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people on here are laughing, but they have never been in a situation like yours. They are lucky that god has blessed them so that they have not been tempted to get into a relationship. so please, i humbly ask all of those people to stop making fun because god has a different path for each of us, and some are just less fortunate to fall in love with another person. i myself have been in love and probably am still in love with someone, but all we can hope for is that god puts us on the right path and keeps us by his side.

You are partially right veeray, but we are not laughing at her, atleast I am not. I just find it funny that people do things that obviously have nothing to do with Sikhi, yet they post on a Sikh forum asking for advice, so what do we do? Loving is human, she should tell her parents like he has told his parents. She says her mom isn't strict which is good. Why is she hesitant then? Just tell parents on both sides and sort the matter out. If they don't agree, then I am not sure what to suggest.

im so sorry, i wasnt laughing at her either in a harsh way.

sorry to all,

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to the original poster:

1) you are in love therefore you will not listen to anyone not even your own mother.

2)its your life - your actions will have consequences SO what choice will you make.

3) people here are just going to confuse you.

4) at the moment ur parents dont know are you ready to handle the crap they are gona give you when u tell all over one guy

5) is he willing to stand by you when ur parents (it could happen) say no and object you to marrying this guy

you need to do some growing up and ask urself some serious questions because marriage is for life not just for fun you know.......how about u get ur wish and marry him against ur parents wishes.......and u need help can u handle the fact that ur family may not want to help you.......

i dont want to put further doubts in your mind BUT u need to ask yourself is this guy worth it and not just from a lovey doevy way BUT in a serious for the rest of ur life way?

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dyvgMDwrI mhlw 9 ]

Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree, Ninth Mehla:

jgq mY JUTI dyKI pRIiq ]

In this world, I have seen love to be false.

Apny hI suK isau sB lwgy ikAw dwrw ikAw mIq ]1] rhwau ]

Whether they are spouses or friends, all are concerned only with their own happiness. ||1||Pause||

myrau myrau sBY khq hY ihq isau bwiDE cIq ]

All say, ""Mine, mine"", and attach their consciousness to you with love.

AMiq kwil sMgI nh koaU ieh Acrj hY rIiq ]1]

But at the very last moment, none shall go along with you. How strange are the ways of the world! ||1||

mn mUrK AjhU nh smJq isK dY hwirE nIq ]

The foolish mind has not yet reformed itself, although I have grown weary of continually instructing it.

nwnk Baujlu pwir prY jau gwvY pRB ky gIq ]2]3]6]38]47]

O Nanak, one crosses over the terrifying world-ocean, singing the Songs of God. ||2||3||6||38||47||(translations from sttm)

vahiguroooo

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You know there are so many threads on this forum where people actually discuss Sikhi, but it doesn't get that many views or replies. Now there is one thread like this one and see the number of views and responses.

fer kende saddi kaum da ki banuga...dissda jo bann'na...

:) thats what i was thinking

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I did ardaas and took a hukumnama for you.

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ਰਾਮਕਲੀ ਮਹਲਾ ੧ ॥

Rāmkalī mehlā 1.

Raamkalee, First Mehl:

ਸਾਹਾ ਗਣਹਿ ਨ ਕਰਹਿ ਬੀਚਾਰੁ ॥

Sāhā gaṇeh na karahi bīcẖār.

You calculate the auspicious days, but you do not understand

ਸਾਹੇ ਊਪਰਿ ਏਕੰਕਾਰੁ ॥

Sāhė ūpar ėkankār.

that the One Creator Lord is above these auspicious days.

ਜਿਸੁ ਗੁਰੁ ਮਿਲੈ ਸੋਈ ਬਿਧਿ ਜਾਣੈ ॥

Jis gur milai so­ī biḏẖ jāṇai.

He alone knows the way, who meets the Guru.

ਗੁਰਮਤਿ ਹੋਇ ਤ ਹੁਕਮੁ ਪਛਾਣੈ ॥੧॥

Gurmaṯ ho­ė ṯa hukam pacẖẖāṇai. ||1||

When one follows the Guru's Teachings, then he realizes the Hukam of God's Command. ||1||

ਝੂਠੁ ਨ ਬੋਲਿ ਪਾਡੇ ਸਚੁ ਕਹੀਐ ॥

Jẖūṯẖ na bol pādė sacẖ kahī­ai.

Do not tell lies, O Pandit; O religious scholar, speak the Truth.

