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Being alone does not bother me so much, althou it does hurt when nobody cares or asks, but not being able participate in sangat and to go to the gurdwara bothers me more than anything. So I will say to those that have their health and are able to do that, make the most of it, and go to gurdwara, do seva, go and sit in divan, listen to kirtan, as u are so lucky u are given this opportunity, grab it with both hands. One place where u will never be alone is the gurdwara, and dont worry about having no friends, they come and go, and believe me the friends i had, were not friends, otherwise they would be here now.

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I have come to know there is only one pleasure waheguru himself none other so don't think of alone just medidate on waheguru. I myself B. Tech. Pursuing MBA think to join seva in gurudwara and in search of singhni with dastar who have very much love for God.

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Waheguru ji ki Fateh

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SInghnis want singhnis as friends but that isn't always possible in todays day and age because we live amongst monas/goras and so forth.

I have had amrit years ago and I have to say I do not have any close SInghnis as friends and don't bother to make any aswell because I feel comfortable talking to anyone.

My bestest friend doesn't even have a clue what religion is.

Yes singhnis and amritdhaaris would motivate me more but everyone has differences in them, so just think that the difference between you and your friend is that you're amritdhari on guru jis path, and she/he isn't.

It doesn't make a difference unless you copy what they do and try to be them.

Be yourself-be unique and be a good sikh and make friend with EVERYONE.

I have hardly talked to my friends about religion and being a sikh-it doesn't ever crop up. just because someone best friend is 'off the trcks' it doesn't mean that person is also a manmukh-why be lonely and sad, just be friends with everyone but keep your own jeevan good.

If they go clubbing and drink, allow it-just don't go with them-that is just my opinion and what i always do. besides, it is not like they will affect your reputation because you are only going to talk and socialise with them in college or whatever or around your home town.

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Not having many friends is not the end of the world. I had all the friends in the world once, as soon I as became a gursikh they all fell off as flies. The local gursikh youth dont understand me either due to my "past" so the only sangat I have and realise I need is in the divan and my wonderful wife and family.

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