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I have recently found out a very close relative (boy) has been going out with a Muslim girl for a while and he intends to marry her. How should I approach this? 
I can’t believe it as she isn’t even pretty and she’s fat. It doesn’t even make sense as he’s a nice looking typical Punjabi boy who can be shallow. And he’s very protective of you say anything about her. 
 

he comes from a sikh family where his mom is religious and all his extended family too. He was brought up around sikhi but spoilt I guess, put on a pedestal and no fear of elders instilled in him. Still... it doesn’t make sense as she’s not even attractive where it could be lust!!

it effects the whole family, especially when he has kids and expects us to all socialise with her Pakistani family which I can’t see as being easy and nor do I want my kids to do that or think it’s ok to do what he has done.

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I find it sad that the younger generation don’t think of the consequences of their actions. It could be that this boy has mental health issues, looking past the opinion that this Muslim girl isn’t a model so on some level their relationship appears deeper - could he have suffered some trauma and this girl gave him support to fill that hole and now can’t let go?

It could be that he has known her for a long time from being a child and is looking past her religion and looks therefore hasn’t realised what the situation is? 

Maybe he wants to move away from the Sikh-Punjabi life and go to the dark side (sorry!).

If his mother is religious then he must be lying to her about this girl - shows his character there. If he’s coming away from certain elements e.g stop eating pork or no to the contempt young punjabis have for the ‘muzzies’ means slowly he’s being conditioned without realising it. 

When I was younger I was surrounded by young punjabi-Sikhs at college, on my street, in the town centre etc. Everyone knew everyone to a degree and these lads would have reacted with horror and shame for me if I was going out with a Muslim girl. I would have been shunned everywhere! If she would have been extremely pretty then I’d face anger and start a war with the Muslims in the community on the side of the cousin she’d been earmarked for , that I’d ‘raped’ an innocent Muslim girl! 

I suspect this boy is isolated somewhere from the community or will be if it comes out and will then have a choice to make as I don’t think his mother will entertain the notion of a Muslim daughter in law. 

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On 12/30/2020 at 7:28 PM, Guest Simran80 said:

I have recently found out a very close relative (boy) has been going out with a Muslim girl for a while and he intends to marry her. How should I approach this? 
I can’t believe it as she isn’t even pretty and she’s fat. It doesn’t even make sense as he’s a nice looking typical Punjabi boy who can be shallow. And he’s very protective of you say anything about her. 
 

he comes from a sikh family where his mom is religious and all his extended family too. He was brought up around sikhi but spoilt I guess, put on a pedestal and no fear of elders instilled in him. Still... it doesn’t make sense as she’s not even attractive where it could be lust!!

it effects the whole family, especially when he has kids and expects us to all socialise with her Pakistani family which I can’t see as being easy and nor do I want my kids to do that or think it’s ok to do what he has done.

Pack them into a tiniest little  container tight enough to allow them their last rush,  transport them to the nearest ocean on a ship and dump them there!  On second thoughts, best to give them both a good rub down with a sponge and nice smelling shower gel before you dump them in the ocean to prevent the ocean from being polluted with their filth.  ? 

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On 12/30/2020 at 7:28 PM, Guest Simran80 said:

it effects the whole family, especially when he has kids and expects us to all socialise with her Pakistani family which I can’t see as being easy and nor do I want my kids to do that or think it’s ok to do what he has done.

I mean it would be ok if it was a pakistani sikh family, but I see your point....

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There is no solution here that you could say would work in order for this boy to be told that having a relationship with a muslim girl will have issues and its better in the long run if he ends it.

I think both communities would react with horror if either one of them converted to the other's religon to make the relationship work. Is either one prepared to do that? Sounds as if he is prepared to marry her and its them vs the world (like some bollywood movie) then he will be giving up a large portion of his life as you cant live like a muslim AND sikh. The very notion is disgusting to a lot of people.

Here there is a hindu girl married to a white guy. Her family have disowned her for the last 2 years and she weeps on her birthday, diwali etc. as she is alone on those days. She doesnt feel welcome at the Mandir and is now suicidal. Apparently the white family dont have the same "feel" as when she was with her brethren and isnt invited to weddings, engagements, birthdays. She gave up a lot to be with the white man and now is living a life of regret.

I think ask your friend is he prepared to give up his Punjabi -Sikh life for her - forever?  If he says yes then leave him be as he's then made his choice and it will come to ahead when the girl starts making wedding preparations. If he says no to the giving up the life then he is doing a bad thing by stringing her along and depriving one of her cousins of marriage.

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