New Article: How To Overcome Lust

[Singhni MiriPiri]

Daas has been asked to write an article regarding lust: http://naam-jor.blogspot.com/ and would like to share it with the rest. Please take out time to read it. Thank you.

[Guptkaur1]

Nicee. :TH:

[caveman]

good article

[Into the Light]

my workplace doesn't allow me access to blogs etc...i live away from home and don't have access to the net where i live...can it be pasted into this thread.

thank you

[caveman]

my workplace doesn't allow me access to blogs etc...i live away from home and don't have access to the net where i live...can it be pasted into this thread.

thank you

How to overcome Lust

Lust exists in all of us as well as the other thieves; ego, greed, attachment, anger. Maya acts through these thieves leading us away from virtue but to sin. Therefore, it is important we avoid activities that will feed on our lust e.g. lustful movies/series, talking uselessly to the opposite gender via msn, in person, etc. A Sikh of the guru is tested daily. Daily, we receive Guru Sahib’s message through our nitnem. However do we act upon his message? If we do the opposite of what we read in our nitnem, we obtain Guru’s displeasure. Before taking out any act, we should think before we act. Ask ourselves questions: will it benefit me? Will I regret in the end?

However, it isn’t easy to construct this mind to perform good deeds since this mind is lead by the 5 thieves and thus feeds upon that which is why we always take enjoyment out of maya, and never or hardly experience the pleasure of Gurbani. For this reason Bhagat Kabir Ji has said:

kUtnu soie ju mn kau kUtY ]

koottan soe j man ko koottai ||

He alone is a pimp, who pounds down his mind.

mn kUtY qau jm qy CUtY ]

man koottai tho jam thae shhoottai ||

Pounding down his mind, he escapes from the Messenger of Death.

kuit kuit mnu ksvtI lwvY ]

kutt kutt man kasavattee laavai ||

Pounding and beating his mind, he puts it to the test;

so kUtnu mukiq bhu pwvY ]1]

so koottan mukath bahu paavai ||1||

such a pimp attains total liberation. ||1||

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Even though we are aware of what is right and wrong, our mind is easily weakened and is persuaded towards evil. We all are aware that stealing, cheating, lying are wrong deeds but still the mind is persuaded into committing these wrong acts.

kbIr mnu jwnY sB bwq jwnq hI Aaugnu krY ]

kabeer man jaanai sabh baath jaanath hee aougan karai ||

Kabeer, the mortal knows everything, and knowing, he still makes mistakes.

kwhy kI kuslwq hwiQ dIpu kUey prY ]216]

kaahae kee kusalaath haathh dheep kooeae parai ||216||

What good is a lamp in one's hand, if he falls into the well? ||216||

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We should avoid listening to our mind; instead we should do the opposite when it comes to performing evil acts. If we act on our evil desires, then we will only borne punishment in this human life and the life afterwards. Maya doesn’t leave any happiness for us in the end. Although she is pleasurable just for that time, afterwards she only leaves pain.

soie rhI pRB Kbir n jwnI ]

soe rehee prabh khabar n jaanee ||

She remains asleep, and does not know the news of God.

Boru BieAw bhuir pCuqwnI ]1]

bhor bhaeiaa bahur pashhuthaanee ||1||

The day dawns, and then, she regrets. ||1||

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When we are overwhelmed with Lust, we do not know what is right and wrong.

mnmuK boil n jwxn@I Enw AMdir kwmu k®oDu AhMkwru ]

manamukh bol n jaananhee ounaa a(n)dhar kaam krodhh aha(n)kaar ||

The self-willed manmukhs do not even know how to speak. They are filled with sexual desire, anger and egotism.

Qwau kuQwau n jwxnI sdw icqvih ibkwr ]

thhaao kuthhaao n jaananee sadhaa chithavehi bikaar ||

They do not know the difference between good and bad; they constantly think of corruption.

drgh lyKw mMgIAY EQY hoih kUiVAwr ]

dharageh laekhaa ma(n)geeai outhhai hohi koorriaar ||

In the Lord's Court, they are called to account, and they are judged to be false.

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In order to take lust away from the mind, we have to use Gurbani and Naam. Only abiding by Guru’s word, we are saved. If we follow this wavering mind, then we fall into the grip of maya.

mwieAw mmqw mohxI ijin ivxu dMqw jgu KwieAw ]

maaeiaa mamathaa mohanee jin vin dha(n)thaa jag khaaeiaa ||

The love of Maya is enticing; without teeth, it has eaten up the world.

mnmuK KwDy gurmuiK aubry ijnI sic nwim icqu lwieAw ]

manamukh khaadhhae guramukh oubarae jinee sach naam chith laaeiaa ||

The self-willed manmukhs are eaten away, while the Gurmukhs are saved; they focus their consciousness on the True Name.

