I want to take Amrit but my parents don't let me

[Guest Gupt/anonymous]

Wjkk wjkf, 

i am 12 yrs old and I want to take Amrit but my parents won't let me. 

1. They say u r too young. 

2. You might cut your hair when u grow up. 

3. People don't hire amritdharis. 

4. When will u get if u take Amrit. 

5. You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh. (I know this but I said u r not a complete Sikh)

6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis 

These r some of the issues I am facing please help 

very depressed

[Kira 1,427]

You're parents are right you are too young, the rest of their reasons are just plain stupid. Don't rush into Amrit and take your time learning everything, become a candidate of Sikhi before taking amrit. Even Mahapurkhs like Bhai Sahib Bhai Randhir Singh Ji took their time and got into Rehit before taking Amrit.

[Cloud 11]

1. My parents tell me that I am to young to take amrit.

We have 3 things which belongs to god / Vaheguru. 1. Our soul which the source of god comes from. Our body which our souls reside to get back to the one source, the one akal purakh. And our mind which can we can either train with help of sadhana and bani to get closer to the source of light which is also Vaheguru.

Now that you are 12 your body is going through alot of changes until you reach the age of around 25.

What your parents worry about is Puberty

 

Your soul will be the same. However your body and mind will go through some drastic changes. Puberty is a very sensitive part especially related to future school and work life.If you do not have a constant sadhana that can help you through puberty , this time of your life can be very diffucult. And as stated in the video, most of us that are adults speak with experiance. 

2. You are going to cut your hair when you get older.

Also based on experiance. Your parents maybe even took amrit themselves during young age/teens and speak of experiance. Without constant sadhana you will not have a back up plan when the time comes.

3. People don't hire amritdharis.

Depends on which field you will apply. One reason is why most sikhs around the world get jobs is because they have been raised by thier parents to take a specialist field were the employer market needs people. For example by becoming a pathologist, a doctor that studies diseases and cells.

 4. When will you get if you take amrit?

???

5.   You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh.

Sikh means a learner / disciple. With that perspective everyone in the world is a sikh because we learn through life. Being a sikh of the guru, a gursikh is a difference. More of that is discussed in the video above.

6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis

EDIT: Viktor Frankl experiances.

 

 

7. I am depressed, what should I do?

VJKK VJKF

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[Guest Jacfsing2]

18 hours ago, Guest Gupt/anonymous said:

Wjkk wjkf, 

i am 12 yrs old and I want to take Amrit but my parents won't let me. 

1. They say u r too young. 

2. You might cut your hair when u grow up. 

3. People don't hire amritdharis. 

4. When will u get if u take Amrit. 

5. You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh. (I know this but I said u r not a complete Sikh)

6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis 

These r some of the issues I am facing please help 

very depressed

No offense but from your writing you seem a bit immature. What is your current maryada right now? The battle of your teenage years are also coming-up, and if you don't stsy strong during that era, you will fail! And no lie, don't really understand what number #4 means. If you really want to and not act like an immature guy making rash decisions because a preacher told you once to take Amrit with lots of "inspiration", then please understand what Amrit is, you are giving your head, (life), to the true Guru. Amrit means beyond death, Daas has taken Amrit; however, it certainly wasn't a rash decision, and took many years of contemplating and growing Rehat, the best solution is to take a Hukamnama.

[Guest Guest_singh]

They might not be saying that you cannot take it but maybe not to rush. If you still want to,  you will have to sacrifice by waking up at amritvela which is around 2am and can be hard especially for school. 

[Akalifauj 900]

On ‎17‎/‎12‎/‎2016 at 11:44 AM, Guest Gupt/anonymous said:

Wjkk wjkf, 

i am 12 yrs old and I want to take Amrit but my parents won't let me. 

