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Waheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!!

In my (imediate) family we have 0 people who are mona. Chacche, taye, mamme etc all are singh. When my sisters were getting married my Grandmother who has been Amritdhari all her life said that She wasnt going to let any of my her GrandChildren ( My sisters ) get married to sikh men who were mone.

As a result all my sisters are married to singhs and my Neices and Nephews are Sikh as well. :@ ofcourse when the time comes this rule will be applied to me as well.

So Here is a question for everyone, do you think that as future sikh parents we need to inform our children before hand what we expect from them in terms of sticking to Sikhi. as parents,Is it right to set these kind of rules / restrictions on kids even though one could say Some mones are better some keshdhari singhs.

Also could you possibly list some ideas as to what kind of things we could tell our kids or have been told by our parents, with regards to what we can and cant do.

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GuruFatehJi.

The Sikh Rehat Maryada states that a Sikh must only marry a Sikh. For one who knows the definition of a Sikh, it is self explanatory that kesh makes a Sikh. The Rehat Maryada had all the good reasons for emphasising on the point of marriage. It is one of the factors that determine the continuity of Sikhism.

It is a mark of great pride for us to have in our families those that state their firm stand on Sikhi because Sikhi is all about discipline and the Guru-Maryada must be upheld because the blood of our shaheeds is the very foundation of Sikhism.

Tomorrow we will have our own families. If we do not keep our Sikhi, are we ready to hear our own kids telling us that Sikhs used to look like Guru Nanak and now to find just one, we need a flashlight.

Be proud of your Gurus, Nanak and Gobind, for their lives are testimony to our survival as Sikhs today.

Guru sabb da bhalla karay.

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i think parents have a right to tell kids what they think is acceptable/not acceptable.

Also could you possibly list some ideas as to what kind of things we could tell our kids or have been told by our parents, with regards to what we can and cant do.

basically what sikh rehit maryada says.

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heh.. ya ya.. all nice and dandy but we shuodlnt marry out of religion cuz then how will the kids grow up.. if u love sikhi u would never marry out of religion..

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Marriages are written in heaven....and God doesn't make any distinctions based on religion.

We should teach our children Sikhi...but we should not force them to do anything.I mean we shud tell umm that what is wrong what is rite....but we shud not force umm.

Thats my personal opinion....I may be wrong.

Mine Personal opinion too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! grin.gif

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heh.. ya ya.. all nice and dandy but we shuodlnt marry out of religion cuz then how will the kids grow up..

Well lets see. If you are a individual of high moral and personal character and you marry someone that is not of a same religion as you but the person is also of high moral and personal caliber, perhaps, just maybe the child will *gasp* grow up with high moral and personal caliber?

Now lets take an example.

Ex 1:

You: Purport to be a Sikh and are of high moral and personal character.

Spouse: Purports to be a Sikh but is of questionable moral and personal character.

Child: Grows up thinking religion is fake and false because his or her role models (parents) presented not only conflicting images of piety but the child's mind forever links mothers questionable character with Sikhi. Child grows disillusioned by religion and forsakes it.

Ex 2:

You: Purport to be a Sikh and are of high moral and personal character.

Spouse: Not a Sikh but still of high moral and personal character.

Child: May or may not be a "Sikh" but because his role models were of high moral and personal character he or she grows up to have the same strong moral and personal character.

Now you tell me, what is better for the world? Child 1 or Child 2? I know I would take Child 2 any day of the week.

if u love sikhi u would never marry out of religion..

Explain that to me. How does loving ones religion forbid the individual from marrying outside the religion?

sikh marrys a sikh

bhai sahib singh jes reightnama says so in it

end of story

Oooh! Can I try this too?

"A sikh only will only marry on Tuesdays that have a full moon the Lakers are on TV.

R. Dorothy Wayneright says so.

End of story."

Just because someone says something does not make it true. Please don't insult our intelligence by making a claim without and logical reasoning backing it and expect us to accept it.

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