Equality during Anand Karaj

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On 3/6/2021 at 5:08 PM, puzzled said:

Your aren't a woman though, and if women don't like it then its their problem. 

Like I said, in bani Guru ji describes himself as a Sodhi, his fathers clan. He then describes the genealogy of the Sodhi clan. He doesn't mention his mothers family or genealogy. 

Bani mentions Guru Nanak Dev ji as a member of the Bedi clan, his mothers lineage or clan is not mentioned. Same with Guru Amar Das ji and its the same with Guru Ramdas Ji. 

We as Sikhs then should follow suit and use the same family structure and order. I don't understand what is so difficult about that? That is why its the bride that gets married into the grooms family. That is why Guru Gobind Singh ji said that marry your daughter into a family where Sikhi is practiced.

You can't make it any clearer than that. 

If women have a problem with that then it is their problem. The doors are flung open, no one is telling them to have Anand Karaj or be Sikhs. 

Having read a few of your posts before I am very surprised you take this stance.

If you marry a Gursikh from a Gursikh family you would expect her to all but abandon her family for yours..warts and all? Would you not want your children to spend the majority of their time around her family, in their sangat as opposed to your family?

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On 4/16/2021 at 12:09 AM, Guest lurker said:

Having read a few of your posts before I am very surprised you take this stance.

If you marry a Gursikh from a Gursikh family you would expect her to all but abandon her family for yours..warts and all? Would you not want your children to spend the majority of their time around her family, in their sangat as opposed to your family?

Its not about what my stance is or what anyone's stance is. Our gurus have clearly demonstrated what the family structure and order should be.  

All I said is that the bride gets married into the grooms family and the children take the name of their fathers family, as our gurus have set example.

No where have I said that kids shouldn't interact with their mothers family. In fact Guru Gobind Singh ji learnt shastar vidhiya from his mothers brother.

I myself have always been more close to my mothers family, I don't even know my fathers family that well. But I take my fathers families name, because that's the family I was born into and that's the name I will give my kids.

The bride gets married into the grooms family, and the kids take the fathers name. Just like Guru Gobind Singh ji did and just like Guru Nanak Dev ji did.

Unless you feel the Gurus did it wrong?  

 

 

But as our Gurus have said, in Kalyug, the opposite will start happening. People will cross all moral boundaries and the order/structure of society will fall apart. Our Gurus have said in Kalyug men will forget their parents and start running around after their wives.

So it won't be surprising if in the near future men will take their wife's name, move into their wife's house and kids will take their mother's name.

I'm sure Sikh women are looking forward to the the development of Kalyug. 

 

What we see as progression in society, is actually kalyug spreading its tentacles.