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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

With the belssings of the Eternal King Sahib Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji ,

I hold a humble benti to the Charan of all Sangat. I am in a predicament. I posted previously around 12months ago about a 'Baba' staying at my house and my family following manmat practices - Jal Taareh, Doodh Taareh etc etc.

A little about myself: i kept my Kesh 2 years ago however still trimmed my beard and at and drank etc. I am a final year law student. I have always had great pyaar for Sikhi and as a result I stopped eating meat and stopped drinking at the behest of my family. As a result of our differeing views on religion my family and I stopped speaking to each other: my mother and I did not speak for nearly over 10months. When we did start speaking they hinted at me trimming my beard and to stop being 'weird' and start eating meat etc. As a result of keeping the peace within the house i did all of this.

Even though i started doing all of the above I did not leave my paath or my Gurudwara (obviously not on the same days as the drink etc). As it was Vaisakhi i stopped for the duration from the srart of April until now - as I had Seva Duties for the Akhand Paath (JapJi Sahib Rauls).

My parents got in contact with this Baba bercause of my brother as they thought there was somethign wrong with him - anyway I had an arguiment with my parents a few weeks back and the subject of the Baba came up and I in anger said ill though things about him which angered my parentrs etc. Now we are not speaking again. TOday I had a call from my Mum and I was tryuing to sort things out but it came to the same result _ my mopther asking me not to contact her and not to speak to her etc I was also told that i was old enough to think and do what I want.

Im lost Sangat Jee, I would love to Chakk Amrit and become the Sikh of Guru Jee - but honestly I have no one - i thought my family would support me in my path of Sikhi but they wopnt either.

Can any Sangat help.?

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Waheguru

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa !! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh !!




Guru Sahib say's :-



Jau tau prem khelan ka chao. Sir dhar tali gali mori aao.


“If you wish to play the game of love, come my way, with your head on the palm of your hand.” (Guru Granth Sahib (GGS) p.1412)



are you ready ?


are you ready to leave all these worldy relations and accept guru? and be in sanagat of gursikhs only?




Thats the question only you can answer

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It is obvious that family members are in deep web of someone and that person is telling them what to do and what not to do in order to keep them stuck in his web.

This is what I suggest to all people... regardless of how panthic or deep in Sikhi you are, never try to give other suggestions, lecture or enter into any debate with others who have even slight difference in ideology.

Keep Sikhi within yourself and try to earn Sikhi gem as much as you can without revealing others on what you are learning and/or what Sikhi is. We have cash in our banks but we don't go on and tell others about our hard earned cash. Keep it within yourself while maintaining social relationship with others.

If I was in ur spot, I will honor my mums wish but at same time I will send them invitations to social programs and help them whenever they want. Respect them but don't cut off them from it side.

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