Problems

[Guest angry singh]

Gurfateh jio

Basically I am an amritdhari singh at uni. Long story short my problem is i get too many muslim girls acting really disgustingly towards me (kaam way) it makes me furious. I'm visibly religious (uncut dhari and dumalla, yet they are so disrespectful that they cant think to leave a religious person from another faith alone. Its sickening. It makes me even agrier thinking that they are probably doing similar things to people who are not strong in sikhi and also it has illustrated to me how bad the problem of muslim boys trying to corrupt sikh girls is. Its so bad for me I can't imagine how bad it is for girls.

I need help, what can I do to make these people stay away from me?

[VanHelsingh]

Don't enter their vicinity. Lecture halls are quite large most of the time - find a seat away from them. Of course, don't act as if you're running scared, but stand your ground and don't encourage any behaviour like this. The expression on your face should be enough to signify to someone not to approach you with bad intentions. You are there to study, and this maybe an unpopular notion in these 'free' times, but drinking coffee or socialising with girls (even "platonically") is not the kind of behaviour one would expect from a Gursikh - not that I'm saying you are doing this. I'm just throwing it out there.

Forgive me, brother. I'm not dictating what you should do in life. Obviously I'm not asking you to alienate yourself which might cause further problems. Just find some the company of more 'suitable' friends and associates.

[OhTwadi]

Do what Sri Guru Nanak Sahib Jee did when a king had prostitutes dance in front of him. Guru Sahib called them their daughters

You can simply address them as sisters, and if that does not stop their evil behaviour then I must say that you should simply stay away from them. The reason I say to stay away then is because if calling them sisters does not have any effect then clearly their morals are very low. It's best to stay away from people like these.

Another approach could be to simply be very direct and perhaps a bit forceful (not physically) in letting them know that you do no appreciate the unwanted advances. This will only work if they have at least some morals and values.

A third approach could be to insult them inside out (I wouldn't do this, but I do know a a few guys who will) to the extent that they are scared to come talk to you. This should be your last

approach (if at all).

As always, do ardaas for strength as well so that these girls may not sway you from Sikhi.

[Jinderwalla]

Are you a man or a mouse?? get a grip. You are a Punjabi Sikh!! Act like one....

[Sukhmanii]

That's ridiculous. I would have thought that at uni people are smart enough not to do things like this, especially Muslim girls who face enough discrimination themselves and know what it feels like. Are there not any other Sikhs at your uni? I'm sure it would be easier if you hung out with someone you had things in common with. What do they say to you, anyway?

I hope it comforts you to know that many Sikh girls and boys (like me) will look at you and thing you're an inspiration!

[Mehtab Singh]

I am sorry to sound blunt, but have you thought of a possibility of them doing this stuff because somehow they think you would fall for it? You haven't stated if these girls are your friends, classmates or team mates, you haven't stated how much you talk to them, or what stuff you talk to them about. No person can get comfortable with you to such a level unless you haven't "invited" them to. If I talk garbage with a person (guy or girl), he/she will take it to the next level by talking bigger garbage next time they get a chance. In case of the opposite gender, things tend to get out of hand pretty quick.

Hang on, I am not blaming you, I am not saying its your fault. Just was curious to know whatever I have stated above. Now to answer your question "what can I do to make these people stay away from me". For once, you could do what "OhTwadi" said, and pass on a message to them that you see them as sisters. You could also try the rest of the stuff stated by "OhTwadi" which may or may not work.

If I was you, I would just tell them flatly on their face that they are fat. I assure you they won't cross your path till Armageddon.

[Guest angry singh]

I want to make it very clear they are in no way friends, I am VERY quiet at university and keep myself to myself. Its people I have to work with, and sometimes random people who are friends with people I have to work with. I make it very clear I am not interested.

[whyhellothere]

Thats really all you can do ji. People can't control their thoughts, it's part of the darkness of kaljug, we're all mentally ill until we are able to conrol our thoughts and merge into the creator.

The line "you remind me of my sister" should do the trick. If you don't have a sister, then maybe you remind me of my cousin. We're meant to see the world as our brothers and sisters except for our spouses. That would help in trying to control lustful thoughts and dealing with this kind of thing.

Look at them like they are mentally handicapped sisters (as are you, we all are until we reach His Court.!)

Try not to see them as enemies but see god within every one of them, it'll make it easier to see them as your sisters whether they're black, white, chinese, Indian or other. It's due to our karma that we suffer, anything bad that happens to you is actually your own fault (karma from this or previous lives) and may even be blessings (make you turn to god in some way). Don't blame them.