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I don't think what you are doing is wrong. I will tell that not Punjabi girls will be good and not all white girls will be bad.

Most important thing is moral character. If she is good that way, respects you for your identity, then all's well. Mind it, she probably likes you for who you are( that is you stand by certain ideal and values, and that includes your beard and turban). Many girls want to be with somebody who has these qualities.

I wont go to the point where you would have premarital sexual relationship though.

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I would tell you to go for it dude. Like the above poster said, not all Punjabi girls are good, and not every white girl is bad. There is good and bad in every race/religion.

But even I will echo your statements about being a keshdari and trying to date Punjabi girls. Most of them won't even look at you, let alone go out with you. Unless they are keshdari themselves, they usually want nothing to do with keshdari guys. The exception are those girls that are knowledgable on Sikh philosophy and Sikh history, those girls are usually class and worth dating, but most non-keshdari Punjabi girls have very little knowledge on Sikhi so would't consider a guy who keeps his hair, and to that I say good riddance, to be honest I don't care how good looking girl is, the most unattractive thing in the world to me is a chick who disregards Guru Jis teachings, I would advise you that in the future, if things don't work out with this girl, don't waste your time on Punjabi girls who do not know their Sikhi, time is money my friend, looks fade but real character, morals and love of Sikhi is forever.

Other than that, this girl you're with now sounds really nice. I see lots of keshdari guys going out with white girls myself, it's funny to me that even Hindu and Muslim girls give the kesh more respect than a lot of so called 'Sikh" girls do, I have known keshdari guys who have dated/married Hindu and Muslim girls as well. It's nice to see that keshdari guys are finally starting to look past Punjabi girls and realize that there are girls from other races/religions who will give them more respect than girls from their own.

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If you are flashing around daddy's bank roll in a nice car, nice clothing, money to spend without a care, and university paid for by daddy, then any clever girl will be nice and make sure she gets a piece of that pie.

More and more girls from other races have figured out that Punjabi parents give everything to their boys and this means easily six figures. So they target Punjabi naïve boys that start drooling as a white girl asks them out.

Many Punjabi girls don't go for the money because they are sick and tired of being classed as second class once they are married into Punjabi families. So they compensate for the money by making the money for themselves and now they can do as they wish. Punjabi girls want that relaxed married life without taking care of the husbands parents. The girl from the other race gets away with this because she molds the husband into her way of thinking.

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If you are flashing around daddy's bank roll in a nice car, nice clothing, money to spend without a care, and university paid for by daddy, then any clever girl will be nice and make sure she gets a piece of that pie.

More and more girls from other races have figured out that Punjabi parents give everything to their boys and this means easily six figures. So they target Punjabi naïve boys that start drooling as a white girl asks them out.

Many Punjabi girls don't go for the money because they are sick and tired of being classed as second class once they are married into Punjabi families. So they compensate for the money by making the money for themselves and now they can do as they wish. Punjabi girls want that relaxed married life without taking care of the husbands parents. The girl from the other race gets away with this because she molds the husband into her way of thinking.

Well I don't have a car, I wear pretty normal clothing and my parents have never given me so much as 20 dollars to "spend without a care" on whatever I want. I've been told to work for everything that I want.

I wasn't drooling over the fact that she is white, it actually made me apprehensive because I knew of the possible problems we may have to face down the line. I DO want to live with my parents even after marriage, I am the eldest son and want to take care of my parents. I will also do my best to take care of my wife's parents, as I believe in respecting your in-laws.

I would never allow any girl to mold me into her way of thinking lol. The second any girls starts telling me what I can and can't do, or makes me compromise my Sikhi and fundamental values in any way, I am out of there. But that's just me, can't speak for all Punjabi guys.

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One thing though the only thing that would bother me is when it comes to marriage right I mean a girls whole family got to be same caste and how do we find this out in this case. Its not possible right, but bhaji you are lucky to have found a good girl.

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