Her dad want's true sikh

[Mehtab Singh]

The final outcome's amazing! But that single decision that mata ji made, to take amrit...so that she could feed Bhai saheb....I dunno.... What are your views about it?

Bhenji this is a totally different scenario altogether, in my opinion. The mata ji and rest of the family were ALREADY Sikhs to begin with, or atleast born in Sikh families, so they were ALREADY "in it" if you will. In romantic situations one has to adopt a different religion and disown one's previous faith (into which one was born), and all for someone of the opposite gender. The example you gave is in fact a blessing.

I am not saying that one shouldn't come into Sikhi. You're right, how can we know what are Guru Sahib's plans. Maybe people are meant to come into Sikhi through romantic channels. But then same way may be some people are destined to leave Sikhi through these same channels, and that is also under His will then, right jee? My only concern is what is the basis of such a change? How strong is the foundation? Lets say some Jewish guy fell in love with a Buddhist girl and ended up converting to Buddhism just to marry her. Few years later into marriage, Vaheguru forbid she passes away in an accident, then what? Will he continue to be a Buddhist or go back to Judaism all over again? That will be the question he should be prepared to answer, and that is the litmus test he will have to pass as this is what shows his commitment even in the face of the most dire circumstances. And bhenji this is Sikhi we're talking about, the Khalsa Panth of Dasam Pita, the brotherhood you join by signing your own death warrant and then submitting it with your own hands at SatGuru Patshah jee's charan kamal. No one should come into it OR leave it due to immature romantic decisions.

Just my opinion jeeo

bhul chukk maaf karni

[singhdhillon]

apni kudi kise gair sikh naal viah deni galat hai,,,,,, pehla os ladki di khaber laine aali aa jo sikh ho k hindu munde naal viah de supne dekhdi aa

[Mehtab Singh]

apni kudi kise gair sikh naal viah deni galat hai,,,,,, pehla os ladki di khaber laine aali aa jo sikh ho k hindu munde naal viah de supne dekhdi aa

kisay hindu ya hor ghair-sikh di kudi apne ghar laike auna vi galt hona chahida fer, ki nai ? apne mundeya di vi naal naal khabar leni peni sannu...

[jang123]

No interfaith marriages. Donaan (Munda - kurhi) nu Amritdhari hona chahida bass. Ohna donaan da pehla dharm ki si is naal sanu koi matlab nhi hona chahida.

[singhdhillon]

kisay hindu ya hor ghair-sikh di kudi apne ghar laike auna vi galt hona chahida fer, ki nai ? apne mundeya di vi naal naal khabar leni peni sannu...

dekh veer jad koi bnda kise dooje dharm di kudi naal viaah krda, ta kudi da ohi dharm hunda jo osde husband da hunda, so ta main keh riha k j sikh kudi kise hor dharm de munde naal viaah kerdi aa ta ohda sanu lose aa, but j asi dooje dharm di kudi naal viaah ker de haan ta oh ta sikh hi banauni paini aa, saaf aa oh sikhi ch aau, ............ asi loka nu sikhi ch shamal karna k bahar kadna, ha j koi hindu munda amritdhari hove oh hor gal aa, per kudiya hi hamesha dharm badal dyan,

guru gobind singh ji ne rajpoot raje aa nu kiha c k tusi apne hathi gavaa buchda de hath fdaunde ho, oh kehdne asi pakke hindu asi eh kam ni karde, guru sahib kehnde k apni dhee muslmaan naak viaah deni , buchad de hath gau fda den braber hai,