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Lust loots our naam, it enters the body like a thief by diverting out attention through sensual pleasures. Therefore, the mind chases after outward pleasures and cannot concentrate on Naam, so we are unable to experience the pleasure of Vaheguru. Guru Sahib warns us to guard against our thieves. We must not entertain our lust. Watching tv, wasting time in useless activities, etc doesn’t do any good for us. We are told to live dead to maya, so we must not entertain our thieves through our senses since this will only churn our lust more.

hy kwmM nrk ibsRwmM bhu jonI BRmwvxh ]

hae kaama(n) narak bisraama(n) bahu jonee bhramaavaneh ||

O sexual desire, you lead the mortals to hell; you make them wander in reincarnation through countless species.

icq hrxM qRY lok gMm´M jp qp sIl ibdwrxh ]

chith harana(n) thrai lok ga(n)mya(n) jap thap seel bidhaaraneh ||

You cheat the consciousness, and pervade the three worlds. You destroy meditation, penance and virtue.

Alp suK Aivq cMcl aUc nIc smwvxh ]

alap sukh avith cha(n)chal ooch neech samaavaneh ||

But you give only shallow pleasure, while you make the mortals weak and unsteady; you pervade the high and the low.

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Guru Sahib has told us to engage ourselves in Gurbani and naam since this is what will save us.

nh iblµb DrmM iblµb pwpM ]

neh bila(n)b dhharama(n) bila(n)b paapa(n) ||

Do not delay in practicing righteousness; delay in committing sins.

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It may be difficult at first to move away from sin and engage ourselves in naam and gurbani but the effort must be made if we wish to succeed in the end. From coming and going in reincarnation, we have gathered more filth, thus the separation between us and vaheguru keeps on building. It will only become worse if we keep on indulging in lustful thoughts/activities. It may seem alright to have lustful thoughts but soon these will turn to actions and in our next life we will become rapists, prostitutes.

Vaheguru has given us free will but we should ponder over the fruit of our actions. We should see what would benefit us more; weigh up the costs and benefits before taking our actions. Only naam and Gurbani can help us!

Gor duK´M Aink hq´M jnm dwirdRM mhw ibK´wdM ]

ghor dhukhya(n) anik hathya(n) janam dhaaridhra(n) mehaa bikhyaadha(n) ||

Excruciating pain, countless killings, reincarnation, poverty and terrible misery

imtMq sgl ismrMq hir nwm nwnk jYsy pwvk kwst BsmM kroiq ]18]

mitta(n)th sagal simara(n)th har naam naanak jaisae paavak kaasatt bhasama(n) karoth ||18||

are all destroyed by meditating in remembrance on the Lord's Name, O Nanak, just as fire reduces piles of wood to ashes. ||18||

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And

mnu mY mqu mYgl imkdwrw ]

man mai math maigal mikadhaaraa ||

The mind is like an elephant, drunk with wine.

guru AMksu mwir jIvwlxhwrw ]2]

gur a(n)kas maar jeevaalanehaaraa ||2||

The Guru is the rod which controls it, and shows it the way. ||2||

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If we committed a wrong act, then do ardaas! Ask for forgiveness and to still this wavering mind. Also thank Guru Sahib for what he has given us since we should always be grateful for what we have.

Here is a list to help stop our lustful urges:

-Sing praises of God (kirtan)

-Read bani. Bavaan Akhri should be read since this will detach us from the world and attach us to Guru sahib’s lotus feet; naam and gurbani. Make sure you contemplate the meanings.

-Do Naam Abhiyaas because:

nwnk BIjY swcY nwie ]2]

naanak bheejai saachai naae ||2||

O Nanak, the Lord is won over only by His Name. ||2||

Page: 1237

-Stay in good company, join the sat sangat. This will help us distinguish between vice and virtue.

-Avoid wasting time through talk, tv, games, etc. Realize what we came here for!

-Most importantly, do ardaas, nothing can be achieved alone; all power is in Guru’s hands.

-Remember Death! What will happen if we die tomorrow, or right now? We will be treated as fools, dishonored, etc. What support will we have then if we didn’t take the support of naam while alive! Lust doesn’t go with us when we die, Vaheguru does.

-Remember that Guru sahib is watching our every action. Don’t put shame to Guru sahib since you are his sikh. Act how Guru Sahib’s son/daughter would. Make Guru sahib proud of having a child like you.

-If possible listen to keertan all the time via mp3, ipod, and keep japing naam.

jh muskl hovY Aiq BwrI ]

jeh musakal hovai ath bhaaree ||

Where the obstacles are so very heavy,

hir ko nwmu iKn mwih auDwrI ]

har ko naam khin maahi oudhhaaree ||

the Name of the Lord shall rescue you in an instant.

