Mother And Laava (marriage Ceremony)

[Akali]

GuruFateh!

I have heard from certain elders that a Mother can not see her son's Laava take place in the Anand Karaj. I have also been at weddings where this practice has occured. I would like to know people's view on this. Personally, I find it wrong. The Laava are a very religous ceremony so why can't the mother see something that special?

However, if I am wrong, please forgive me and state quotes from the Guru Granth Sahib.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

[Cksinghani]

I cant see what is wrong with the mother seeing the laava of her sons wedding does anyone know why? I allways thought it was a punjabi thing and not a sikhi thing but could be wrong not sure.

[gupt_paapi]

seems lyk its made up :wub: i min wot kinda marraige will happen without the son's mother everytym ive seen the sons mother with the son! emi bakwaas ah. if it dusnt agree wid guru ji, it is rong

[guruji's_student]

hmm ive never heard of this before... thats strange!! ... cus i think thats some myth to be honest.. as a mother has a right to see her son's lavaan ... also be equal !!

ermm .. thats weird lol

[Balwinder Kaur]

yea...anyone can see the laavan of another couple...not just mother versus son. these things that someone cant see the laavan of another person eg. her son, is just a superstition IMO.....sikhs are not supposed to believe in all this.

[Akaali]

No you can't! You will go straight to hell.

[Cksinghani]

OK you'll go straight to hell you better tell all those old bibyan at the gurdwara i think it is one of those punjabi supertstitions that some people belive in but im sure cuz of that they wont go "directly to hell dont pass go and collect £200"

[GuruManeyoGranth]

Waheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

As far as I understood it, it used to be a Punjabi cultural thing back in the Pinds, where the mother and all other girls would stay behind from the grooms side, and then welcome the bride back with the "Janaet" in the evening. Back in the day, only the guys used to go in the Janaet.

Some people interpreted this tradition to be a superstitious ritual forbidding the guy's mother seeing the wedding. There is nothing in Gurmat to stop the guy's mother seeing the wedding ... only Punjabi tradition.

Bhul Chuk Maaf

Waheguroo

[anjaan]

lol it's perfectly fine for a mother to see her son's lavaan!

gosh!

at this wedding once this mother was curious so she told someone to go and ask Sant Baba Takhur Singh ji if she was allowd to be there and Baba ji was like i have never heard anything so absurd and he asked the mom to stand up and ask for forgiveness in front of Guru ji and the sangat - but she was to embarassed so another lady apologised on her behalf!

lol come you're not going to say it's not ok for someone to sit with Sangat in Guru ji's charan?!??! lol ya but the mom would rather go to the party afterwards full of evils such as alcohol, meat and cigarettes! makes a lot of sense hey! :wub:

[Cksinghani]

yeh i was at the same wedding in pleck wasnt it where babaji told the guys mom to ask for maafi