ਹਉਮੈ ਜਾਇ ਸਬਦਿ ਘਰੁ ਲਹੀਐ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥

Ha­umai jā­ė sabaḏ gẖar lahī­ai. ||1|| rahā­o.

When egotism is eradicated through the Word of the Shabad, then one finds His home. ||1||Pause||

ਗਣਿ ਗਣਿ ਜੋਤਕੁ ਕਾਂਡੀ ਕੀਨੀ ॥

Gaṇ gaṇ joṯak kāʼndī kīnī.

Calculating and counting, the astrologer draws the horoscope.

ਪੜੈ ਸੁਣਾਵੈ ਤਤੁ ਨ ਚੀਨੀ ॥

Paṛai suṇāvai ṯaṯ na cẖīnī.

He studies it and announces it, but he does not understand reality.

ਸਭਸੈ ਊਪਰਿ ਗੁਰ ਸਬਦੁ ਬੀਚਾਰੁ ॥

Sabẖsai ūpar gur sabaḏ bīcẖār.

Understand, that the Word of the Guru's Shabad is above all.

ਹੋਰ ਕਥਨੀ ਬਦਉ ਨ ਸਗਲੀ ਛਾਰੁ ॥੨॥

Hor kathnī baḏa­o na saglī cẖẖār. ||2||

Do not speak of anything else; it is all just ashes. ||2||

ਨਾਵਹਿ ਧੋਵਹਿ ਪੂਜਹਿ ਸੈਲਾ ॥

Nāveh ḏẖoveh pūjeh sailā.

You bathe, wash, and worship stones.

ਬਿਨੁ ਹਰਿ ਰਾਤੇ ਮੈਲੋ ਮੈਲਾ ॥

Bin har rāṯė mailo mailā.

But without being imbued with the Lord, you are the filthiest of the filthy.

ਗਰਬੁ ਨਿਵਾਰਿ ਮਿਲੈ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਸਾਰਥਿ ॥

Garab nivār milai parabẖ sārath.

Subduing your pride, you shall receive the supreme wealth of God.

ਮੁਕਤਿ ਪ੍ਰਾਨ ਜਪਿ ਹਰਿ ਕਿਰਤਾਰਥਿ ॥੩॥

Mukaṯ parān jap har kirṯārath. ||3||

The mortal is liberated and emancipated, meditating on the Lord. ||3||

ਵਾਚੈ ਵਾਦੁ ਨ ਬੇਦੁ ਬੀਚਾਰੈ ॥

vācẖai vāḏ na bėḏ bīcẖārai.

You study the arguments, but do not contemplate the Vedas.

ਆਪਿ ਡੁਬੈ ਕਿਉ ਪਿਤਰਾ ਤਾਰੈ ॥

Āp dubai ki­o piṯrā ṯārai.

You drown yourself - how will you save your ancestors?

ਘਟਿ ਘਟਿ ਬ੍ਰਹਮੁ ਚੀਨੈ ਜਨੁ ਕੋਇ ॥

Gẖat gẖat barahm cẖīnai jan ko­ė.

How rare is that person who realizes that God is in each and every heart.

ਸਤਿਗੁਰੁ ਮਿਲੈ ਤ ਸੋਝੀ ਹੋਇ ॥੪॥

Saṯgur milai ṯa sojẖī ho­ė. ||4||

When one meets the True Guru, then he understands. ||4||

ਗਣਤ ਗਣੀਐ ਸਹਸਾ ਦੁਖੁ ਜੀਐ ॥

Gaṇaṯ gaṇī­ai sahsā ḏukẖ jī­ai.

Making his calculations, cynicism and suffering afflict his soul.

ਗੁਰ ਕੀ ਸਰਣਿ ਪਵੈ ਸੁਖੁ ਥੀਐ ॥

Gur kī saraṇ pavai sukẖ thī­ai.

Seeking the Sanctuary of the Guru, peace is found.

ਕਰਿ ਅਪਰਾਧ ਸਰਣਿ ਹਮ ਆਇਆ ॥

Kar aprāḏẖ saraṇ ham ā­i­ā.

I sinned and made mistakes, but now I seek Your Sanctuary.

ਗੁਰ ਹਰਿ ਭੇਟੇ ਪੁਰਬਿ ਕਮਾਇਆ ॥੫॥

Gur har bẖėtė purab kamā­i­ā. ||5||

The Guru led me to meet the Lord, according to my past actions. ||5||

ਗੁਰ ਸਰਣਿ ਨ ਆਈਐ ਬ੍ਰਹਮੁ ਨ ਪਾਈਐ ॥

Gur saraṇ na ā­ī­ai barahm na pā­ī­ai.