[Mehtab Singh]

j sikh kudi kise hor dharm de munde naal viaah kerdi aa ta ohda sanu lose aa, but j asi dooje dharm di kudi naal viaah ker de haan ta oh ta sikh hi banauni paini aa, saaf aa oh sikhi ch aau

hona te eh chahida par inna soukha vi nai na hunda...especially in cases of love marriage between 2 people of different religions, neither one will be ready to give up...thats why many families are mixed...munda-kudi dona ne kehna ki mai tere dharm nu kuch ni kehnda/kehndi, tu menu na keh...mukk di gal eh hai, ki je kisi nu apne dharm naal sachi pyaar hai, ohne dujje dharm de munde/kudi naal viah di gal sochni vi nai...jihna di priorities life ch hor ne, oh jo marji kari jaan...thats what i always say in such threads...if the guy/girl had love/satkaar for Sikhi to begin with, and understood the importance of having a Sikh spouse in order to ensure his/her progeny also had the same, he/she will never marry a non-Sikh...those who dont bother about Sikhi can't be held responsible if they marry outside religion...please forgive me for saying this but then its the parents' fault for not having cultivated that prem in their kids at a young age...magro jinna marji roi jaao "haaye kudi hindu naal firdi"..."haaye kudi nu te musalmaan pasand aa gya"...uncle jee, aunty jee, galti vi fer tuhadi hee aa...see that video i posted in sher-e-punjab thread...Sikhaan diaan kudiyaan aap kehndiya ke asi musalmana naal turna-firna, and sanu koi nai rok sakda...this shows the ugly truth...parents nu chahida ki shoti umro hee Gurmat di gurrti baccheya nu ditti jaave...

baaki these are just my opinions...je kisi nu galt lagge taan meherbani karke theek kar deo...je bure lagge te menu maafi de deni jee...

[Guest kharab]

arjun bai,

life is short.happiness cant be taken for granted.You never know when the small things in life that make one happy vanish.One doesnt live forever.So do what makes you both happy.

However,i would advise the stuff only if your love is as strong as sohni mahiwaal.I doubt whether your love is as strong and fast love between sohni and mahiwal.these days love is just a feeling that goes away with time and situation.

if you are ready to live without her,i suggest a wedding is not the proper bargain.If you are ready to die for her,then your love warrants it and who are we to stand between you two.Love is also a gift of god and i too have loved and lost.

[Jonny101]

Difficult situation

[Jonny101]

I feel for you. You've been in a long term relationship with her and are honourable enough to not have taken this relationship to the physical level. You kept her izzat intact. I respect you for that because in today's society not many guys are like this. But at the same time I feel for her father as well. If I were her father I would not want my daughter to marry a non Sikh, especially if she has taken Amrit because Amritdharis are suppose to follow certain sidhaants/asools. An amritdhari cannot marry a non Sikh because she would comprimise her dharm if she did. So I feel sorry for you as I feel for her father, as you both are in a difficult situation. But the girl in this story, she was Amritdhari, so she knew what was expected of her from the side of her Dharm and her father yet she got into a relationship with you. The girl should have been smarter instead of putting you and her father in such a difficult situation. Some how I wish things could get well for you and her father.

[VanHelsingh]

I feel for you. You've been in a long term relationship with her and are honourable enough to not have taken this relationship to the physical level. You kept her izzat intact. I respect you for that because in today's society not many guys are like this. But at the same time I feel for her father as well. If I were her father I would not want my daughter to marry a non Sikh, especially if she has taken Amrit because Amritdharis are suppose to follow certain sidhaants/asools. An amritdhari cannot marry a non Sikh because she would comprimise her dharm if she did. So I feel sorry for you as I feel for her father, as you both are in a difficult situation. But the girl in this story, she was Amritdhari, so she knew what was expected of her from the side of her Dharm and her father yet she got into a relationship with you. The girl should have been smarter instead of putting you and her father in such a difficult situation. Some how I wish things could get well for you and her father.

I completely agree with all of the above. Finding the right person (someone we connect with on an emotional level) is so very difficult these days. A few moments with the right person is wonderful. But 3 years? That can't be dismissed so quickly. But then the father is also absolutely correct, and I respect him for his stance on the issue. Too many parents these days are weak-willed and unable to handle their households, and the father has to take into account many considerations and points of view before making a decision.