Domestic Abuse

[JustME]

what kind of a parent doesn't feel pain when their child is in pain? :ysad: ah vi koi parent aa :wub:

Parents who care more about Social standing in the community that the health, safety and happiness of their children................................... :mellow:

[lowest of the low singhni]

Situations can be quite different, the common perception is that this domestic abuse only happens in arranged marriages. It can happen in other consented marriages too - people change as time goes on. The person you originally married can turn into someone else over time, and I think when children are involved it gets a lot more complicated for the woman. In our communities there's so much judgement and social stigma surrounding divorce even in these circumstances. The generation above us seems to think that if a family is fragmented (Single parent etc) then the children/offspring will not have been brought up properly. When all this is in a woman's mind, she worries about her children's future (when it comes to looking for marriage-matches etc). I suppose a long-term solution is to ensure that our generation and the generation below us does not grow up thinking abuse can be justified in any way, probably through education of Sikhi. But there will always be people who twist Sikhi and Gurbani to try and justify their own twisted ways. And Women can be really good at hiding the physical/emotional violence if they are depressed or mistakenly think/are told they deserve it.

[Prem]

This is brilliant news that Gurdwaras are doing work to protect women from this. And the mentality of someone who says this:

2nd thing marry a singh AKA paga wala. they wont do stupid things.

Just shows how laughably naive and ignorant some people are. That's why there's a problem.

We need more initiatives like what the Hounslow Gurdwara is doing.