Suicide

[Guest Papi]

May we all find peace in Gurbani

http://sikhitothemax.com/page.asp?ShabadID=2317

mwq grB mih Awpn ismrnu dy qh qum rwKnhwry ]

maath garabh mehi aapan simaran dhae theh thum raakhanehaarae ||

In our mother's womb, You blessed us with Your meditative remembrance, and You preserved us there.

pwvk swgr AQwh lhir mih qwrhu qwrnhwry ]1]

paavak saagar athhaah lehar mehi thaarahu thaaranehaarae ||1||

Through the countless waves of the ocean of fire, please, carry us across and save us, O Savior Lord! ||1||

http://sikhitothemax.com/page.asp?ShabadID=2772

imhrvwnu swihbu imhrvwnu ]

miharavaan saahib miharavaan ||

Merciful, the Lord Master is Merciful.

swihbu myrw imhrvwnu ]

saahib maeraa miharavaan ||

My Lord Master is Merciful.

jIA sgl kau dyie dwnu ] rhwau ]

jeea sagal ko dhaee dhaan || rehaao ||

He gives His gifts to all beings. ||Pause||

http://sikhitothemax.com/page.asp?ShabadID=3206

ikau CUtau kYsy qrau Bvjl iniD BwrI ]

kio shhootto kaisae tharo bhavajal nidhh bhaaree ||

How can anyone be saved? How can anyone cross over the terrifying world-ocean?

rwKu rwKu myry bITulw jnu srin qum@wrI ]1] rhwau ]

raakh raakh maerae beet(h)ulaa jan saran thumhaaree ||1|| rehaao ||

Save me, save me, O my Lord! Your humble servant seeks Your Sanctuary. ||1||Pause||

http://sikhitothemax.com/page.asp?ShabadID=881

jh mwq ipqw suq mIq n BweI ]

jeh maath pithaa suth meeth n bhaaee ||

Where there is no mother, father, children, friends or siblings

mn aUhw nwmu qyrY sMig shweI ]

man oohaa naam thaerai sa(n)g sehaaee ||

O my mind, there, only the Naam, the Name of the Lord, shall be with you as your help and support.

http://sikhitothemax.com/page.asp?ShabadID=180

jw kau musklu Aiq bxY FoeI koie n dyie ]

jaa ko musakal ath banai dtoee koe n dhaee ||

When you are confronted with terrible hardships, and no one offers you any support,

lwgU hoey dusmnw swk iB Bij Kly ]

laagoo hoeae dhusamanaa saak bh bhaj khalae ||

when your friends turn into enemies, and even your relatives have deserted you,

sBo BjY Awsrw cukY sBu Asrwau ]

sabho bhajai aasaraa chukai sabh asaraao ||

and when all support has given way, and all hope has been lost

iciq AwvY Esu pwrbRhmu lgY n qqI vwau ]1]

chith aavai ous paarabreham lagai n thathee vaao ||1||

-if you then come to remember the Supreme Lord God, even the hot wind shall not touch you. ||1||

[Guest :(]

thank you all for your support ... the reason i kind of stopped going gurdwara was because everytime i went people would hug me and tell me how sorry they are but that just upset me more ive tried to do as much bani as possible but i just end up getting distracted ... basically the only time i go gurdwara is when thers a raensbai because no1 will know my situation

ive got a session booked in with a different therapist so il see how that goes

as to the people who have given me their emails your help is greatly appreciated!!!!! i have added you to my msn list

sorry i dont know how to quote but someone asked where abouts i am .. i live in the north of england

[Guest _Lost Soul_]

Anyone desperate enough for suicide...should be desperate enough to go to creative extremes to solve their problems which they face.

Listen to this please:

http://www.ikirtan.com/Various_Ragi_Jaatha...20Praaneeya.mp3

This Shabad is by Guru Arjan Dev Ji in Raag Tilang on Pannaa 724

iqlµg mhlw 5 Gru 3 ]

thila(n)g mehalaa 5 ghar 3 ||

Tilang, Fifth Mehla, Third House:

imhrvwnu swihbu imhrvwnu ]

miharavaan saahib miharavaan ||

Merciful, the Lord Master is Merciful.

swihbu myrw imhrvwnu ]

saahib maeraa miharavaan ||

My Lord Master is Merciful.

jIA sgl kau dyie dwnu ] rhwau ]

jeea sagal ko dhaee dhaan || rehaao ||

He gives His gifts to all beings. ||Pause||

qU kwhy folih pRwxIAw quDu rwKYgw isrjxhwru ]

thoo kaahae ddolehi praaneeaa thudhh raakhaigaa sirajanehaar ||

Why do you waver, O mortal being? The Creator Lord Himself shall protect you.

ijin pYdwieis qU kIAw soeI dyie AwDwru ]1]

jin paidhaaeis thoo keeaa soee dhaee aadhhaar ||1||

He who created you, will also give you nourishment. ||1||

ijin aupweI mydnI soeI krdw swr ]

jin oupaaee maedhanee soee karadhaa saar ||

The One who created the world, takes care of it.