Page: 264

[SATORi]

Lust exists in all of us as well as the other thieves; ego, greed, attachment, anger. Maya acts through these thieves leading us away from virtue but to sin. Therefore, it is important we avoid activities that will feed on our lust e.g. lustful movies/series, talking uselessly to the opposite gender via msn, in person, etc. A Sikh of the guru is tested daily. Daily, we receive Guru Sahib’s message through our nitnem. However do we act upon his message? If we do the opposite of what we read in our nitnem, we obtain Guru’s displeasure. Before taking out any act, we should think before we act. Ask ourselves questions: will it benefit me? Will I regret in the end?

However, it isn’t easy to construct this mind to perform good deeds since this mind is lead by the 5 thieves and thus feeds upon that which is why we always take enjoyment out of maya, and never or hardly experience the pleasure of Gurbani. For this reason Bhagat Kabir Ji has said:

kUtnu soie ju mn kau kUtY ]

koottan soe j man ko koottai ||

He alone is a pimp, who pounds down his mind.

mn kUtY qau jm qy CUtY ]

man koottai tho jam thae shhoottai ||

Pounding down his mind, he escapes from the Messenger of Death.

kuit kuit mnu ksvtI lwvY ]

kutt kutt man kasavattee laavai ||

Pounding and beating his mind, he puts it to the test;

so kUtnu mukiq bhu pwvY ]1]

so koottan mukath bahu paavai ||1||

such a pimp attains total liberation. ||1||

Page: 872

Even though we are aware of what is right and wrong, our mind is easily weakened and is persuaded towards evil. We all are aware that stealing, cheating, lying are wrong deeds but still the mind is persuaded into committing these wrong acts.

kbIr mnu jwnY sB bwq jwnq hI Aaugnu krY ]

kabeer man jaanai sabh baath jaanath hee aougan karai ||

Kabeer, the mortal knows everything, and knowing, he still makes mistakes.

kwhy kI kuslwq hwiQ dIpu kUey prY ]216]

kaahae kee kusalaath haathh dheep kooeae parai ||216||

What good is a lamp in one's hand, if he falls into the well? ||216||

Page: 1376

We should avoid listening to our mind; instead we should do the opposite when it comes to performing evil acts. If we act on our evil desires, then we will only borne punishment in this human life and the life afterwards. Maya doesn’t leave any happiness for us in the end. Although she is pleasurable just for that time, afterwards she only leaves pain.

soie rhI pRB Kbir n jwnI ]

soe rehee prabh khabar n jaanee ||

She remains asleep, and does not know the news of God.

Boru BieAw bhuir pCuqwnI ]1]

bhor bhaeiaa bahur pashhuthaanee ||1||

The day dawns, and then, she regrets. ||1||

Page: 389

When we are overwhelmed with Lust, we do not know what is right and wrong.

mnmuK boil n jwxn@I Enw AMdir kwmu k®oDu AhMkwru ]

manamukh bol n jaananhee ounaa a(n)dhar kaam krodhh aha(n)kaar ||

The self-willed manmukhs do not even know how to speak. They are filled with sexual desire, anger and egotism.

Qwau kuQwau n jwxnI sdw icqvih ibkwr ]

thhaao kuthhaao n jaananee sadhaa chithavehi bikaar ||

They do not know the difference between good and bad; they constantly think of corruption.

drgh lyKw mMgIAY EQY hoih kUiVAwr ]

dharageh laekhaa ma(n)geeai outhhai hohi koorriaar ||

In the Lord's Court, they are called to account, and they are judged to be false.

Page: 1248

In order to take lust away from the mind, we have to use Gurbani and Naam. Only abiding by Guru’s word, we are saved. If we follow this wavering mind, then we fall into the grip of maya.

mwieAw mmqw mohxI ijin ivxu dMqw jgu KwieAw ]

maaeiaa mamathaa mohanee jin vin dha(n)thaa jag khaaeiaa ||

The love of Maya is enticing; without teeth, it has eaten up the world.

mnmuK KwDy gurmuiK aubry ijnI sic nwim icqu lwieAw ]

manamukh khaadhhae guramukh oubarae jinee sach naam chith laaeiaa ||

The self-willed manmukhs are eaten away, while the Gurmukhs are saved; they focus their consciousness on the True Name.

