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If the Love for God is "ture" then NOBODY can take it away. If "somebdy" is able to take it away then it was NOT a true love. There are many different religions but acme of all religions is to realize ONE god. There may be people following different religion but their destination is the SAME God.

Marrying with a person following similar religion helps in the initial stages. But once u reach at a level then religion shoud not make a difference.

This is what I think.

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It was only to be a matter of time before this word 'love' was introduced to this discussion, a term so difficult to describe and understand due to it's many different forms.

Point 1:

As mentioned by others, our sole purpose on this Earth, in this body is to remember Waheguru, Naam Japna, Kirt Karna, Vand Chakna to ultimately attain Sach Khand (and be one with God spiritually and leave the cycle of births and deaths)

Point 2:

We are supposed try to keep our lives free from the 5 evils/vices: Lust, Anger, Greed, Attachment, Pride (and this is very difficult!)

Point 3:

As Sikhs we are supposed to respect all religions and see the light of God in everyone, however that doesn't make it right to marry outside of your religion.

Same religion marriages are not just "convenient" they ensure the future of the religion. As mentioned early in the thread, if you have inter-religious marriages what will you bring your children up as????? Or will they even have a religion?????

Point 4:

You can love a person for who they are, their personality, kind heart etc and those people who have fallen "in love" or believe in it will find this hard to accept but in that time that one has taken to get to know this person, take them out for dinners, movies blah blah, that person has sacrificed their time with Guru Ji.

In a way it is the lust for understanding (to be understood) that allows you to meet the person and when you like them for understanding you and "clicking" then it turns into attachment because you don't want to lose that understanding.

So therefore the 'love' that people believe is important when getting married is usually a sympton of lust and attachment.

Point 5:

You can grow to "love" your partner even if you didn't know them before marriage. If you are blessed enough with Naam then you will build your lives and your spirituality together. Your love of Guru Ji and your Sikhi in general will bring you together because your beliefs, your morals, your rehat is similar/same so once again you have understanding, but this wasn't lusted after this was given to you.

Point 4:

Everything happens with Guru Ji's Hukam n ot because we want it to. Therefore those who are taken away from Sikhi whether through mixed marriages or any other reson that was Guru Ji's hukam due to their karam from their previous lives

Point 5:

Love is a different topic as to whether or not you should or shouldn't marry outside Sikhi.

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It's quite ironic that quite a few Amrit-Dhari's are saying that it's wrong to marry outsaide Sikhi yet they wouldn't even marry in all of Sikhi due to their 'Jatha's' and those of us who aren't Amrit-Dhari's are openly trying to make our parents understand their is no caste system and try to promote 'inter-caste' marriages as it's the only way we know to abolish the caste thing again.

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I hope I have not offended anyone this was not my intention, please forgive me for any mistakes as if I were your little sister.

Guru Fateh Ji

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Hindus believe in multiple gods, Sikhs Believe in One.

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Sorry, just have to say that actually Hindu's do not believe in multiple Gods, they only believe in One God (however even a lot of Hindu's don't even understnad this!).

Hindu's believe in 1 God but most Hindu's (who are not Arysamaji) worship personifications of God's characteristeics. E.g Shiva is the destructive side of God.

However there are many issues with their beliefs, I am not sayig it's ok to marry a Hindu just wanted to straighten out the misunderstanding.

Bhul Chuk Maaf

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i have seen alot of interracial marriages espicially with sikhs girls with muslims etc and they dont last long at and have alot of conflicts....i think we got a real problem with ours gals marrying to ppl outside sikhi, it hurts i dont know why...

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I'm really sorry but I have to say that I am not happy with what you have said here. Why is it that you feel it necessary to blame us girls, why is it the girls that we have a problem with?????? you must live in a really secluded environmet if all you see is our girls marrying outside because what about the boys. Off the top of my head i could name a guy married to non-Sikh white girl, non-Sikh black girl and a Muslim and I could name loads that are in boyfriend-girlfriend relationships outside of Sikhi. But I could also name a few girls like that too but it's not just the girls.