1. They say u r too young. 

2. You might cut your hair when u grow up. 

3. People don't hire amritdharis. 

4. When will u get if u take Amrit. 

5. You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh. (I know this but I said u r not a complete Sikh)

6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis 

These r some of the issues I am facing please help 

very depressed

A person is never too young to take amrit.  However you need to understand the seriousness of taking Amrit.  When taking Amrit don't base it on feelings.  Taking Amrit is an inner desire to follow the Guru's hukam.  For example many people get into relationships saying they love the other person, but all they had were temporary feelings and they break up after days, weeks or months.  Taking Amrit is not to be seen in this way.  Taking Amrit is a life long commitment.  You may or may not face ruff times after taking Amrit, but it all depends on your commitment. 

The older generation says they were married off too early and some are being divorced.  Yet today adults are getting married later on in life, "when they are ready" and they have the highest divorce rate in all time history.  Did these adults not stand before Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji and make a commitment?  It's not how old you are, but your level of commitment to trust Guru Sahib and continue on the path.  Age has nothing to do with this at all. 

You don't need to provide a response for your parents ill conceived reasons.  But follow the Guru's instructions as an Amritdhari and Guru Sahib will do his kirpa on you and bless you with Amrit.  Ignore the negativity and stick to following Sikhi.  Surround yourself with people who are Amritdhari and follow the Sikh teachings. 

[Guest YourServant]

On 17/12/2016 at 7:44 PM, Guest Gupt/anonymous said:

Wjkk wjkf, 

i am 12 yrs old and I want to take Amrit but my parents won't let me. 

1. They say u r too young. 

2. You might cut your hair when u grow up. 

3. People don't hire amritdharis. 

4. When will u get if u take Amrit. 

5. You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh. (I know this but I said u r not a complete Sikh)

6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis 

These r some of the issues I am facing please help 

very depressed

VaheguruJiKaKhalsa VaheguruJiKiFateh 

Firstly, congratulations on facing the battle that many older brothers & sisters on this forum will have faced at some point along their journey towards the Guru.  Secondary, well done for considering the Gurus path as your true calling for the rest of your time on this earth, after all tomorrow isn't promised today.  Thirdly, contrary to the comments of some, you have shown great maturity by taking steps to counter your parents views, because most 12 yr olds I know or have come across are more interested in the latest fads or trends, rather that becoming Guru-Centred.  We are often told that our parents know best and this is true in most cases, but it all depends on just who we consider to be our true parents.

 

Anyway, coming to forums like this for answers to questions like yours can often leave you with more/further questions rather that the resolution that you are looking for.  My personal advise would be to go to Gurdwara Sahib and do ardas to Guru Maharaj for what you truly desire, then take a hukamnama and read and think about that hukamnama and what it means to your journey, on a daily basis.  If you think it will help and more importantly if your parents will listen, contact a Guru-Centred organisation like Basics of sikhi, Everythings13 or Sikh Awareness Society and ask them if they would mind speaking to your parents on your behalf.  

Stay strong and always talk to Guru Sahib as Guru is the answer to everything.

vahegurujikakhalsa vahegurujikifateh

[Guest Saas Giraas Vaheguru]

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! I was in a similar situation when I was young. I wanted to take amrit but back then I really didn't know what it was. I thought it was just a ceremony and I will my very own kirpan. My parents stopped me from taking amrit. Over the past 5 years I worked on learning gurmukhi (sangattv online youtube videos), learning my nitnem and keeping rehit. Gursikh should want to be in sangat, have the walk the talk the mentality and the prem that Gurus sikh has to take amrit. I see many people take amrit and break it like its nothing, eat egg and think they are still Gursikhs. Life gets hard after amrit but Guru ji makes it easy if you are getting what I am trying to say. About 2 years ago I took Amrit at an AKJ smagam and have recently kept bibek but these things are only achieved when you take that first initial step. If you know your bani, the rehit and you love sangat then I say take it. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh 

 

[jkvlondon 5,551]

On 18/12/2016 at 2:04 PM, Jacfsing2 said:

