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to the post starter..............people like you are simply a disgrace to amritdharis, you cannot even be considered a khalsa. NO WAY FULLSTOP.

THE KHALSA IS OF HIGH MORALS and dating is not amongst those morals........what made you think it was ok to start dating in the first place????????

there was a time where families would trust their daughters with singhs, because they knew that these singhs were guru gobind singhs ji's sons; but the situation now is all too different.........there a very few amritdharis who do not indulge in such actions......MOST OF THE PARCHARIKS IN THE UK, HAD LOVE MARRIAGES or have fffed about.........so they can never tell any of the youth not to do so, because they will be hypocrites. therefore this lack of parchar has led to a messed up situation where the up and coming youth do not see a problem in dating each other...and do so freely without regret or shame.....WHEN IS THIS <edited> GOING TO STOP....???????/

to the immature couple......you can live your mirza sahiban lifestyle but please DO NOT TARNISH MY FAMILY NAME AND REPUATION BY DATING, INSTEAD LEAVE THE PANTH AND LEAVE THE ROOP THAT YOU HAVE.

BESIDES, THE FACT THAT YOU'VE POSTED ON HERE SHOWS HOW RIDICULOUSLY IMMATURE YOU ARE, AND THAT YOU HAVE LITTLE GIAN, QUITE SIMPLY YOUR FULL OF <edited>!

IT COULD EVEN BE THAT THIS POST IS FAKE AND THAT YOU'RE TRYING TO DEFAME SIKHS..........WHO KNOWS...?

IF YOU WANTED TO BE A <edited> THEN YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN SO WITHOUT THE KHALSA IDENTITY.

GO ROT IN HELL.

IF PEOPLE THINK THAT I'M BEING EXTREME THEN SO BE IT, I DONT CARE...

1000000% agree with that ^^^ apart from the 'rot in hell' part, i just hope that one day these 2 people realise the truth and see what guru gobind singh jee expects from his gursikhs... unless it IS somebody trying to defame us.. vaaheguroo

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What is this some kind of witch hunt or something if you got a prob with these sikhs say it on ther face or this is just nindia and dont sit there calling it the Truth nindia is nindia!

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if you are amrit-dhari then you follow dharam, and if you follow dharam then you shouldn't go against your parents and also shouldn't argue, because you are following adharam.

IF you really are amrit-shak, then are you following dharam? Also is making boyfriend partner dharam? If you follow dharam, you also follow the maryada of your family!!! Many, many sikh girls your age have had boyfriends and probably at least one ex. I don't know how I can help you...

This pre-marital ex-partners stuff is a mess, seriously, where are we supposed to find decent people who are actually serious about marriage, instead of this over-relaxed baqwaas?

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Wjkkwjkf Wow i am so shocked this girl is asking dor your advice and you guys are just being far too rude and some of you dont know where you get your facts from. I am not an amritdhari but i am practicing to be one and i can relate to the situation you are going through about the caste system i take it your parents are not amritdhari

Well In MY OPINION i do not think you should be scared to confront your parents simple terms if you dont ask you dont get... Just pray tell waheguru your problems he will show you the way trust me... Dont let people opinions bring you down chin up stay strong and please dont run away my sister ran away and my family has never been the same wont go into much detail but bottom line is confront your parents your a singhni trust your guru be strong stick together things will be ok... Hope it all goes well bhul huk maff people!

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Sikhi does not allow forced marriages, it is in your hands. The caste problem and the age problem is mainly to do with money you got to know if the person is economic stable or could/can be for you, your future, your children to come. Has he got a job, house, car the rest of the stuff. You should have known your parents before dating and during dating if you see a future, perhaps dropping hints to your parents through stories maybe even fake ones, the ones oh my friend married this and that maybe from tv or off family the drama on tv about jatt and tarkhan marriage etc. Sikhs a minority and i think people need to grow up and forget this caste thing it's nonsense don't work these days. Them old folks are half way in the grave and going to die soon, you got to live your life and forget the caste think for you and your kids as with people rid this forget the caste nonsense half of those stories are made up, there is no such thing as jatt or tarkhan brahmins made it up to control people.

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waheguru ji da khalsa waheguru ji di fateh...

I think loving any1 is not a crime...n secondly feel lucky that u met a guy who too is Gursikh..so its No harm 2 marry...but i feel you are too young..n when you Are a Gursikh girl how did you evn think about eloping..this shows ur lack of faith in RABB G...infact you Should pray and request the creator of destiny WAHEGURU JI dat if HE made you meet and fell in love wid ur mate then HE should bless u and guide Some way out..n trust me whosoever comes to

RABB G's sharan with devotion and humiltiy goes with all his wishes fulfilled...and u haven't done any crime By loving any one..but always remember First u'r a Gursikh then a daugthr and then A lover...so do ardaas and get bliss in HIS baani...n always thank HIM for what ever HE did and is doing...and your parents will also be convinced...:)

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"God has no marks, no colour, no caste, and no ancestors, No form, no complexion, no outline, no costume..." - He created us in his image so if his perfect, so is his creation. If we go against what is written by Guru Maharaj then we dont deserved to be called sikhs. Caste's have no place in Sikhism, Guru ji made it clear that any person who belongs to a caste, Does not belong to Sikhi or God. Full stop. !

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ur anmritshuk n u do dis type of stupid shyt , who said loving is a crime but they r loving maya , wat do u think now . yea ur religon and ur parents r less important then this guy . UR ANMRTSHUK !! u no i heard dis guy he said ppl r anmritshuk by body not by mind , true anmrtishuk comes when mind goes and anmritshuks . u want to run away wit dis guy , U THINK DIS IS A BOLLYWOOD MOVIE , U HAVE KAAM AND EGO BLINDING U SOMUCH . U CANT EVNSEE WATS HAPPN IN FRONT OF U .

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look, a marrage without love, is no marage at all. from prem, pyaar, preet, we get to god. outside this, ther is nothing..

we do not believe in arranged marrage. we believe in assisted marrage. meaning, either you find a guy, or ur parents or friends, suggest somone to you.

bottom line we must have love. sikhs believe in assisted marrage. i.e. suggesting a guy / girl . if you fall in and out of love, that aint right. if you both remember god from that love, and not get sexually high / the urges in that love, then its ok too.

if the love is for marage, then its ok. if not, then u know thta its wrong!!

fateh

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