Git Git mwlku idlw kw scw prvdgwru ]2]

ghatt ghatt maalak dhilaa kaa sachaa paravadhagaar ||2||

In each and every heart and mind, the Lord is the True Cherisher. ||2||

kudriq kIm n jwxIAY vfw vyprvwhu ]

kudharath keem n jaaneeai vaddaa vaeparavaahu ||

His creative potency and His value cannot be known; He is the Great and carefree Lord.

kir bMdy qU bMdgI ijcru Gt mih swhu ]3]

kar ba(n)dhae thoo ba(n)dhagee jichar ghatt mehi saahu ||3||

O human being, meditate on the Lord, as long as there is breath in your body. ||3||

qU smrQu AkQu Agocru jIau ipMfu qyrI rwis ]

thoo samarathh akathh agochar jeeo pi(n)dd thaeree raas ||

O God, You are all-powerful, inexpressible and imperceptible; my soul and body are Your capital.

rhm qyrI suKu pwieAw sdw nwnk kI Ardwis ]4]3]

reham thaeree sukh paaeiaa sadhaa naanak kee aradhaas ||4||3||

By Your Mercy, may I find peace; this is Nanak's lasting prayer. ||4||3||

Dont give up on yourself that easily. Your a sikh, daughter of Huq Huq Agaah Guru Gobind Singh, Shahi Shahin Shah Guru Gobind Singh. Be proud of yourself. Do not commit the worst sin possible in Sikhi. Be strong, never give up, never lose hope.

May God bless you!

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

[smartsingh24]

it sounds like you need someone to talk to. I know it's tough having alot of people come up to you that you don't know constantly reminding you of your loss, but you need to connect with people. You don't have to be alone in this. You've posted here, and you've gotten a therapist, which shows that you really want to stay. This is good, because you have hope and you have the will to live. Do not give up hope, I know things seem dark, but you can get through this. I've got faith in you, PM me some time.

[Guest peacemaker]

To the original poster, you can make it!!! We're all pulling for you and keeping you in our thoughts. Please feel free to contact me anytime too!

[THE WARRIOR]

By killing yourself you remain in a hellish state without the ability to take control. You’ll remain transfixed by those tendencies that drove you to suicide. This is a worse situation. You may think it’s a way out but it’s drowning deeper in to the problem without an end, you don’t go anywhere you just remain there, longing to be physical…. for how long? Who knows! days, weeks, years even thousands of years. You may want to think about that and get the help you need before you make a wrong conclusion.

[Anonymous_kaur]

penji/veerji !!

every1 on dis forum inculdin me...will do ardass for u..n ask guru ji to bless with happiness !!

stay in chardli kalaa !!!

waheguru ji ka khasla...waheguru ji ki fateh !!

[Guest shastr]

u'll be fine bro. just think of our bhapu who lost everything for us..........panth vasse main ujarraa, mann chaoh kanaara......

bani parro raj ke, you will be fine because katt katt ke antar ki janat, bhalay bhure ki peer pachanat

everything happens with time......and the only person that will help us ever in life is our guru, he will give us everything, and only him....do ardaas in front of him, he knows u, and he kowns ur pain.....u will be fine my friend......

[Laadli Fauj]

any updates?

feel free to contact ANYONE on this forum, esp. me, since im uber cool and a super inspirational gurmukh and whatnot

jesus' last words "into ur hands i place my soul"

let maharaj lead u in life, dont take it away urself

[Guest Guest]

The heartache is bad enough when losing one close member of your family, to deal with multiple deaths in such a tragic accident I cannot bear thinking about.

You wont ever forget your loved ones, but as each day passes it does become easier deal with if you allow it to. Take heed at the fantastic advice offered by the many thoughtful and wonderful people of this forum. You will get good days along with the bad. Accept each day as it comes, for every negative thought that enters your mind, replace it with a positive one (however simple, the sun is shining, smile at a stranger whatever it takes to change your thought process to be more positive) Take one step at a time, make each day special in some small way.

A bereavement counsellor may help you along your way to a bright and successful future, its a long tough road that you face, but if you put your heart and soul into it, you can make everything happen!