No offense but from your writing you seem a bit immature. What is your current maryada right now? The battle of your teenage years are also coming-up, and if you don't stsy strong during that era, you will fail! And no lie, don't really understand what number #4 means. If you really want to and not act like an immature guy making rash decisions because a preacher told you once to take Amrit with lots of "inspiration", then please understand what Amrit is, you are giving your head, (life), to the true Guru. Amrit means beyond death, Daas has taken Amrit; however, it certainly wasn't a rash decision, and took many years of contemplating and growing Rehat, the best solution is to take a Hukamnama.

no offense but the OP IS 12 ...doh

I had Amrit at ten wanted it from age 8.5 , I was rehitvaan solidly during my youth ...it is the best time to have amrit as there are no guarantees of the next breath plus you haven't engaged in any of the major paaps  neither likely to accumulate in that age so Bhgati will have better effects. It is best to get on Nanak Naam Jahaz sooner than later , sure understand rehit and also organise your resources for your daily nitnem and life . Your parents are also on their journey but they should not be your main obstacle to sikhi , watch english katha of the banian on Basics of Sikhi and discuss with them , help them see how ready you are .

[Guest Toofan Singh]

I was about your age when I took Amrit. I'd suggest you wait but I could be wrong in your case! The world is very undisciplined and staying disciplined is going to take a man out of you!

Life is not about being depressed, stay happy while facing all challenges of the life. Easier said than done but try it! Once you able to do that, you are ready for Amrit!

[Guest Vijeta Achhra]

On 12/18/2016 at 1:14 AM, Guest Gupt/anonymous said:

Wjkk wjkf, 

i am 12 yrs old and I want to take Amrit but my parents won't let me. 

1. They say u r too young. 

2. You might cut your hair when u grow up. 

3. People don't hire amritdharis. 

4. When will u get if u take Amrit. 

5. You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh. (I know this but I said u r not a complete Sikh)

6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis 

These r some of the issues I am facing please help 

very depressed

 Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fatehOnly Guru sahib can bless us with Amrit Di Daat , I'm also in a same situation like uh , bt den do not ever think that becoz of some other person ur not able to walk on path of sikhi . The only point is dat ki hune Guru sahib ji di Permission nhi haigii...putraan Gurusikh use to beg for the amrit ,so they had an idea of how amrit is the daat . Keep doing efforts veer ji eek din Guru shaib ji tuth ke daat baksh  denge.. Try to follow rehat , to do nitnem ,Nd always have faith on Guru shaib Nd be patience  he will surely bless uh with it .[[.Jin prem kiyo tin hi prabh payo]]...    (( Karan kaaran smarth prabh Jo karay so hoye ))) The cause of causes, the almighty Lord God , whatever he wills, comes to pass!!

[Guest 2serious 2525]

From my experience everyone is like this. Its only rare that your parents will encourage you. You dont need permission just go do it. They are not going to kick you out for taking Amrit in fact later that day they probably will be happy. If they do kick you out just tell any good Singh what happened he would be happy to take care of you.

 

Bhul Chuk Maaf | Sat Shri Akal

[Guest sikh girl]

On 12/17/2016 at 12:44 PM, Guest Gupt/anonymous said:

Wjkk wjkf, 

i am 12 yrs old and I want to take Amrit but my parents won't let me. 

1. They say u r too young. 

2. You might cut your hair when u grow up. 

3. People don't hire amritdharis. 

4. When will u get if u take Amrit. 

5. You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh. (I know this but I said u r not a complete Sikh)

6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis 

These r some of the issues I am facing please help 

very depressed

 

[Guest sikh girl]

It’s ok I’m facing the same thing. I’m 13 and I still go to sangat and the gurdwara everyday . It’s ok because maharaj is taking you the right way. If your heart tells you that you want to take it, take it. Your parents don’t decide if you can take it, maharaj does and your heart does, because maharaj is in your heart and everywhere. He’s telling you to take it and if your parents don’t listen , then talk to maharaj in your room . They don’t decide for you. And if you feel alone then just now that maharaj with still Be with you. I’m getting Amrit next week because all my friends moms told my parents that if she wants to take it then let her... and I’m doing it but if my mom says no then I’ll still do it , the gurdwara is close to my house so yeh. Everybody is telling me it’s the right thing to do and it is. You can talk to me anytime ok, remember that. Idk if your a random person because Sikh is a important thing and I’ll help anyone for anything that involves Sikh.  