I'm in my last year of uni, just finishing and from what I've seen the boys are losing touch. . . In high school the Sikh boys and girls all looked out for each other and stuck together, why is it that as we've all got older that has changed.

I've been part of the uni Sikh Soc for 4 years, do you want to explain why it's got more female participants than male? I mean even if we wanted to find our own boys how are we supposed to do it when they don't make the efforts to interact with us. They'd rather sit in the SU and drink all day playing snooker and eyeing up the girls and the AmritDhari's keep themselves to themselves, very few come out and really talk to you.

Soory people, I know I've gone off the topic and I apologise, just rattled my cage a little.

Bhul Chuk Maaf

Guru Fateh Ji

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i just have one bentee

people on this threadhave used their ownthinking

i can love girl without having kaametc.

out of marrie relations ok if no kaam etc etc

even though u might thinkt hat u are thiking in the divine wisdom or watever

wat it is actually manmat

the wisom of this man, the mind

we must learn to follow gurmath

guru je de sikhia

read bila singhs post and answer line by line wat u think is wrong with his interpertaon of banee, IF u can see anthing wrong

btw

check out damdamitaksal.com under marrige

reightnamai show a sikh must be married to sikh

this is told by panj tooforget the thinking of ure mind

accept the teachings of guru je

bhula chuka maf

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i just have one bentee

people on this threadhave used their ownthinking

i can love girl without having kaametc.

out of marrie relations ok if no kaam etc etc

even though u might thinkt hat u are thiking in the divine wisdom or watever

wat it is actually manmat

the wisom of this man, the mind

we must learn to follow gurmath

guru je de sikhia

read bila singhs post and answer line by line wat u think is wrong with his interpertaon of banee, IF u can see anthing wrong

btw

check out damdamitaksal.com under marrige

reightnamai show a sikh must be married to sikh

this is told by panj tooforget the thinking of ure mind

accept the teachings of guru je

bhula chuka maf

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Fogive me but god has given us a mind to thing and contemplate as well...we are not to become drone like. Without using our own thinking we are machines subjective to any suggestion and view of another. Do you ever question... why? that is a notion that you are thinking, your mind is thinking. Well if you do then according to your thinking it is manmat.

The thinking that love can happen without kaam is a very much reality, to think it is manmat is obsurd. Do you not try to become, absorb, begin to practice the wisdom you read? It is wisdom of the highest and the possiblity of this exists within everyone. The further in Love you tread the further away from Sexuality, Lust, Attachment you go.

This surrender which you speak of can only be when you have become so exausted by your thoughts your views, that the only thing is left is to surrender. Without thinking on our own views how can we surrender our thinking if we had not begun in the first place? How can we find it if we had not lost it to begin with?

Fortunate are you who has surrender his own thinking. :doh:

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Gupt dassan daas is right, it is manmat. You cannot say that surrendering your own thinking is wrong, because there are plenty who have chosen to do so and have lived the gursikh's life. To become a gursikh, one must surrender their own thinking, and live by guru ji's teachings. The only use the mind has are for activities that are not explicitly gurmat, and deciding what is panthic and anti-panthic.

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We should remember that God made every human on this earth. He loves every person of every religion because they are all his children. No one person is closer to God than another. We may call God by different names, but they all mean "Father". Only when we die, we will know the truth.

I believe that every religion teaches something positive, that you cannot deny is right. They each hold truth and have similarties.

The combination of two religions will bring something more positive.

Remember before the Gurus, before Mohammed, there was God. That one constant in every religion.

It's not wrong to marry someone of another religion, you will be marrying another person that God loves.

I don't see why a Sikh should stop practicing sikhism once he marries a Catholic. Or vice versa. Their children can be brought up respecting both religions. It can work.

I believe everyone has a valid point. It is far easier to marry someone of the same religion. But easier doesn't mean better. Once you fall in love all of it is easier said than done.

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