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My couple of points:

* every girl dating a sullah thinks "hes different", They will always start out as the moderate non-orthodox types. Sharing bhangra and having a drink.

* Your idea of love is based completely on kaam and no spiritual unification. Once this phase wears off you, like 100's of silly girls that have walked the same path will be left alone, cold, depressed.. feeling old with zero self-worth and most importantly the destruction of whats most important, your Dharam.

* Once this romeo Juliet scenario has come to its natural death, You would have lost your family, you would have hurt those most important to you. Once you have burnt those bridges you will have zero worth to this guy. These guys chase the unattainable, thats the thrill for these scumbags. But once he knows your his, the game is over, and your now just trash. Either he will attempt to convert you, or otherwise dump you for his family arranged wife, probably after making you pregnant.

You have one life, one opportunity.. at the time of death these silly games will count for nothing.

Stop wasting time, the only reason you ever "need" a bf is when you have low self confidence and low self worth. Your longing for love and affection and admiration is due to your own inferiority complex. You need to start loving yourself first. find out who you are, where you are going.

I dont feel sorry for you, nor would waste time typing anything more, as to be honest i see you as a disgrace. I just hope you don't wear a Kara and rep Kaur in your name. Only persons I feel sorry for is you family, and maybe the Sikh brother who might end up with you one day, not knowing the truth. anyways..

The Khalsa will rule.. The beautiful lions and princesses of the Guru will shine. The sl*gs and Sell-outs will be Crushed!

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ROJ GURU JI AGGE JAPJI SAHIB TE CHAUPAI SAHIB JI DI BANI DA EK PATH KARO US PARMATMA AGGE ARDAAS KARO , GURU JI AAP ISDA HAL DASANGE TE TUHANU SAMAT BAKSHAN GE... BUT 4 U IT MAY TAKE IMTIHAN.. DULNA NAA .. US TE BHAROSA KAYAM RAKHNAA.. APE HAL NIKLEGA, AI

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Guru Gobind Singh Ji put it very eloquently but I shall paraphrase.

If you cover your arm in oil and stick it in a sack of sesame seed, and if a musllaman takes as many oaths as the number of sesame seeds stuck to your arm..................... still never trust him!

Every sikh girl who does what you have done says exactly what you are saying. But these people are nobodies “sakay” they answer only to their faith and once he has got you HE WILL CHANGE, not least because when his family find out they will make him see sense.

Just think of your poor mother and father, they have no idea at the moment, for years and years you have been deceiving them, lying to them, playing away behind their backs, they are going to be absolutely devastated. Their whole world is going to cave in, for what?

Dump him !

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Raman ji,

What happened to you could happen to anyone.

Good thing is that you have realized that it won't work.

Therefore you must end this relation.

Time and distance will help getting over emotional feelings.

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Vaheguroo Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguroo Ji Ki Fateh to my sister, most have said whats needed to be said, really this relationship would be damaging to you.

About your saddness, please read Salok Mahalla Nauva by Guru Tegh Bahadur Sahib Ji (its got a translation as well just in case you can't read gurmukhi):

http://www.gurbanifi...c/SlokM9_GE.pdf Please read the whole thing, the things Guru Ji teaches us in this about life are just priceless. If only we could remember all of this all the time we would never be sad again.

Singhstah bhaji this Salok brought a tear to my eye Guru jee puts it plain and simple man that was like a mental slap to sort myself out even more ! Vaheguru Vaheguru Vaheguru

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Bhanji i think you should contemplate and reflect on ALL the replies on here as they are telling the TRUTH and also for yourself to really fix up ! look at what all the Khalsa did for us to be here and this is how you pay your ancestors back ?! ....... face the truth he maybe fine now but some are not to be trusted in an instant trust and 'love' can be destroyed and then through that pain you may see the light of truth which bhaji's and bhanji's have been urging and requesting you to think about...

May Vaheguru jee direct you according to there hukam

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Raman ji

I won't give you any advice like my other beloved fellow GurSikhs have. They have spoken many valuable words which are good enough, and which you should pay heed to. The only thing I'd say is ask you a simple question - What is your priority in life? If its your religion, your culture, your family, your traditions, then the question of being with the Muslim guy won't even arise in your mind. If its the Muslim guy who is your priority, then I don't think any advice would matter. The parents who raised you all your life, I don't think its fair to them by giving them up for some guy you know only for 3 years. Its easy to say that "he is not like the others", but have you ever seen him or been with him in a situation like the others? You say "he doesn't care about religion", what if he starts caring about it at some point in future? I am sure you are wise enough to ask yourself these questions.

You are 20, you are not exactly a kid any more and need to be more responsible towards yourself and your family, towards your integrity and theirs. Sikh-Muslim marriages may work out, how can you be so sure it will work out in your case too? Not caring about society is fine. Society is not perfect, neither are its norms, but what you need to ask yourself is "Is all this worth going through? And for who, for what?" I am trying to put myself in your situation, and I am asking myself all these questions. Who/what is most important to me? My Sikhi? My family? Or someone I say I love? Someone who I feel cares about me? I am asking myself this, and I cannot comprehend compromising my Sikhi for anyone, even if its a family member.

Have you both ever discussed Sikhi and Islam? I guess you haven't, which is fine. But if you had, you both would immediately realize that "this won't work out". Don't get me wrong, Islam has good people too, but the kind of history and kind of differences we've had just makes it almost impossible to imagine a joint matrimonial alliance. Its a fact, no matter how sad it sounds.

Also, sorry to say this but I don't feel you two could be friends again. Its best to keep friendship within the limits and boundaries of friendship and not let it escalate to an emotionally romantic relationship. Once you cross that boundary, there is no turning back. You can break off ties with the person but can never be friends again because the limit has been overrun. Now this may sound like an advice I said I won't give, but take this as a lesson going forward for your future. Friendship with a person of the opposite gender, whether Sikh or non-Sikh, should remain limited to pure friendship. I know for a fact that things do get ruined if you try to turn it into something else, unless one of the two is wise enough to know that such a boundary is not to be crossed and destroy a sweet friendship that could have survived an entire lifetime.

Last but not the least, don't be crying, ok? :) You have an All-Loving Guru who is there for you 24/7, even when your parents and your boyfriend can't be there for you, who will forgive every single sin of yours once you whole-heartedly and sincerely beg forgiveness, who will solve ALL your problems and erase all your troubles once you beg Him and surrender to His Will. So why cry? :)

Please forgive if anything I said sounded harsh. If you want to talk more, I can be contacted at ajeeb.bandaa@gmail.com. Feel free, I'd be happy to help, even it means just talking/listening.

May Guru Sahib guide, bless, and protect you always!

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Don't be so harsh on this person . If it were a hindu or christians or one of our usual punjabi non believer in sikhism but still wants a nice wedding types you wouldn juj so badly. It happens so now help her with good . Hopefully the boy will love you enough and respect your family enough to want to have a sikh weddin trust me this will go a long way for them accepting it. Your case is not unique. Hope this helps good luck.

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you might think its love. but some guys have a way of attracting girls. and look what he's done to you, he has almost MADE you fall in love with him with all his tricks. its not real. just get out of it as quick as you can.

its sad, because u have feelings for him, but hes made u like this.

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