Is It Wrong For A Guy And Girl To Date?

[cute_kaur]

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I just wanted to ask wat other veer ji's and penji's think about 2 sikhs that get along

wel but arnt dating but have that emotional connection.

I have had constent debates about this with one of my mates and he brings it down

to 'within in a jatt family aa guy or a girl should see each other as anything more

than a brother or sister'.

What do others think about sikhs dating one and other?

[Guest Bass Singh]

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I think this has been discussed! Search it!!!

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[doctor_mani]

Whatever the rules are, whats caste to do with anything?

[chandanjit kaur]

Gurfateh

all sikh boys and girls are brothers and sisters :wub: . Unless they are getting married then that is different but other than that its brothers and sisters :wub: . Bhul Chuk Maaf

Gurfateh

[Balwinder Singh]

Then how do we know....that one of them is not "sister"?

[Revolutionary]

Boyfriend/Girlfriend relationships usualy lead to Kaam..

We have to control our Kaam - Both before and after marraige.

Even if its just "emotional bond"..it is just attachment to them.

So there you go.. 2 out of 5 evils already.

[ETCH]

realationships will really wound your sprituality

[cute_kaur]

well truthfully we're gettin more into sikhi together but we jus like help each other on stuff we may not understand but we aint like together or nufin but we just like best mates. but my mate has issues cus i dont call him paji or nuffin.

ehmi he jus jelus he dnt have friends like me.

and im not the one that has issues with castes, i dnt reali care as long as i get on wit the person im kool with them huna..

[Akaal Purakh Di Fauj]

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

To your first question, ofcourse it's wrong.

"Men should look at the opposite sex as mothers, sisters and daughters, (women should look at the opposite sex as fathers, brothers and sons)." (//. 29, Pauri 11, Bhai Gurdas ji)

But the topic title and what you said in your last post seems different. Nevertheless please take the time to read the following:

There is a parsang of Guru Nanak Dev Ji blessing gyan to Emperor Shivnaabh. Upon gaining the grace of Guru Nanak Sahib Ji, the emperor asked Guru Sahib to bless him with gyaan and Guru Sahib at that time mentioned many different virtues which are important and Guru Sahib also told him to stay away from kaam, even in thoughts. Guru Sahib mentioned that there is kaam of 8 kinds, which takes steps and the ‘stages’ increase from one to the next if one fails to control the initial stage. Here is the exact passage from that Sri Guru Nanak Parkash:

First stage is of talking to one another about those of other sex. And the next stage occurs when one starts thinking of such talks by himself and others in his mind. Third stage occurs when one meets those of other sex in person. Fourth is when one touches the other person. Fifth is when s/he looks at others with an urging interest. Sixth is when that person touches the other with having lustful desires. Seventh is when that person constantly keeps on thinking of the other person in his mind. Eighth is when he fulfills the desires of his mind.

As we can see that the first few stages might not seem very objectionable but later on the stages start becoming obvious and if the person does happen to enter any of the final stages I believe that is when the person ruins everything up for himself.

So to save ourselves from such stages it’s important that we stay away from the early ones.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

[cute_kaur]

we just friends.

but dont u think in this day and age u need to get to know someone and before anyone says im questioning sikhi i'm not. just like to know of people opinions