Once there was this guys and he wanted to take Amrit, but his parents would say it’s the wrong way to go cause they said study is the number one priority . It actually isn’t because when you take Amrit , god can make you be a smart person but you can still study though. But Sikh is your culture , it makes you who you really are. Once you take Amrit , god is your family. Just like god has a glowing thing at round his head, because he still powerful. once you take Amrit your also in your own bubble and no one can pop it .  I could write about this forever because Sikh is my life . God doesn’t have a gender because he is all genders. Back to the story, the guy was really depressed and he kept crying every single day but he still followed the Sikh rules. He would go around the gurdwara with his car and then park. On the front , there would be a house with people partying and eating cake with egg and smoke weed. The guys didn’t wanna go the wrong way so he went around everyday. And when you can drive a car, make sure you take at least ten people with you, do Sevadars for them, take as many people as you can. Set a goal because every one of us sikhs have a goal and, that’s is to make god proud and do everything he says to do. Don’t worry, on vashakhi go ahead and walk to the gurdwara and take it. I was depressed to but now I’m in my own little bubble and my parents are god.  Back to the story, one day the guy went to the other side of the temple and he didn’t go around , the other guys asked did you go around the gurdwara and the guys lied and said yes I did. He lied and went in the party to see what would happen and he did that everyday . The guy suggested him to get married and he didn’t but he ruined his life by still going to the party . And when he was about to die , he thanked maharaj for giving him a chance to be what he wanted to be , but he broke it. So be strong and it’s ok if people think that your a dumb person just because you don’t come to parties and stuff. Come to Kirtan and santheeya instead . Vaheguru Ji ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ke Fateh

[Guest Sikh girl]

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your parents dont decide for you the real awnser is in your heart because god is in your heart and hes everywhere. He dosnt have a gender because hes everything. If you want to take amrit then go for it! Guru ji decides for you and he will know when you ready and then you'll think about it and want to get it. Contact sikh awarness society and ask then to talk with your parents because they have helped alot of children go through this problom. Remember that if you feel alone your not the only one because i also faced this but guess what, nest week im taking amrit so just waalk to the gurdwara ask yourself, am i really worth sikh and now that you are. This  is a good way your heading. When you take amrit , you give you head to god , he is god and were his slaves , we follow everything he does but dont think it in a bad way. Once there was this guy and he wanted to take amrit but his parents ddint let him, kinda the same as your problom , and the guy was really depressed and he kept crying everyday because hos parents said no. His eyes would be so red and he would have bumps under his eyes and thats how much he really wanted to be sikh. One day he took amrit and everyday this guy would tell him go around the gurdwara but dont come to the front, because there was a house with partying in it and people were eating cake with eggs in it and where smoking weed. The next day he went to the front because you know, he wanted to know what what was there. He went and that da on her started dancing and parying and smoking weed and eating it. he went the wrong way.one day he guys asked him , did you go around the gurdwara? and the guyd that was smoking said yep and he lied everyday. And when he was about to pass he said thank you maharaj for the one chance i got.

Go ahead and take amrit on vasakhi and just go for it. Tell a sikh in the gurdwara to help you and talk it ut with your parents or jsut walk there. If you really want arit thenw alk as far as you can and that would show you really want it. If your willing to o that then that twlls me that you reslly want it so thats the best choice. There were theese popular people in the gurdwara and they were talking about which basketball player was better. I didnt know anything about it so they asked me and i said i look messi. There like tell me whos the point gaurd then and i was like " bro just forgt about it i dont even now anthing about it. Ya know i just wanted to fir in. hey went to parties and they would be like " Yo you missed out bro you really did " and i be like " bruuhhhh you missed out on kirtan, there was the siickest tunes an voices ever " , YOUU REALLY MISEED OUT. dont go to parties and go to kirtan and santheeya instead

 

 

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