Advice Needed Plz Plz Help!

[Harsharon]

fateh!

I have not yet taken amrit, but this is somethink that i would like to do. My parents they don't eat meat, drink cut their hair etc. they also believe in god. Nevertheless their belief is that if i was to take the amrit that i would not be able to keep, but the real reason is that they are just saying that because they think that if i was to take the amrit and wear the dastaar that no one will want to marry me. This is the real reason but they say it in a indirect way so that i don't get hurt. Is there anything that i could say to them.

I just think they are too overprotective, as i am an only child they don't want me to do the wrong thing and want the best for me. They don't realize how upset i am over this. They just try to fix me up with these random guys who are just cold hearted and just want a wife. I have tried to explain to them, i have even expreesed myself about the passion that i have for sikhi, but they still refuse to understand this fact.

Is there anything that i can, if anyone could give me advice on what to do them plz plz plz could you. I mean I know that i am ready to take amrit, as you may have seen i have posted a post before which outlines what maryada i should follow and so. From this I have come to a conclusion that there is no true or whast people call real maryada, because the only maryada that is true is the Guru Granth Sahib jee, and all the maryada eg. takhsali, akj, nanaksar etc are there to guide people and remind people of what not to do.

Back to the point though, I can do my 5 bania in the morning and I basically lead a strict life already. There is just this one thing that has been bugging me for some time. I thought to myself that if i was to tell the sangat on this forum about this first then they might think that i was a melodrama etc. But i was wrong, however the sangat on this fprum helped me the most, and reading other peoples post and finding out the way that people help each other out i was amazed. Vaheguru!

Just want to say thank you to everyone who has put up this forum, and plz plz could someone advice me on what i should do?

thank you

harsharon

p.s sorry about the long post, i think i had to let my feelings out some way! sorry about the speeling mistakes!

[singh_comradz]

I'll keep it real short sis

Lol same situation as me. If you wanna take amrit then go for it. Everyone goes through these sort of situations and suprisingly it's the parents who try to dissuade their children from taking amrit by telling them scare stories. I guess they don't want to instill the Khalsa spirit into their children.

But yeah don't be swayed by these sort of situations, it's just kaljug which doesn't want you treading on this path.

Keep following the path and Guru Ji will take care of all!

[Harsharon]

Thank you :lol:

[chandanjit kaur]

Gurfateh ji

yo panji....chillax....ima there too....and so are many others....like sikh comradz sed...its da darkness uv kaljug....you keep faith in guru ji.....keep doin simran ......its da best advice anyone could give....becuz guru ji is watchin ya....HE knows wat ya goin through....and if ya beg HIM for help......HE shall come running to ya......so dun lose hope....if ur brave and have dat courage uv a singhnee and have full faith in guru ji.....u will take amrit.....my parents are exactly da same....yet ima younger then you so i no in da marraige age...yet there like it'll have a big effect on ur future life...watever...watever......jus keep beggin guru ji for himmat....becuz only HE can really help....make HIM ur friend....talk to HIM.....u'll get out uv this darkness panji.....dun worry! :e: ....and welll ima moorakh and i made thousands uv mistkes....pleez forgive me .....bhul chuk muaf ji....stay strong panji!!! :e:

Gurfateh ji

chardi kala!!! :lol:

[Sabre Sword]

it's the parents who try to dissuade their children from taking amrit by telling them scare stories.

And people wonder why alot of sikh youth are so misguided.

[munjoth]

penji,

make sure u are also japping at least 2 hours a day of naam, then u'll see everything fall into place...give it a few months ..coz without naam everything is useless including rehit etc etc...as the whole point of rehit,bani etc is to strengthen ur naam

[sher_panjabi]

Bhenji I would like to share with you two quotes regarding obstacles:

“If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere.”

- Frank A. Clark quotes

“The block of granite which was an obstacle in the pathway of the weak becomes a stepping-stone in the pathway of the strong”

- Thomas Carlyle

Daas has written an article on daas' blog regarding the issue. Check out the article, it may be of use to you:

I Want to Take Amrit, But MY PARENTS!

[Gods Will]

Vaheguru!

penji,

i am so happy to hear that you are so close to taking amrit and giving ur head... if u need advice and stuff i wud suggest u goto a sikhi camp cos u can find so many chardikala gursikhs...

i dnt know where abouts u from.. but if u in uk i can reccomend Sikhi camp (www.sikhicamp.org) - i have been to this camp a few times and some of the sevadaars are next level.... another gud camp wud be khalsa camp but ive never had the chance to go there yet... if u from canada/america ways im sure theres plenty of camps and stuff going on... trust - sangat will make everything clear....

if u want a suggestion, i would advise u try get ur parents on the path towards amrit as well!!!... bless them with stories and the power of naam, encourage seva... hopefully if they build up the piaar to the extent they want amrit as well then they will have no objection.....

bhul chuk maaf,

daas

[Harsharon]

Bhenji I would like to share with you two quotes regarding obstacles:

“If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere.”

- Frank A. Clark quotes

“The block of granite which was an obstacle in the pathway of the weak becomes a stepping-stone in the pathway of the strong”

- Thomas Carlyle

Daas has written an article on daas' blog regarding the issue. Check out the article, it may be of use to you:

I Want to Take Amrit, But MY PARENTS!

Thank you this and all the other replies that i have had fro, people even PM'S have helped me alot. I hope i just have the strength to keep on going like this. may be even get my parents to take the amrit. This is one challenge that i will face, but then again life is all about tests. Life is a test. that is why i have learnt that you have to live it to the fullest, even if it means going against your parents wish, they will notice one time or another that their daughter is right. THANKYOU

fateh! :lol:

Vaheguru!

penji,

i am so happy to hear that you are so close to taking amrit and giving ur head... if u need advice and stuff i wud suggest u goto a sikhi camp cos u can find so many chardikala gursikhs...

i dnt know where abouts u from.. but if u in uk i can reccomend Sikhi camp (www.sikhicamp.org) - i have been to this camp a few times and some of the sevadaars are next level.... another gud camp wud be khalsa camp but ive never had the chance to go there yet... if u from canada/america ways im sure theres plenty of camps and stuff going on... trust - sangat will make everything clear....

if u want a suggestion, i would advise u try get ur parents on the path towards amrit as well!!!... bless them with stories and the power of naam, encourage seva... hopefully if they build up the piaar to the extent they want amrit as well then they will have no objection.....

bhul chuk maaf,

daas

Thank you as well! I live in the USA. BUT i have a problem that my parents don't like me socialising, ecspecially going to the gurdwara. They are toooooooooooooo over protective. Like living in some kind of jail. I think this is the only way that i can express my feelings. But i am lucky to have brothers and sisters like you and other veer jis and penjis to help me decide on what i should do.

May vaheguru help me get through this test and help me give my head very soon. VAHEGURU!

THankyou

fateh!

[chandanjit kaur]

Fateh

panji.....have you ever looked at it this way....that mayb in ur "pichhle janam" ur entire famiyl was amrit-dhaari but u wer da only one who didnt wanna be amrit-dhaari....now it came out da exact opposite thatu wanan be amrit-dhaari btu ur entire family is agenst it........its guru ji's test......to pass it you need himmat...where can you get this from?......naam japo.....non-stop!!!!.....becuz then you will make guru ji happy......and wen guru ji's happy....HE'll wanna help you more then anything....so then wen you gonna do a sachi,pyaar bhari ardas....HE will listen to evry one uv your words and HE'll help yuo no matter wat....becuz HE luvs you panji......and HE knows how much you wana become HIS true daughter.....keep faith......be strong!!!! :TH:

Fateh