Addiction To Lust.

[Guest Need_Help_ASAP]

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My friend has been having addiction to lust, and he wants to stop, is there any physicially/Sikh way to stop the wanting to view images of lust / 18+ things.

he really need help! so please post quick.

More info soon.

[Jag_Singh]

wjkk wjkf

Take responsibility for your actions and then take responsibility in changing your habitual nature. The Mind is what it is....there must come a time when one has to put his/her foot down and say enough and ask oneself what exactly is it that I am seeking.

The truth is the Mind does not know what it is seeking but it is seeking something. So it tries to find it in Sex. If it had found it then once was enough and the desire would've been fulfilled. But the desire wasn't and never could be fulfilled so there is a pull to do it again and again. Obviously it will never be fulfilling.

So ask yourself, ask your mind what exactly are you seeking?

The mere fact that you are still repenting shows that his Grace is still falling upon you. What you are feeling is necessary for you to realize your mistake and believe me when I say this that you are not the only one that has gone through this state. Perhaps not in the same context as you, but almost everyone have used their praying for forgiveness coupons more times then they should have.

If you pray for strength, then without a doubt this strength will arrive. If there is a next time, before you make any decision you will always be presented a choice to either go ahead and fulfil the desire of the mind or to turn away and remember the repercussions of these actions.

The momentary pleasures in life are abundant, the mind chases after them as if the next pleasure will fulfil its need forever and that is the only thing it needs. But time and time again the mind falls back to where it started from, so it tries and falls and it tries again. The mind is still seeking Bliss, but looking and finding it in all the wrong places.

You must understand your own sexuality, understand the purpose of Sex, the root cause of this Desire to be fulfilled. Delve into your own mind, dissect your own mind questions and demand an answer. Be introspective towards you own mind and NEVER give up on Prayer.

Pheena

wjkk wjkf

[valli singh]

Firstly he has to reslove to stop looking

and replace those bad images with good spiritual images

and religious pictures etc,

he should also try to control his sleep pattern and keep it in balance

i.e not going to bed to late etc because this will help to rein in the mind and make it more steady

third he must meditate, fast simran will help to keep the mind absorbed.

[Guest papi]

I might get blasted by the fanatics for saying this, but I do feel it will help him immensely.

Sat kriya will help move energy from the lower chakra's to higher ones so that he does not feel the need to release the energy in ways he does now. Read some more details here, http://www.mrsikhnet.com/index.php/2007/03...-sexual-energy/

It only needs to be done for 3 mins everyday! I'm sure everyone can find that much time in their busy life

[Guest Guest]

No offence, but a lot of these replies are completely unrealistic, either you haven't faced lust yourself or you have never experienced this problem as your connection to waheguru is higher.

First and foremost is that, DO NOT THINK MASTURBATION IS BAD. Putting guilt onto yourself will make the situation a whole lot worse, your day will not go as smooth, you will feel like a sinner. Gurbani tells us to control the vice, Lust is IN EVERYONE of us. Some of us know how to take the sexual energy and transfer it into productivity.

You or your friend needs to analyse themselves and ask what types of activities or sports do you like doing. Running is one of the best exercises you can do and will physically transfer the sexual energy into something productive. Same with the gym you can take the frustration out by doing weights. I say productivity because when you do this, you are either building your body, or getting mentally and physically fit through running. When you masturbate, you are throwing away this energy. Choice is yours! imagine you are a can of coke, when you masturbate and experience lust, you are puncturing the can, losing energy and worst of all you are losing yourself!!

Next is simran, simran will help you conquer your mind. Listen to japji sahib carefully every morning and ask Guru to take this problem, when you do matha tekh, give Guru the responsibility. I have found when I replace rap and RNB music with kirtan, things in life go a lot better. If you want to listen to something a bit more westernised (Kirtan) check out

http://www.mrsikhnet.com/index.php/audio-video-archive/

Click "western non traditional" and there is simran which is excellent to leave on while you are working etc. When you think about lust, your mind will be singing God's praises and you will be pulled out lust!

Remember, don't feel guilty about it, nothing is wrong with it, its just a complete and utter waste of energy and thats what Guru is trying to hammer into our heads. Choice is yours. Im sure you want to be successful and not succumb to sexual desire in every walk in life.

One more thing is this and its more of a question. Do you act lustfully to porn or pictures because you think you have low self esteem? A lot of people I know tell me the reason they look at porn is more of a fantasy, they don't believe they will ever find a good looking girl or guy. Self esteem is one of the worst diseases which can destroy your entire future. If you don't love yourself, you won't be able to love others and won't be able to see God is all. To understand Paraatma you must understand aatma- yourself! Study yourself and meditation is the only way you will reveal your true self to yourself. The catch is you have to wake up at 3am and have a battle with yourself through meditation so you can cleanse your mind and clear all these dirty, angry, jealous thoughts. Again choice is yours, you can either do that or you can carry these with you into your next day. ONLY YOU CAN CLEAN YOU MIND! So do it and live happily, love yourself, love others and experience Waheguru!!!!! Good luck!!!!!

[sherlsurj]

burn off sum hormones. tell him when to do like 50 pressups a day. hel be getting big and using up hormones. also simran helps just keep it playin

[Guest shastr]

u will find no better help then this:

ਸਲੋਕੁ ॥

ਕਾਮ ਕ੍ਰੋਧ ਅਰੁ ਲੋਭ ਮੋਹ ਬਿਨਸਿ ਜਾਇ ਅਹੰਮੇਵ ॥

ਨਾਨਕ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਸਰਣਾਗਤੀ ਕਰਿ ਪ੍ਰਸਾਦੁ ਗੁਰਦੇਵ ॥੧॥

thats the 6th salok in sri sukhmani sahib. tell him to just recite that all day long, over and over again. you have to say the word "salok" everytime tho. maybe if he has time, he could do like 2 or 3 malas everyday. the ones with 108 manke if the situation is really out of control then u could add mool mantar to the salok and you got urself one really powerful mantar, so its like this:

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ਸਤਿ ਨਾਮੁ

ਕਰਤਾ ਪੁਰਖੁ

ਨਿਰਭਉ ਨਿਰਵੈਰੁ

ਅਕਾਲ ਮੂਰਤਿ

ਅਜੂਨੀ ਸੈਭੰ

ਗੁਰ ਪ੍ਰਸਾਦਿ

॥ਜਪੁ ॥

ਆਦਿ ਸਚੁ ਜੁਗਾਦਿ ਸਚੁ ॥

ਹੈ ਭੀ ਸਚੁ ਨਾਨਕ ਹੋਸੀ ਭੀ ਸਚੁ ॥੧॥

ਸਲੋਕੁ ॥

ਕਾਮ ਕ੍ਰੋਧ ਅਰੁ ਲੋਭ ਮੋਹ ਬਿਨਸਿ ਜਾਇ ਅਹੰਮੇਵ ॥

ਨਾਨਕ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਸਰਣਾਗਤੀ ਕਰਿ ਪ੍ਰਸਾਦੁ ਗੁਰਦੇਵ ॥੧॥

[Only five]

Read Sukhmani Sahib or listen to it as many times you can a day.

[Nehmat]

-SEVA-

[Harvinder singh Babbar]

go do some weight lifting and burn sum testostrone.