If one does not enter the Guru's Sanctuary, God cannot be found.

ਭਰਮਿ ਭੁਲਾਈਐ ਜਨਮਿ ਮਰਿ ਆਈਐ ॥

Bẖaram bẖulā­ī­ai janam mar ā­ī­ai.

Deluded by doubt, one is born, only to die, and come back again.

ਜਮ ਦਰਿ ਬਾਧਉ ਮਰੈ ਬਿਕਾਰੁ ॥

Jam ḏar bāḏẖa­o marai bikār.

Dying in corruption, he is bound and gagged at Death's door.

ਨਾ ਰਿਦੈ ਨਾਮੁ ਨ ਸਬਦੁ ਅਚਾਰੁ ॥੬॥

Nā riḏai nām na sabaḏ acẖār. ||6||

The Naam, the Name of the Lord, is not in his heart, and he does not act according to the Shabad. ||6||

ਇਕਿ ਪਾਧੇ ਪੰਡਿਤ ਮਿਸਰ ਕਹਾਵਹਿ ॥

Ik pāḏẖė pandiṯ misar kahāveh.

Some call themselves Pandits, religious scholars and spiritual teachers.

ਦੁਬਿਧਾ ਰਾਤੇ ਮਹਲੁ ਨ ਪਾਵਹਿ ॥

Ḏubiḏẖā rāṯė mahal na pāvahi.

Tinged with double-mindedness, they do not find the Mansion of the Lord's Presence.

ਜਿਸੁ ਗੁਰ ਪਰਸਾਦੀ ਨਾਮੁ ਅਧਾਰੁ ॥

Jis gur parsādī nām aḏẖār.

One who takes the Support of the Naam, by Guru's Grace,

ਕੋਟਿ ਮਧੇ ਕੋ ਜਨੁ ਆਪਾਰੁ ॥੭॥

Kot maḏẖė ko jan āpār. ||7||

is a rare person, one among millions, incomparable. ||7||

ਏਕੁ ਬੁਰਾ ਭਲਾ ਸਚੁ ਏਕੈ ॥

Ėk burā bẖalā sacẖ ėkai.

One is bad, and another good, but the One True Lord is contained in all.

ਬੂਝੁ ਗਿਆਨੀ ਸਤਗੁਰ ਕੀ ਟੇਕੈ ॥

Būjẖ gi­ānī saṯgur kī tėkai.

Understand this, O spiritual teacher, through the support of the True Guru:

ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਵਿਰਲੀ ਏਕੋ ਜਾਣਿਆ ॥

Gurmukẖ virlī ėko jāṇi­ā.

rare indeed is that Gurmukh, who realizes the One Lord.

ਆਵਣੁ ਜਾਣਾ ਮੇਟਿ ਸਮਾਣਿਆ ॥੮॥

Āvaṇ jāṇā mėt samāṇi­ā. ||8||

His comings and goings cease, and he merges in the Lord. ||8||

ਜਿਨ ਕੈ ਹਿਰਦੈ ਏਕੰਕਾਰੁ ॥

Jin kai hirḏai ėkankār.

Those who have the One Universal Creator Lord within their hearts,

ਸਰਬ ਗੁਣੀ ਸਾਚਾ ਬੀਚਾਰੁ ॥

Sarab guṇī sācẖā bīcẖār.

possess all virtues; they contemplate the True Lord.

ਗੁਰ ਕੈ ਭਾਣੈ ਕਰਮ ਕਮਾਵੈ ॥

Gur kai bẖāṇai karam kamāvai.

One who acts in harmony with the Guru's Will,

ਨਾਨਕ ਸਾਚੇ ਸਾਚਿ ਸਮਾਵੈ ॥੯॥੪॥

Nānak sācẖė sācẖ samāvai. ||9||4||

O Nanak, is absorbed in the Truest of the True. ||9||4||

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You know there are so many threads on this forum where people actually discuss Sikhi, but it doesn't get that many views or replies. Now there is one thread like this one and see the number of views and responses.

fer kende saddi kaum da ki banuga...dissda jo bann'na...

yeah its like people only want to see topics like these, all the good topics on sikhi never get good amount of views/replies

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the answer for your question is:

Do not tell lies, O Pandit; O religious scholar, speak the Truth.

tell everything to your parents, and speak the truth...

now, it may depend on your age.... if your are in the right age of getting marry, then your parents would support you (hopefully)... but if you are some one who is only 12-13, then you better run away.....

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