.

[GuruManeyoGranth]

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

Manvir Veer Jee wrote this:

2/  If you died at that moment (for any reason) - would you like to die with your mind absorbed in sexual images?

Bhagat Tirlochan says in Raag Gujri on Ang 526:

AMiq kwil jo iesqRI ismrY AYsI icMqw mih jy mrY ]

a(n)th kaal jo eisathree simarai aisee chi(n)thaa mehi jae marai ||

At the very last moment, he who thinks of women, and dies in such thoughts,

bysvw join vil vil AauqrY ]2]

baesavaa jon val val aoutharai ||2||

shall be reincarnated over and over again as a prostitute. ||2||

Waheguru

[immortalsingh]

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

only Guroo jee can save you in the form of THEIR sangat .. ... sangat of sikhs ...... sangat sangat and more sangat.

gauVI guAwryrI mhlw 5 ]

nYnhu nId pr idRsit ivkwr ]

sRvx soey suix inMd vIcwr ]

rsnw soeI loiB mITY swid ]

mnu soieAw mwieAw ibsmwid ]1]

iesu igRh mih koeI jwgqu rhY ]

swbqu vsqu Ehu ApnI lhY ]1] rhwau ]

sgl shylI ApnY rs mwqI ]

igRh Apuny kI Kbir n jwqI ]

musnhwr pMc btvwry ]

sUny ngir pry Tghwry ]2]

aun qy rwKY bwpu n mweI ]

aun qy rwKY mIqu n BweI ]

drib isAwxp nw Eie rhqy ]

swDsMig Eie dust vis hoqy ]3]

kir ikrpw moih swirMgpwix ]

sMqn DUir srb inDwn ]

swbqu pUMjI siqgur sMig ]

nwnku jwgY pwrbRhm kY rMig ]4]

so jwgY ijsu pRBu ikrpwlu ]

ieh pUMjI swbqu Dnu mwlu ]1] rhwau dUjw ]20]89]

Gauree Gwaarayree, Fifth Mehl:

The eyes are asleep in corruption, gazing upon the beauty of another.

The ears are asleep, listening to slanderous stories.

The tongue is asleep, in its desire for sweet flavors.

The mind is asleep, fascinated by Maya. ||1||

Those who remain awake in this house are very rare;

by doing so, they receive the whole thing. ||1||Pause||

All of my companions are intoxicated with their sensory pleasures;

they do not know how to guard their own home.

The five thieves have plundered them;

the t

hugs descend upon the unguarded village. ||2||

Our mothers and fathers cannot save us from them;

friends and brothers cannot protect us from them

they cannot be restrained by wealth or cleverness.

Only through the Saadh Sangat, the Company of the Holy, can those villains be brought under control. ||3||

Have Mercy upon me, O Lord, Sustainer of the world.

The dust of the feet of the Saints is all the treasure I need.

In the Company of the True Guru, one's investment remains intact.

Nanak is awake to the Love of the Supreme Lord. ||4||

He alone is awake, unto whom God shows His Mercy.

This investment, wealth and property shall remain intact. ||1||Second Pause||20||89||

Bhai Vir Singh jee suggest that whenever we falter we must do pray for kirpa to Almighty Guroo Granth Sahib jee . as indicated in second pause of the shabad above if Guroo jee bless us with THEIR kirpa then we will be safe.

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

[immortalsingh]

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

Awsw mhlw 5 ]

cwir brn cauhw ky mrdn Ktu drsn kr qlI ry ]

suMdr suGr srUp isAwny pMchu hI moih ClI ry ]1]

ijin imil mwry pMc sUrbIr AYso kaunu blI ry ]

ijin pMc mwir ibdwir gudwry so pUrw ieh klI ry ]1] rhwau ]

vfI kom vis Bwgih nwhI muhkm Pauj hTlI ry ]

khu nwnk iqin jin inrdilAw swDsMgiq kY JlI ry ]2]3]132]

This Shabad is by Guru Arjan Dev Ji in Raag Aasaa on Pannaa 404

Aasaa, Fifth Mehl:

The four castes and social classes, and the preachers with the six Shaastras on their finger-tips,

the beautiful, the refined, the shapely and the wise - the five passions have enticed and beguiled them all. ||1||

Who has seized and conquered the five powerful fighters? Is there anyone strong enough?