Page: 643

Lust loots our naam, it enters the body like a thief by diverting out attention through sensual pleasures. Therefore, the mind chases after outward pleasures and cannot concentrate on Naam, so we are unable to experience the pleasure of Vaheguru. Guru Sahib warns us to guard against our thieves. We must not entertain our lust. Watching tv, wasting time in useless activities, etc doesn’t do any good for us. We are told to live dead to maya, so we must not entertain our thieves through our senses since this will only churn our lust more.

hy kwmM nrk ibsRwmM bhu jonI BRmwvxh ]

hae kaama(n) narak bisraama(n) bahu jonee bhramaavaneh ||

O sexual desire, you lead the mortals to hell; you make them wander in reincarnation through countless species.

icq hrxM qRY lok gMm´M jp qp sIl ibdwrxh ]

chith harana(n) thrai lok ga(n)mya(n) jap thap seel bidhaaraneh ||

You cheat the consciousness, and pervade the three worlds. You destroy meditation, penance and virtue.

Alp suK Aivq cMcl aUc nIc smwvxh ]

alap sukh avith cha(n)chal ooch neech samaavaneh ||

But you give only shallow pleasure, while you make the mortals weak and unsteady; you pervade the high and the low.

Page: 1358

Guru Sahib has told us to engage ourselves in Gurbani and naam since this is what will save us.

nh iblµb DrmM iblµb pwpM ]

neh bila(n)b dhharama(n) bila(n)b paapa(n) ||

Do not delay in practicing righteousness; delay in committing sins.

Page: 1354

It may be difficult at first to move away from sin and engage ourselves in naam and gurbani but the effort must be made if we wish to succeed in the end. From coming and going in reincarnation, we have gathered more filth, thus the separation between us and vaheguru keeps on building. It will only become worse if we keep on indulging in lustful thoughts/activities. It may seem alright to have lustful thoughts but soon these will turn to actions and in our next life we will become rapists, prostitutes.

Vaheguru has given us free will but we should ponder over the fruit of our actions. We should see what would benefit us more; weigh up the costs and benefits before taking our actions. Only naam and Gurbani can help us!

Gor duK´M Aink hq´M jnm dwirdRM mhw ibK´wdM ]

ghor dhukhya(n) anik hathya(n) janam dhaaridhra(n) mehaa bikhyaadha(n) ||

Excruciating pain, countless killings, reincarnation, poverty and terrible misery

imtMq sgl ismrMq hir nwm nwnk jYsy pwvk kwst BsmM kroiq ]18]

mitta(n)th sagal simara(n)th har naam naanak jaisae paavak kaasatt bhasama(n) karoth ||18||

are all destroyed by meditating in remembrance on the Lord's Name, O Nanak, just as fire reduces piles of wood to ashes. ||18||

Page: 1355

And

mnu mY mqu mYgl imkdwrw ]

man mai math maigal mikadhaaraa ||

The mind is like an elephant, drunk with wine.

guru AMksu mwir jIvwlxhwrw ]2]

gur a(n)kas maar jeevaalanehaaraa ||2||

The Guru is the rod which controls it, and shows it the way. ||2||

Page: 159

If we committed a wrong act, then do ardaas! Ask for forgiveness and to still this wavering mind. Also thank Guru Sahib for what he has given us since we should always be grateful for what we have.

Here is a list to help stop our lustful urges:

-Sing praises of God (kirtan)

-Read bani. Bavaan Akhri should be read since this will detach us from the world and attach us to Guru sahib’s lotus feet; naam and gurbani. Make sure you contemplate the meanings.

-Do Naam Abhiyaas because:

nwnk BIjY swcY nwie ]2]

naanak bheejai saachai naae ||2||

O Nanak, the Lord is won over only by His Name. ||2||

Page: 1237

-Stay in good company, join the sat sangat. This will help us distinguish between vice and virtue.

-Avoid wasting time through talk, tv, games, etc. Realize what we came here for!

-Most importantly, do ardaas, nothing can be achieved alone; all power is in Guru’s hands.

-Remember Death! What will happen if we die tomorrow, or right now? We will be treated as fools, dishonored, etc. What support will we have then if we didn’t take the support of naam while alive! Lust doesn’t go with us when we die, Vaheguru does.

-Remember that Guru sahib is watching our every action. Don’t put shame to Guru sahib since you are his sikh. Act how Guru Sahib’s son/daughter would. Make Guru sahib proud of having a child like you.

-If possible listen to keertan all the time via mp3, ipod, and keep japing naam.

jh muskl hovY Aiq BwrI ]

jeh musakal hovai ath bhaaree ||

Where the obstacles are so very heavy,

hir ko nwmu iKn mwih auDwrI ]

har ko naam khin maahi oudhhaaree ||

the Name of the Lord shall rescue you in an instant.

Page: 264

[Nehmat]

Sit in front of Sahib Guru Nanak Dev Ji's picture...stare it as much as possible...

Whenever these things come to attack you just stare in Maharaj ji's eyes...They run away...

=)