He alone, who conquers and defeats the five demons, is perfect in this Dark Age of Kali Yuga. ||1||Pause||

They are so awesome and great; they cannot be controlled, and they do not run away. Their army is mighty and unyielding.

Says Nanak, that humble being who is under the protection of the Saadh Sangat, crushes those terrible demons. ||2||3||132||

sqI phrI squ Blw bhIAY piVAw pwis ]

EQY pwpu puMnu bIcwrIAY kUVY GtY rwis ]

EQY Koty stIAih Kry kIcih swbwis ]

bolxu Pwdlu n

wnkw duKu suKu KsmY pwis ]1]

Throughout the other seven watches of the day, it is good to speak the Truth, and sit with the spiritually wise.

There, vice and virtue are distinguished, and the capital of falsehood is decreased.

There, the counterfeit are cast aside, and the genuine are cheered.

Speech is vain and useless. O Nanak, pain and pleasure are in the power of our Lord and Master. ||1||

isrIrwgu mhlw 1 ]

Amlu glolw kUV kw idqw dyvxhwir ]

mqI mrxu ivswirAw KusI kIqI idn cwir ]

scu imilAw iqn soPIAw rwKx kau drvwru ]1]

nwnk swcy kau scu jwxu ]

ijqu syivAY suKu pweIAY qyrI drgh clY mwxu ]1] rhwau ]

scu srw guV bwhrw ijsu ivic scw nwau ]

suxih vKwxih jyqVy hau iqn bilhwrY jwau ]

qw mnu KIvw jwxIAY jw mhlI pwey Qwau ]2]

nwau nIru cMigAweIAw squ prmlu qin vwsu ]

qw muKu hovY aujlw lK dwqI iek dwiq ]

dUK iqsY pih AwKIAih sUK ijsY hI pwis ]3]

so ikau mnhu ivswrIAY jw ky jIA prwx ]

iqsu ivxu sBu ApivqRü hY jyqw pYnxu Kwxu ]

hoir glW siB kUVIAw quDu BwvY prvwxu ]4]5]

This Shabad is by Guru Nanak Dev Ji in Siree Raag on Pannaa 15

Siree Raag, First Mehl:

The Great Giver has given the intoxicating drug of falsehood.

The people are intoxicated; they have forgotten death, and they have fun for a few days.

Those who do not use intoxicants are true; they dwell in the Court of the Lord. ||1||

O Nanak, know the True Lord as True.

Serving Him, peace is obtained; you shall go to His Court with honor. ||1||Pause||

The Wine of Truth is not fermented from molasses. The True Name is contained within it.

I am a sacrifice to those who hear and chant the True Name.

Only one who obtains a room in the Mansion of the Lord's Presence is deemed to be truly intoxicated. ||2||

Bathe in the waters of Goodness and a

pply the scented oil of Truth to your body,

and your face shall become radiant. This is the gift of 100,000 gifts.

Tell your troubles to the One who is the Source of all comfort. ||3||

How can you forget the One who created your soul, and the praanaa, the breath of life?

Without Him, all that we wear and eat is impure.

Everything else is false. Whatever pleases Your Will is acceptable. ||4||5||

as ordered by Guroo jee .... tell your troubles to Guroo jee who are always within you.

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

[moorakh mugadh]

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

only Guroo jee can save you in the form of THEIR sangat .. ... sangat of sikhs ...... sangat sangat and more sangat.

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

yes yes yes

[palvinder88]

wjkkwjkf..sangatji..i thanks alot to u guys/girls..for helping me out to end ma pro..i think i will do it... must try alot..guru maharaj bless u guys...wjkk wjkf...